What is the most not ok thing someone has said to you recently?

[BeMintFatball]

Went to see my 91 year old great aunt who I have not seen in person for several years.

Within minutes of arriving aunt told me I look like I have lost weight. I have but only about half a stone not intentionally but also it’s not a drastic amount.

I said I may have lost a bit biting my tongue not to say stress will do that.

Aunt followed up with I thought you had been on the mounjaro jabs. I mean wow! The older generation really shoot from the hip.

What? Your country of origin/birth doesn’t dictate if you are a good or bad person. It’s based on your actions and character. I’m not sure what you meant by your comment.

I know that. I have children and gcs. It's worrying about the world we live in. Stabbings, mental health issues etc.... I couldn't give a fuck about results! I don't blame anyone for not having dcs. And saying anything is crass. What if that person is infertile and had wanted them after all? What if they'd just finished 3 rounds of ivf and it was unsuccessful? People need to keep their noses out of others business and live and let live.

I don’t give a hoot whether people have children or not and would never pass comment or even think anything judgemental.

But my god, I love being a parent. And there’s downs like the worry but there’s so many ups.

My 88 year old mother lives with us and she’s a nightmare for commenting in appearance and judging. Every day she looks me up and down and has to comment on something, put a few pounds on, too skinny, don’t look good in black, hairs curly, hairs straight, hairs long, what is the wording on that top, is that new …..

usually they all come with an opinion

I hate going in to see her as she has to find something. She thinks she’s being helpful / nice, but she’s not! She also thinks I buy new clothes all the time as her memory is shot and I hate clothes shopping!

Getting served in Sainsbury’s and I complimented the cashier on her hair to which she replied you could have it like mine if you didn’t dye it, I replied I meant the style 😂

91yos give no fucks

I’d rather this than my Grandma who tells me how much weight I’ve gained.

As long as that frankness goes both ways.

When I was a groom I had a job in Somerset, iam originally from Yorkshire, however I worked for a very wealthy family, they had 4 incredibly rude obnoxious, precocious children that were 9, 12, 14,15.
The nanny couldn't control them, they used to hit their parents, they were terrible. The 12 year old asked me if everyone from Yorkshire was illiterate!!
He must of heard his parents say that, no way he would even know what it ment.
I replied 'Are you always so rude!"
Ps iam not illiterate!

Visited a friend who used to live nearby and has recently moved about 30miles away. When I was getting up to leave I said ‘text me when you are passing through (our town) and I’ll see if I can rearrange work and we can have a cuppa’. She said ‘I don’t go that route (through our town) any more, I’ve no friends left there’.😳

I had a similar experience but in a chemist of all places! Picking up my son’s prescription the pharmacist who I hadn’t seen for a few months exclaimed quite loudly “wow you’ve lost so much weight! You’re too skinny now, was it the jabs?” I was so shocked/embarrassed and said no I did it the old fashioned way. Gym and healthy eating. I was so taken aback even my 11 yr old son asked me afterwards why the pharmacist thought I’d had jabs and what were they.

I went to a hotel spa abroad to book a treatment, the woman at reception looked me up and down and said ‘guess you need a Lympathic massage’. Then smirked at me. Bitch.

I was wheeling my new baby in his pram (it's a long time ago but never forgotten) when a one armed man came up to me and said 'Keep your legs together next time.'
I was so shocked I told two policemen who were standing close by. They laughed and one said, 'Oh he does that all the time.'
I suppose it reflects badly on me, but I spent the drive home wishing I'd told him to take more care of his arm next time.

My 85yo Auntie told me i'd gained weight and asked if i was pregnant again
(following a pretty traumatic second trimester loss a few months ago)
she laughed and said wouldn't it be great if I got pregnant again so easy.
Weird ass generation

At 91 you get to be rude. At least she wasn’t like my mother who pointed at every overweight person and shouted “make way”. She did however have dementia.

"Vote Reform"

I was unaware I looked completely stupid.

To my parents not to me, but I was sooo angry on their behalf...My sister died unexpectedly aged 37. Soon after her funeral (maybe 2 months after she died), one of my parents' friends asked if they were over it yet. No 'How are you, how are you finding dealing with X (there were a lot of admin things for them to deal with).' I know that alot of people struggle to deal with others' grief but that seemed so tactless. Better to say nothing sometimes!

You should have done. That is an absolutely vile thing to say, and the police were out of order not to tell him to pack it in.

At my sister's for a meal just before christmas consisting of supernarket packets of salad/tapas/party snacks etc. I was breastfeeding 5 month old baby who has allergy to dairy so i was also dairy-free. I asked which food was dairy free, as she had put the packets in the bin, and she said "can't you just stop breastfeeding and bottle feed?"

I’m currently 26 (nearly 27) weeks pregnant and my 74 year old aunt saw me in person yesterday for the first time since we found out we were expecting. Greeted me with “hello fatty” and then spent the afternoon telling me I’m huge for this point in my pregnancy, she was “tiny and neat” for all 3 of hers, she was never the size I am even when she was full term for any of her babies, and how I’m carrying all of my weight in my belly.

My fundal height measurements are just under the average projection for my pregnancy and I’m waiting for growth scans because of high blood pressure potentially leading to a small baby 🙃

My dd is a woman in her 30s.

After telling my (counsellor) sister that my pregnancy was not viable she messaged on two separate occasions asking 'how is baby?'
When miscarrying in hospital and planning to send the pregnancy tissue off for testing, the nurse told me they would 'collect baby and take some of baby to send off to the lab'.

Jealousy can make people nasty. Good for you, stand tall and be proud of yourself👏👏👏

Well a senior colleague has made up multiple accusations about me, that are completely rubbish, all because they’re scared of doing something I proposed. Even though it’s easy to prove it’s rubbish they’re senior and no-one cares. So I’m being managed out not to upset them.
Does that count?

Got asked why I’d ‘started dressing like a lesbian’ As I’m not one, there may be subtleties I’m missing, but I didn’t know lesbians had a dress code 🤔 (I had on some navy wide trousers, a striped shirt and a thin jumper, with Adidas trainers!)