What is the most not ok thing someone has said to you recently?

[BeMintFatball]

Went to see my 91 year old great aunt who I have not seen in person for several years.

Within minutes of arriving aunt told me I look like I have lost weight. I have but only about half a stone not intentionally but also it’s not a drastic amount.

I said I may have lost a bit biting my tongue not to say stress will do that.

Aunt followed up with I thought you had been on the mounjaro jabs. I mean wow! The older generation really shoot from the hip.

How mean and hurtful. She sounds thick as mince.

But come to think of it, she also sounds insecure. Maybe her gagging-for-it husband is looking elsewhere ...

Once there was a power cut when i was in the middle of cooking my dinner. My mum just said that i was lucky that i could afford food.

She obviously had problems. That is not a normal thing to say to someone just because they have three children.

You should have said "I'm glad to have the opportunity to thank you in person! Your money is enabling me to live like a rich mobster. I can't imagine having to work - how do you do it? I feel so bad for you!" and then swanned off 🤣

Does she post on Mumsnet? That sounds like a typical MN comment in response to any given situation. OP says their husband is annoying them, first reply is that they are lucky to have a husband because theirs is dead etc etc etc

My nephew recently said he thought I was about the same age as Donald Trump. I'm 55.

Not recent but someone I have known since we were teens commented that my (White/Indian) newborn baby was “quite pretty, for one of them” Some people really should keep their stinking thoughts to themselves

Not me but my grandmother who passed not ling ago.
I visited with my dd, grandmother looked her up and down and with a huge smile on her face asked “do you like your food?”

I’m wondering if we had the same MIL because mine said the same thing to me .
Also when she seen my engagement ring said my ‘Bob’’ was always daft with his money

At our local cafe, we go twice a week, I know the servers' names.

Most recently I went with my toddler son and the server accidentally gave our order to another table. No issues obviously...except when she came over and apologised she said "sorry you just look so alike, I should have looked at the table number".

OK, on the other table was a woman with a similar skin tone to me (probably same mix race combination) and a toddler boy too. BUT the other woman was the GRANDMA of the toddler. Eeek!!!!

Dh says she shouldn't have said we look alike. I'm still cringeing

Shopping for a Halloween costume, told the woman what I wanted and she went and grabbed one… as I took off my coat to try it on she literally went ‘Ah, you’re deceiving. You looked smaller in your coat let me grab a bigger one.’ 🤣🤣

Another time I was 2 weeks post partum trying on a dress for my eldests birthday, the woman said ‘it’ll do for this birthday, then you’ll lose all that weight for next year.’

I honestly don’t think I could continue to work in such an organisation

You could have gone to the police? Is that not hate speech?

A lady I know thought her teen son, upon seeing a larger girl wearing shorts commenting that "Really it isn't about whether you think it looks good but whether other people find it uncomfortable" showed how very thoughtful he was...

Not long after I found out my husband of 33 years was cheating on me I went to stay with my mum for a week. I very nearly came home when she asked me why on earth had I let myself go - I’d put on a stone 🥺

That kind of comment would be unhöflich in Germany as well…

I gave DM a photo of DH and me taken on a recent holiday. I’m very self conscious as not always photogenic but we’d thought this shot was particularly nice. DM said “ I don’t want it. You’re making a silly face.” I’m still really hurt!

What an arse!

In other news: I’ve apparently been telling people that they’ve put on weight… Without even meaning to!

She is not on mumsnet as far as i know.

You should have told them they have an ugly soul, something your baby won’t have.
Probably jealousy. I have a relative who has an English/Indian baby she’s gorgeous I bet your baby is too.

I’m not sure if you’re being serious or not to be honest.

But (in my personal opinion) it’s clearly referring to extermination camps in the 3rd Reich.

edit: just saw that other have responded with similar answers as well.

I didn’t mean to be rude by wondering whether you’re serious or not, I hope I did not offend you.

It’s just one of these topics some people decide to deliberately ignore with fake naïveté, so I wasn’t sure.

Many of the comments on here deserve a smack in the chops, but this is truly, truly vile.

Seriously? How can anyone think that's even remotely funny?
This wasn't at all recent as my DCs are now teens but not long after we adopted them (from overseas) a relative's partner asked in front of the whole family how much it cost to adopt them. I walked out of the room in tears. The relative was heard whispering to her how inappropriate that was.
I feel very very restrained because the partner is older than me and had their son aged about 50. I did not ask when he was born (or at any family event since) either how hard it was to get donor eggs nor what it cost. I am still dying to do so.

@CrapGardener I think you can make an anonymous report to the police. He should be punished for saying something so awful.

As should all the commenters in the examples on here who have said racist things.

I had no idea what it meant either, until a PP explained.

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I don’t see anything wrong with what she said. She’s a very elderly lady, she obviously keeps abreast of current affairs and she was probably just making conversation with you. It’s not a big deal.

Not too recently but my mum and my skinny sister had obviously been talking about my forthcoming second marriage and when talking to my mum about my dress she said laughingly, as if it, or I, was a huge joke, 'Oh, we're dreading seeing you walk down the aisle'.
I was totally blindsided at the time but, oh, how I wish I'd told them to fuck off and not bother coming.