What is the most not ok thing someone has said to you recently?

[BeMintFatball]

Went to see my 91 year old great aunt who I have not seen in person for several years.

Within minutes of arriving aunt told me I look like I have lost weight. I have but only about half a stone not intentionally but also it’s not a drastic amount.

I said I may have lost a bit biting my tongue not to say stress will do that.

Aunt followed up with I thought you had been on the mounjaro jabs. I mean wow! The older generation really shoot from the hip.

I'd assume he was referring to gas chambers, which is horrific if that's what he meant.

Bloody hell! 😧

I had only been seeing my (now) DH when I was invited to his house for tea on Christmas Day. I had already eaten Christmas dinner with my own family so wasn’t very hungry but didn’t want to be rude so just put a few little bits on my plate.

His mum said, very loudly and in front of his entire family “ooh Lassie you don’t eat much for such a big girl”

Deathly silence, I was only 18 and didn’t know how to react.

For the record she was the tiniest woman ever, hardly ate a thing and thought anything more than a size 12 was ‘massive’

I was a size 14

OMFG

OMG

if this is it…. Then my god @CrapGardener you need to report him. Please please

Fuuuuuck. I hope you're ok. I feel sick just reading that, never mind actually hearing someone saying it.

@CrapGardener

you need to report him. Please. This is really serious.

Needed a repeat prescription for the pill but needed an in-person review. Booked in with a random GP who happened to have a slot that day.

Weighed me as per usual, did blood pressure etc. Didn't make any comment at the time but as he was handing over the prescription, said 'You're up a couple of pounds from last time, you might want to think about that. After all, summer is coming,' whilst looking me up and down.

He was an older male GP, who was overweight and had a gut himself! I was so shocked I just took the prescription and left.

I was in a perfectly reasonable weight range for my height as well. I should have complained to the practice manager and I regret now I didn't.

OMG! That is absolutely sickening. Did you report it!?

My nearly 4 year old Great-Niece this morning. Playing 'guess everyone's ages'....

"How old do you think your Mummy is?"
Niece: 36 (not far off, to be fair)
"And Daddy?"
Niece: 30 (a bit under, but ok - he does look young!)
"What about Great-Uncle Linenspots?"
Niece: 50 (he's actually 59)
"And Great-Aunty Linenspots?"
Niece: 97

I'm in my 50s FFS. Do I win?

Out shopping with my newborn (days old) and the girl serving me said 'are you gutted it's another girl' (I already had 3 in tow). I just quite honestly said 'no, should I be?'

And she wasn't the only person that asked that!

My lecturer told me I was brain damaged after I had disclosed that I had dyslexia.. in front a full lecture hall.

I was 14 and my cousin had just had a baby so me and 2 of my friends went to see them both. My aunt looked at the three of us and said “wow, you 2 could be models.” Then she looked at me and said “shame about you”.

I had a recent rather traumatic miscarriage, I was around 9-10 weeks along, I’d had abdominal pains all day and was due to go to the early pregnancy assessment centre the following day but the baby had other plans, they came out in the sack followed by a massive bleed in the toilet and I ended up in hospital by ambulance (with the whole Close where I live watching out their windows).

Reaction from pretty much everyone who knew was to check I was ok, but elderly neighbour said “that can happen if you’re old and fat”.

For context, I’m 40 and size 18!

How my husband didn’t punch him I’ll never know

Young team leader at work: What was it like in the war? I was born in. NINETEEN SIXTY BASTARD ONE!!

Jealous……before I lost weight, I was at a hen night and was asked, do you pay more for your big clothes as there is so much material….since lost 9 stone and kept it off….she is still ugly 😁

Oh. My. G
If this is what I think it's referring to, that is horrendous!
I'd have been stood there mouth flapping open in disbelief.
Did you carry on working there?! I don't think I could be around someone like that.

I'm assuming it's a reference to the 2nd World War and the Holocaust - the showers being gas chambers 😓

I hope the people saying such things, realise that their own children might not be happy to provide companionship for them in their own old age.

Dh and I were walking into the hospital, I was going to an antenatal appointment. We had young son in his buggy. A woman walking past looked us up and down and said " They breed like rabbits". Me and DH are different ethnicities so I presume she didn't like that.

MIL said to me, " your hair looks nice, have you washed it? "

Man at the bus stop was complaining to me how when he goes to sort his benefits out, it's always a big black N* who he has to see! I told him I was married to one and he couldn't get away quick enough.

'I can't believe you're so selfish to let myDHname have a vasectomy, what if he wants more children with someone else when you split up '

Note the when not if. We had another child as planned, he had the vasectomy, we're still together but she's no longer a friend.

my ILs were staying over and my FIL came into the kitchen in his underwear for breakfast, I asked him nicely to please get dressed and he gave me a load of verbal abuse about how dare I tell him what to do 🤬 that I was a nobody from a council estate who was lucky to be accepted into his well off family.

Please report this to HR, your manager's manager and anyone else in the company responsible for hiring and firing - this person needs to be sacked with immediate effect. Comments like this are not acceptable.

A relative said to me “ The hairdressers heart must sink when you walk in - they probably think what on earth will I do with that”

When my second son was a few weeks old, I had him in the sling and my other son aged 18 months, in the pushchair. A man, carrying his own newborn in a sling, with a young child holding his hand, asked me if my baby was a boy or a girl. When I said a boy, he said 'oh how disappointing for you, you must be gutted'. Until that point, it hadn't occurred to me to be anything other than blissfully happy to have two healthy children. I felt so deflated and even now, it makes me cross that some stranger can say something so mean.

“Why are you wearing that silly little hat” I was standing in the queue at a checkout.
i was in the middle of chemotherapy, deathly pale, no eyebrows or eyelashes and not a hair on my head.