Do 99% of men think about someone else while DTD?

[Salsa2026]

Just that really. Lots of people, here and in general say things like, “all men fantasise about other women during sex at the very least sometimes”. And when I say all I really mean the vast majority, as there can always be an exception to everything.

If it’s true I think it’s quite grim tbh and makes me glad I’m not in a relationship. I’d want a man to be all about me 🤣

‘Urrgh’ just means ‘yuk’, and yes that’s just how I personally would feel if a man I was in bed with was think in g of someone else. But that’s just me personally. Expressing my distaste if it happened to me doesn’t mean I judge you for doing it.

You said you fantasise about having sex with them and other things about them.

PM me if you'd rather not say here.

What you are not getting is a man you have been in bed with HAS thought of someone else whilst having sex with you. Same man or someone different WILL be thinking of someone else again, possibly the very next time you have sex. There are a lot of future yuk & urrgh to come in your life. Unless you are going to be celibate you're screwed (pun intended).

Oh sorry I hadn't realised you could speak for every man in the world.
Cool... How did you get that job? Is it well paid?

It would be much more profitable if every man admitted it but 87% don't (they can't even speak for themselves) and surely it's not as well paid as the one you do......reading every man's mind or when you moonlight as believing everything a man tells you woman.

your original post alluded to occasional thoughts - I think most people would agree it wouldn’t be great all the time and if it was needed

Why is it not OK if its all the time?

Not every man's thanks.
Just the ones I have sex with

You are one of those people who thinks that all men must think of someone else during sex.

Oh they don't tell you about every little fantasy that flits through their head. How surprising 🙄

Thank you. I’m not sure that men who find the woman they are sleeping with need to think of someone else!

So you don’t know what men actually think you’re just guessing?

What makes you think that a man who found the woman in bed with him attractive would be thinking about someone else?

Everyone keeps talking about "fleeting thoughts" (or flitting). A fleeting thought is defined as something that lasts a few seconds - a transient, passing notion.

There's a difference between lying there and going "ooh, Chris Hemsworth has big muscles!" and actually fantasising about him.

Because I've talked to them about it and there have been many studies. It's the reason for the 99% in your question. You are wanting us to reinvent the wheel and we can't.

The sky is still blue, snow is still white and Michael Jackson should not have had the keys to Neverland.

Good luck finding the needle in a haystack, just don't miss out on someone great because of it.

Oh he does.
They are just about me and him

Go on... Tell me he's lying ...yawn

Course they are my lovely.

Which studies? Although studies don’t represent everyone in real life.

You are effectively saying that two people can never have sex without fantasising about someone else throughout. To be honest I would rather just be single if that’s the case.

Why do you think you have ultimate authority on this?

Google it.

And you have said this before and I have responded, not everytime, just every man at some point in their sexual history.

Because I am neither smug nor uncharmingly naive.

I googled it

Here's the answer I found

The Statistical Reality
Most modern research suggests that approximately 30% to 50% of men report fantasizing about someone other than their current partner during sex at least occasionally.

• Occasional vs. Constant: For most of that group, it is a fleeting occurrence, not a constant requirement for arousal.

I guess now I'll be told that that the 50-70% are just lying 😁

it obv

and I said it would t be great not ok

The key word is 'reported' and yes obviously not all of them are genuine. I've added a little search in images that says it's actually 98%.

But yeah your other half has never thought about having a threesome, thinks Jessica Chastain is minging and loves your onesie.

Let’s put it another way. If you’re doing something you’re really enjoying, like watching a film, are your thoughts entirely focused on that activity at all times? Mine aren’t. My thoughts flit between things. It doesn’t mean I’m not concentrating or enjoying the thing I’m doing, but I also can’t stop my mind from jumping between things. Sex is the same. I love sex with my DP and I’m crazy about him, but my thoughts don’t remain solely on him constantly throughout. And, to be honest, the longer the session, the more they may wander.

Op won’t like comparison - she doesn’t think they work - no food or films comparisons please