So am at this bbq, there’s a twat here, claims his wife trapped him by getting pregnant ..

[LetsPutThisTwatStraight]

So he’s on one, when he meet his wife he was 27 so not that young, she already has a child, father not interested and not around …

so this idiot man x let’s call him
started a relationship with her
according to him they were just shagging …….

he split up with her as he didn’t want an instant family…..
(how can you split up with someone you claim never to be in a relationship with ?)
yet continued to sleep together …

she got pregnant
they had the child 3 years later had another child
then 3 years later married

yet he treats her like shit
cheats on her non stop
puts her down

he was trying to chat someone up at this party someone half his age
and when he gets rejected
he says men aren’t interested in single mothers
trying to put her down

yet he was when he meet his wife

what should I say to him

hes My dh cousins, husband's brother

Not your circus, not your monkeys. The world is full of unbearable men. Just ignore him.

Ignore him. Have a chat with her.

This. Just avoid. This isn’t something you can solve over a burger.

Sounds more like he trapped her by getting her pregnant.

I’ve already said to him well you were
(interested in a single mum) when you meet your wife

and he replies was I ????
all shocked

and I said well yes you got in a relationship with a single mum, he replies wouldn’t call it a relationship we were just shagging and she trapped me on purpose

Exactly

Anything more than a withering glance would be wasted on this pond scum.

If you admonished a brick, you may have a slightly higher chance to change it's moral compass than this blockheads, but would still look silly arguing with it.

I suppose he's never heard of condoms either?

Did no one ever tell him that shagging could result in pregnancy?

I feel so sorry for her
he’s so disrespectful
to her and she’s lovely
he will say to others hello gorgeous and kiss them right in front of her

I mean even that doenst sit right
surely even that is rude ?

Just ignore him and stay out of his way.
You are not going to shame him or make him change his mind.
Don't start drama and create an atmosphere at a family bbq.

Basically because he got rejected he had to go all neggy

what the heck is that about
i mean I get his had his over inflated ego put out but what the hell

You are at a barbecue where the whole point is to socialise with the people there. Get off mumsnet and go and enjoy yourself.

She presumably has free will to leave him and not have continued sleeping with him and having his children.

Stay out of it, they’ve both chosen their lives.

I do stay out of it as, she knows he’s cheated before as he’s been caught and she chooses to stay

I’ve just sat and seen him try it on with this other person, get rejected then neg her
and at least 4 other men standing around nearby and not one single man says a word …

I need to move out of his vicinity before I rip
stuck on the same table
there’s two very large tables

I’ve come inside for the “loo” aka breathing space

and to try and calm down

yes maybe I just need to calm rather than put him straight
I’m only going to upset myself
but I just need to vent before I explode

Are there any other people at this BBQ? Why are you so focused on this guy?. I would be staying as far away from him as possible and enjoying my day. He's not your problem.

Step away from the situation
Or better still just go home. You don’t need to socialise with these people.
I stepped further and further away from my family because I was sick to death of having to smile nicely at your women that my brother was cheating on
Deeply unpleasant when they were just dating but unbearable when he was married to them with children
We just don’t go anymore

By arguing with him you’re giving him the attention he wants. Don’t feed it. Most of it will be bravado and because he gets a reaction, which you’re giving him.

And she’s an idiot. Sorry but I have little sympathy for these stupid women who choose to stay with these idiots, or maybe she likes the sympathy.

Kill him. Go on. It's a big party, literally everyone has motive and opportunity. Check under the sink, there must be something that will do the job. You need a new patio anyway. 😆

Sympathise with the woman who had the misfortune to ever meet such a man.

Why have you written this like a poem?😀

Atm I’m stuck on a table with him but once we’ve all eatten I’ll be moving,
I'm even a bit disappointed in dh for not saying nothing where I suppose he’s just trying to keep out of it

I know it’s so obvious he’s insecure and negging
so I don’t know why it’s getting to me so much

just him sitting there saying this country is awash with single mohters because men won’t marry them
it’s making my Bp rise
like I swear I can physically feel my actually blood pressure rise

‘Are you really that thick? Did you not know how babies were made?’

Oh, another condom refuser, I have no time for them, worthless Shits that they are,