So am at this bbq, there’s a twat here, claims his wife trapped him by getting pregnant ..

[LetsPutThisTwatStraight]

So he’s on one, when he meet his wife he was 27 so not that young, she already has a child, father not interested and not around …

so this idiot man x let’s call him
started a relationship with her
according to him they were just shagging …….

he split up with her as he didn’t want an instant family…..
(how can you split up with someone you claim never to be in a relationship with ?)
yet continued to sleep together …

she got pregnant
they had the child 3 years later had another child
then 3 years later married

yet he treats her like shit
cheats on her non stop
puts her down

he was trying to chat someone up at this party someone half his age
and when he gets rejected
he says men aren’t interested in single mothers
trying to put her down

yet he was when he meet his wife

what should I say to him

hes My dh cousins, husband's brother

Is this him?

"My wife trapped me into marriage by getting pregnant"

"Oh she made a big mistake there, didn't she? I mean, at some point, she must have thought you were nice. How wrong can you get?"

Because she's ignoring the host, her husband and the other guests to do a spot of Mumsnetting.

I did explain that in my previous post.

Wtf is that ? Where did you even find such a thing? And what were you looking for?

I wonder if he is the controlling father of the OP's baby in another thread?

What a psychopath - that poor woman who likely thought he was the answer to her prayers

Another woman coping with the dangerous 'proper families need men in them, single mothers are bad' nonsense that's put out there

You just deal with each comment as it happens. She trapped me, takes two to tango. Single mother's why not? And it didn't seem to worry you too much. Chatting up another woman, you do know he's married. Stick the boot in every time he opens his mouth.

I bet a few of the attendees are looking at the OP glued to her phone thrashing out long posts and thinking “rude”

I don’t really feel sorry for women that choose this life for themselves tbf.

Too late to the party

but you could say in response to single mother jibes
“well not for much longer birth rate is plummeting which might mean more women are finally wising up to sleeping with men who treat them with contempt - about time don’t you think?

if the women don’t have sex much fewer unwanted by the father babies will be born, because it’s usually the men who abandon their own children hence single “mothers”
win win all round really”

That comment might go over this knuckle draggers head

he split up with her as he didn’t want an instant family…..
(how can you split up with someone you claim never to be in a relationship with ?)
yet continued to sleep together …
she got pregnant
they had the child 3 years later had another child
then 3 years later married
yet he treats her like shit
cheats on her non stop
puts her down

This woman is a parent and she has actively chosen to invite this drama into her life.

He made it very very clear from the outset that he was a twat and yet she cracked on nonetheless.

No sympathy. Aside from for her poor child

Why would they? 😕

“If you didn’t want to get ‘trapped’, Twatface, perhaps you should have had a vasectomy!”

He sounds like an arse, but realistically, he’s nothing to you. You have a very vague connection by marriage and probably won’t see him from one year to the next.

You could create a big scene and make everyone feel uncomfortable. Or you could accept that this is someone you barely know (and don’t want to know) whose main reaction to being “called out” by a virtual stranger is likely to be bewilderment.

Any man that can talk about the mother of his children like that is making themselves look a fool. Everyone will think it even if they don’t say it. So just let him carry on making himself look a complete and utter dick.

The woman already had one child with a twat.

Then got pregnant by another twat even after he showed his true colours.

Then as if that wasn't bad enough, she chose to have another child with him 3 years later, and the Pièce de résistance - she decided to marry him 3 years after that.

There's clearly something she loves about him and their life together.

Imagine how shitty the childhood of these children. All because mum sees being with any man better than no man.

@Oddlyfull, exactly.

No one accidentally gets a woman pregnant twice!! That's called being irresponsible! He could have chosen to use condoms or have a vasectomy (if he didn't want children at all), but he didn't. Contraception isn't just the woman's responsibility, he's also 50% responsible.

He also chose to have a sexual relationship with a woman who already had a child. He didn't have to continue having sex with her, but he did, because he was thinking of his dick. He also didn't need to have a relationship with her, because she became pregnant...he made that choice. He didn't need to marry her, because she'd given birth to his children, again he made that choice.

As the saying goes 'you made your bed, you lay on it'.

As for the woman...she chose to have a child with a twat, who left her pregnant and disappeared. She then met Twat Number 2, and had one child with him, then a second and married him. He disrespects her, flirts with other women in front of her and is generally awful. Yet, she's still there. She could choose to end the marriage, but she hasn't. You can't help someone who isn't helping themselves.

He's an arse. Clearly thinks a lot of himself and is resentful of the choices he made in life. He's an idiot and no matter what you say, he will never see your point of view.

I commend you for wanting to say something. I think generally people are far too keen to let bad behaviour pass without comment. If more people spoke out it might... just might... give these AH pause for thought.

I'm not saying getting involved or trying to change them but just a simple comment to make it clear that how they are behaving is not okay.

Although agree with others you don't want to introduce a negative vibe to a social event. You'd have to word it carefully.

It’s two people who are crap parents, selfish, and self absorbed people. He is just more open about it

So he's a fat, bald, failure. He'll not be pulling again.

Oh he will. Probably another woman who puts aside what’s right for her kids all in the name of having a man. Just like this woman.

Really well said