So am at this bbq, there’s a twat here, claims his wife trapped him by getting pregnant ..

[LetsPutThisTwatStraight]

So he’s on one, when he meet his wife he was 27 so not that young, she already has a child, father not interested and not around …

so this idiot man x let’s call him
started a relationship with her
according to him they were just shagging …….

he split up with her as he didn’t want an instant family…..
(how can you split up with someone you claim never to be in a relationship with ?)
yet continued to sleep together …

she got pregnant
they had the child 3 years later had another child
then 3 years later married

yet he treats her like shit
cheats on her non stop
puts her down

he was trying to chat someone up at this party someone half his age
and when he gets rejected
he says men aren’t interested in single mothers
trying to put her down

yet he was when he meet his wife

what should I say to him

hes My dh cousins, husband's brother

If you need to log on to Mumsnet to ask what you should say to him, just say nothing.

You wouldn't be able to handle his comebacks (without logging on a gain) and you'll make yourself look silly.

As a PP said, it's not your circus or your monkeys.

Think part of his problem is he was good looking as a young person but he’s now fat and going bald and he’s unsuccessful in life as in not achieved anything career wise and skint etc

and that’s made him into a hateful person
he’s very very resentful of people with money

Well I’d have flipped the comments back on him and ask why the hell he thinks any woman would be interested in him - a serial cheater, with a wife and children, who clearly despises women?

Rather than blame his wife for trapping him, perhaps he consider that this suggests a lack of intelligence in understanding the need for birth control and an inability to take personal responsibility which added to the list above makes him a deeply unattractive prospect to any woman his arrogant head thinks he “deserves”.

So your are at a social gathering and preferring to post on mumsnet?
Are you one of those people who are glued to their phone?

Id just look at him disgusted and say 'you are a terrible human being and I don't want to talk to you or being around you anymore' and then walk off. I am in my 'no fucks to give' era and I won't be around people I find morally repugnant if I don't have to.

Yes you are right
thanks for all talking me
down
as if I blow I’m gonna look like the trouble maker
causing rows, because everyone else is more than happy to let him rant on, why do I feel like I have to fight the injustice all the time
it’s not my problem.

Are you pissed OP?

No I need to vent and cool down
and actually this short chat has helped

Yes, the OP is being very rude to the host, her husband and the other guests.

No, maybe that’s my problem
need to breath out, let go and just go and have a big drink and ignore him, imagine he’s on mute or something

Maybe suggest he stops impregnating those women then if he finds them so unpalatable. By his own standards he clearly has no standards.

Because you've drank one too many perhaps?

I don't know, but it's very odd to choose to bring this to Mumsnet and to keep going on about 'I'm gonna blow'.

If you're this easy to annoy, you should just stay away from him.

I would have said, “I doubt this, you’re not a great catch if I’m being honest, sounds like she got the bad end of the deal” and walk away

Has he left a coat unattended anywhere?

I'd be slipping a nice greasy sausage into the inside pocket.

You’re over focused on him. Move and talk to someone else. He’s a loser but he’s too insecure to let the front down and agree you’re right.

Nope couldn't listen to any of that..it would have been 'oh aye (insert name'and ignore.

Why spend so much time talking to him if he's bothering you this much?

Why are you being so hostile to the OP? She's gone to cool down because a disgusting pig is talking rubbish to her. God forbid she looks at her phone for 10 minutes for fear of being rude to a host who allows a vile misogynistic piece of shit rant on about how badly he treats his wife. I wouldn't give a fuck about seeming rude.

Exactly.

Twattish man meets and marries a mug who 'lurves' him.

It's often the same story all over the world and always has been.

No point in getting yourself in a knot over it, unless either of the above happens to be a close loved one.

Oh dial down the dramatics, you're starting to sound like the OP.

Twat at BBQ bangs on - guest moves away and speaks to other guests.

Sorted.

Ugh I hate people like this. Ive met quite a few. Usually men, occasionally a woman. Was his wife actually at the barbie and was he saying it in front of her?

Agree, so rude to the host.

Ignore, change the subject, move on.
Why the need to feed social interaction on mumsnet for half an hour?

I agree with that but you called her rude. How is she being rude? She's pissed off and using MN to vent

Sounds an absolutely crashing bore. I'd tell him as much. Might be an age thing, but I have an ever-decreasing tolerance for self-involved men and their BS.

Who wants to spend their time at a social gathering talking about some dullard's sexual and relationship history?

Teeeeeedious!

I’d be telling my husband to call him out.