Would you leave children overnight at grandma's with lodgers there?

[Luckydog7]

Feeling on the fence. DH and I have been invited to a wedding 2 hours away.

Mum kindly offered to babysit overnight at her house and we accepted without thinking. First time they would be staying over, kids are 8 and 6. 8 year old has special needs but well behaved and no trouble.

DH has expressed concern today and having second thoughts.

While mum and stepdad are perfectly nice. Mum keeps lodgers and both are currently middle aged men we don't know. This is the issue really that there are strangers in the house.

The kids bedroom is on the middle floor of the house with a bathroom shared with the lodgers and mum would be in the master upstairs.

How would you feel about this? There's not really another option for sleeping logistically.

DH is now talking about me going to the wedding alone so he can stay for the kids.

Mums quite sensitive and her likely reaction is to be really offended/downplay any risks. I'm thinking of raising it anyway when we meet next week with the hope that she is understanding of our concern. It's possible for her to come to ours but it's an early wedding so it would be asking even more of her and I know she was pleased to have them over for the first time.

No from me as she's on a different floor.

no not unless your mum shared a room with them and you could trust her to keep an eagle eye on them at all times

How did your mum come about taking in lodgers? Seems an unusual things to do as one gets older. Are they there when you visit? Do they share the kitchen?

Definitely not.

Big fat nope. Can mum stay at your house?

I would be uncomfortable with this, so it's a no from me

No from me too

Nope. Can she stay at your house?

This. She stays at yours, frame it that the kids will have all their toys etc to hand , will be easier for her

Wouldn’t her stay at your house be an option?

God, no.

No ruddy way.

I am normally quite judgmental about precious parents but I definitely wouldn’t take the risk.

DEFINITELY NOT!!! Listen to your gut. Not worth the risk!!

Absolutely not.

No way.

Honestly no. I tend to be quite casual as a parent but this doesn’t seem sensible.

Not a chance.

Absolutely not. Don’t put your kids at risk.

No way.

Absolutely not.

No.

If they stayed in the same room as her on a mattress on the floor, maybe. On a different floor sharing a bathroom with unrelated men- absolutely not.

Nope and am a laid back parent

Probably to have enough money to live? I dont think people have lodgers for the fun but presumably spare rooms, not wanting to/afford to move plus increased cost of living. Plus the market is there.