Hen weekend …guests can’t wear white except bride ….bit silly ?

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We are going to Spain next month for 4 nights for a hen do.
We have been sent a message in the WhatsApp group that no white allowed except bride.
At first I thought she meant no white outfits for the night outfits (which is totally fine ) but she’s said no white at all.
No white vests /trainers /bikinis/cover ups /linen trousers etc etc
Now most of my vests I wear under jackets are white and my trainers are white.
Shes specified no white at all
So I’m gonna have to rethink loads of outfits as a lot of skirts for day time match with a white vest.
My linen trousers for pool days are also white etc
Do you think this is a bit ott?
I mean trainers …I only own white trainers 🙈

Standard practice, except the trainers. Most trainers are white!

If she's that much if an entitled twat then her marriage isn't likely to last very long.

If tell her she's being utterly bridezilla and that none of you are prepared to buy new clothes after forking out for her vanity trip

What’s WRONG with people?

She sounds absolutely pea-brained!

I hope you get a bit of a suntan at least, OP. You deserve some compensation for putting up with all this nonsense.

Completely OTT! The bride sounds insufferable! What is she going to do if you do, God forbid, turn up in a pair of white trainers? Is she going to ban you from the holiday? Make you stay in the hotel room for the whole time because you broke her ridiculous rule??

It's when I see posts like this that I thank my lucky stars I'm of an older generation and scenarios like this just wouldn't have happened when I was attending hen parties. The bride was generally just happy that her friends and loved ones were celebrating with her. There were no bizarre rules that had to be adhered to.

Sounds ridiculous, especially no white shoes!

Normal. Just wear any colour other than white x

I have never owned any white trainers either. Mine are either black, grey or blue, and my sandals are black or blue. I don't wear trainers when it is hot.

Normal??

I'm glad I don't live in your strange world.

It’s bonkers… but I find it more strange that you only own white trainers and wouldn’t have any other colour shoe! But maybe I missed the point 🤣

I did in the 90s /00s. But in the last decade have found other colours to be more fashionable and practical. I own black, navy, pink, red and yellow! No white 🤣

OTT. I would adhere to the clothes but white trainers would be worn.

I really hate that it seems to be a thing that other people can dictate what people wear. I really couldn't be bothered to follow such a stupid rule, as an adult I wear what I want.

I'd be happy to go to a hen do in Spain and I wouldn't mind at all following rules that are either logical or fun, but this is neither. It sounds like she has misunderstood the "rule" about not wearing white TO THE WEDDING / reception (whenever the bride is wearing her wedding dress, even though that may easily not be white these days). I suppose if asked I'd avoid white when I had a choice, but I wouldn't buy a new pair of trainers or wear other shoes when I prefer, and would normally wear, trainers. If the rule-maker said anything about it, I'd tell her she's welcome to take me shopping for new trainers as they aren't in my budget this month. Ditto the linen pants, if they're the only suitable ones you have.

This is ridiculously OTT I’d be mortified telling my pals they can’t wear an ounce of white on the trip!

It's a Hen Do, not the wedding day!. This is off the scale of unreasonable behaviour. You have a choice, depending on your relationship with the bride and how important it is to you. Either, suck it up, cover up in a Burqa, dress head to toe in black etc., or send a message that says - my holiday wardrobe is largely white. I cannot afford to replace it and also come on the hen do. Please advise which you prefer l do.

Oh I am LOVING this thread! 😂 I'm SO glad I'm 53 and don't have to bother with any of this shite. All my friends have married decades ago now, when things were sane and you didn't ask your friends to spend ££££s on holiday-length hen nights or control their dressing or tell them they couldn't lose more weight than the bride ...

Jesus. I would bin the entire thing if I hadn't sunk all that money in it. Wear the bloody trainers, please don't buy new things to appease this control freak. It isn't normal social behaviour and shouldn't ever be indulged, then the freaks would start backtracking and we might regain some sanity.

Hahaha.When did all this nonsense start? There's absolutely no way I'd be going away with anyone who tried to tell me what I can and can't wear. What's the actual purpose to this? How will what people are wearing affect the bride?

I think it’s fine and very normal tbh. Maybe the no white trainers is a bit OTT but otherwise fine. Mumsnet is a bit skewed OP in the sense that a lot of mumsnetters hate hen dos and if they absolutely have to be done then the bride to be should be happy with a couple of pints down the local pub to make it easy and cheap for everyone and not draw attention to herself

You think it's "very normal" to forbid your so-called friends from wearing a slither of white at any point on a 4-day holiday lest they disturb the aesthetic of your tiktok videos? With respect, I think you might be the one living in a distorted bubble if so.

Imagine having people who cared about you enough to give up their time and money to come on an extended trip with you to celebrate your forthcoming wedding... And then kicking off about the colour of their clothes and shoes.

Well it is hard of you insist on making up pointless rules controlling what people wear and.... Printing out baby photos to put up Inna bar in an airport and reserving tables there....

I would not be changing my wardrobe for another person. I hate things like this. I could not be friends with anyone who behaved this way. It’s exhausting. It reminds me of watching young kids role play “I’m the princess so you all have to do what I say…..”

It's normal to go on holiday and tell people they can't wear a particular colour of clothing?

Do you make your family do things like that?

No white trainers or vest tops is pathetic.

Just message back the group chat - sorry no can do - can’t buy a new wardrobe just to comply with this. Will be wearing my usual holiday clothes, including white outfits.

Standard since when? Is this the generation that are finding it so hard to get on the housing ladder, for whom the COL impacts the most etc etc?
Yet willing to replace perfectly good clothes because they are the 'wrong' colour.