Dh woke me up to stop me snoring, he's got the whole day to himself

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We're on holiday in the UK just now, our DC (young adults and a mid teen) and the young adults partners.
Dh and I are in a bedroom with two single beds. I must have been snoring and he couldn't reach over to shake me as he'd usually do. He loudly clapped, two different occasions and then shouted out my name. All three times woke me and I've given up now and gotten up.
I'm peri menopausal, I don't sleep well most of the time and when I'm properly awake that's it.
Today everyone (apart from him) is visiting an attraction that we've had booked for months. Everyone is looking forward to it. He's not coming and is staying at the holiday cottage on his own. He enjoys long lies and naps on most days he's not working. He'll certainly be going back to bed today once he's taken some of us to the train station (we brought two cars).
I'm so annoyed I'm up at this hour, facing a full day and he's having a day to himself on a full night's rest.

I would have gone back in there and clapped next to his ears. What's good for the goose, and all that.

I'm surprised not everyone is on team DH here.

I mean given the very high amount of MNetters who claim to have Misophonia.

I’ve been close to murdering my DH for his snoring. It’s like torture!! You both need to go to the doctors.

@LittleSpeckleFrog Why won’t your DH get medical help for his snoring? Why doesn’t he care about the impact of it on you? Can you book different accommodation where you can have a separate bedroom from him? Time for some patio building I think.

You are being selfish. He needs and deserves a good night's sleep just as much as you do. There are things you can do about snoring. You need to look into them. You can't just ignore the problem because you're happy sleeping. It is not fair.

This.

Totally agree!

Spare rooms and sofas are for the snorer not for the other person

And here you are, repetitively posting. Calm down Hon.

I'm missing the point here but why does 'peri menopausal' have to be mentioned in every fucking post here these days? If you snore, chances are you are overweight.

I’m with your DH, you need to address your snoring. You could have sleep apnea which isn’t great for you and needs fixing.
My husband has it, diagnosed by going to his GP and getting referred to a sleep clinic, he now has a apnea machine that stops the snoring.
He finally did this after a family holiday ended up with him having to sleep on the balcony because his snoring was keeping me and DC up all night.

Personally I think it is to sway the replies.

Similar to a long thread, and then when the replies are not going the way the OP wishes, the "I am autistic" /"I have ADHD" etc. gets thrown in.

The OP has also said that she is indeed overweight due to medication she is slowly coming off of.

The only time in my life that I've truly felt like murdering someone was on yet another night lying awake listening to my ex snoring. I think it helped make me decide on divorce, not ideal but better than murder.

Not sure to the level you are hun.

Arguing with the vast majority, maybe you need a good nights sleep hun?

Did you miss why he woke her - he'd been woken by her snoring!

What was he supposed to do if there was nowhere else to sleep?

OP i feel your pain as I'm also a snorer, and I do get cross when woken, but I can't blame DH for doing it if shaking/poking me hasn't worked.

I still snored when I was a skinny size 10 (no longer). Weight has made no difference. Its not always the cause.

Lying there listening to someone snore is torture. It got so bad I had to tell my husband either you go to the dr or youve to sleep somewhere else. Turns out he has sleep apnea and one cpap machine later and I finally no longer want to commit murder

Oh, it's because I don't agree with you that's the problem for you? Gotcha.

Same here.

I think the fact that you are out looking after the kids and he is lying have a cozy doze must be annoying.

Earplugs worked for me.. DH's snoring was horrible., reallly bad.. but I slept better after a month of giving up alc. It still annoys me sometimes, but is not as bad. Can you have a plan for when its really bad and you just want to sleep, ie moving to a pull out bed or sending him to one.

I'd also be very annoyed that he's not doing anything about it.. ie seeing gp.. and wearing smart watch.. there are apps you can get to monitor your sleep/snores. I once recorded his snoring when it was really bad and played it back to him to wake him up.Evil I know. but I was desperate.

It's also mean to keep someone awake by snoring. How the hell is clapping abusive? I'm sorry but I'm not feeling any sympathy for people who snore today. I know my DH has sleep apnea but he hates using his sleep machine so doesn't. He says because he has sleep apnea he isn't sleeping properly either (which I know is true) but I'm still pissed off.

I had some really noisy birds outside my window really early this morning.

So I went to the window and clapped to scare them off.

I think that pp might report me for animal abuse if they had the chance....

I know my DH has sleep apnea but he hates using his sleep machine so doesn't

@Stressedoutmummyof3 He is being very foolish. I hope he doesn't drive.
We still don't know to this day whether the stroke casued DH's sleep apnoea or the sleep apnoea caused his stroke.

Either way if a medical professional thinks someone needs a CPAP machine then they need to use it. Perhaps notifying the DVLA about the sleep apnoea (if her drives) might give him the wake up call he needs. He just has to suck it up like a grown up I'm afraid.

Wrll.your dh was a dick considering he had all.day to sleep
I snore when I hit menopause. Theres nothing I can do. I use nose strips, mouth guard, spray, trying to lose weight.
I talked to dh after he kept waking me as it filled me with rage.
I understand his frustration as he snores and I didn't sleep for years due to his snorning.
Iv brought everyone sleep earplugs and face masks that make white noise for holidays

Gotcha 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yeah I surrender, you’re deffo right 😉!