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Dh woke me up to stop me snoring, he's got the whole day to himself

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Dragonhugs · 15/04/2026 04:51

We're on holiday in the UK just now, our DC (young adults and a mid teen) and the young adults partners.
Dh and I are in a bedroom with two single beds. I must have been snoring and he couldn't reach over to shake me as he'd usually do. He loudly clapped, two different occasions and then shouted out my name. All three times woke me and I've given up now and gotten up.
I'm peri menopausal, I don't sleep well most of the time and when I'm properly awake that's it.
Today everyone (apart from him) is visiting an attraction that we've had booked for months. Everyone is looking forward to it. He's not coming and is staying at the holiday cottage on his own. He enjoys long lies and naps on most days he's not working. He'll certainly be going back to bed today once he's taken some of us to the train station (we brought two cars).
I'm so annoyed I'm up at this hour, facing a full day and he's having a day to himself on a full night's rest.

OP posts:
Nickyknackered · 15/04/2026 04:58

Team DH here. I am woken up most nights at the moment with DH snoring (he doesn't normally) and it drives me mad! Hence me being awake now... he's stopped but i'm wide awake!

Candy24 · 15/04/2026 04:59

Hugs

Contrarymary30 · 15/04/2026 05:09

Dragonhugs · 15/04/2026 04:51

We're on holiday in the UK just now, our DC (young adults and a mid teen) and the young adults partners.
Dh and I are in a bedroom with two single beds. I must have been snoring and he couldn't reach over to shake me as he'd usually do. He loudly clapped, two different occasions and then shouted out my name. All three times woke me and I've given up now and gotten up.
I'm peri menopausal, I don't sleep well most of the time and when I'm properly awake that's it.
Today everyone (apart from him) is visiting an attraction that we've had booked for months. Everyone is looking forward to it. He's not coming and is staying at the holiday cottage on his own. He enjoys long lies and naps on most days he's not working. He'll certainly be going back to bed today once he's taken some of us to the train station (we brought two cars).
I'm so annoyed I'm up at this hour, facing a full day and he's having a day to himself on a full night's rest.

He hasn't had a full nights rest if he's been woken by you snoring . Maybe a trip to the GP as there are lots of causes of excessive snoring .

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Original poster
Dragonhugs · 15/04/2026 05:13

He's certainly had more rest than me as I'm sitting wide awake and I can hear him snoring in the bedroom.
We both snore, I don't mind and can usually ignore it. He can't and wakes me up with his attempts to stop me.

OP posts:
MinnieMountain · 15/04/2026 05:16

I'd be annoyed too OP, given what you've got planned.

I presume from your posts that you don't have a spare room at home?

showmethegin · 15/04/2026 05:16

Trying to sleep while someone sporadically snores next to you is like water torture. Everytime you feel like you’re dropping off to be woken by a sudden snore etc. yes it’s probably not the most considerate to wake you but I can see why he did it. Are you seeking help with the snoring?

mathanxiety · 15/04/2026 05:17

Get your snoring problem sorted out.

It's selfish to think you should be allowed to just get on with it night after night, depriving someone else of sleep.

Whatatodo79 · 15/04/2026 05:17

Get him some ear plugs whilst you're out today

minipie · 15/04/2026 05:17

Sorry but also team DH - trying to sleep through snoring is soul destroying even if logically you can nap the next day, the point is he’s tired now! The only time I wouldn’t wake snoring DH is if he’s ill and really needs the sleep to get better.

The fact you can ignore it doesn’t mean he should be able to, some people are lighter sleepers.

If you both snore maybe time to see a GP about it ?

mathanxiety · 15/04/2026 05:19

Dragonhugs · 15/04/2026 05:13

He's certainly had more rest than me as I'm sitting wide awake and I can hear him snoring in the bedroom.
We both snore, I don't mind and can usually ignore it. He can't and wakes me up with his attempts to stop me.

Then you both need to get your problems sorted.

Just because you don't mind his snoring doesn't mean he can suddenly not mind yours.

You are causing him.a problem - waking him up at night is very inconsiderate.

PARunnerGirl · 15/04/2026 05:21

I’m with your DH too, sorry.

You know you snore and that you regularly disrupt your partners sleep (e.g. he usually shakes you to wake you). He snores too but it doesn’t disrupt you as much (e.g. I don’t mind and can ignore it).

It’s difficult on holiday if you can’t easily get up and go elsewhere immediately upon the first time he wakes you up, but if there is a couch this might have been best in hindsight.

It’s not unreasonable to feel annoyed and tired today 😔 But if you know this is a point of annoyance between you then you should take steps to see if you can alleviate it.

Lots of good info on the nhs website, and if you think none of the factors apply to you, then a GP may be able to help with allergy tests. This is the route my partner went down although in the end it was losing some weight that really helped.

awfulapril · 15/04/2026 05:22

Agree with ear plugs etc

minipie · 15/04/2026 05:23

I use ear plugs - they filter out the quieter snores but they don’t block the louder ones

PurplePantsofPower · 15/04/2026 05:27

Logically, totally on your side and you have my sympathy. In reality though I would be your dh as I find snoring intolerable and I get so riled up and frustrated that I might well have done the same... Sorry OP I hope it doesn't affect your day too much.

Gallien · 15/04/2026 05:28

He's really, really mean. I think it borders on abusive to wake someone repeatedly in that way. He can sleep all day if he needs to. Cheeky git.

Gallien · 15/04/2026 05:29

For those saying team DH, he snores too and doesn't get this nasty treatment.

Riapia · 15/04/2026 05:29

Those who are unable to sleep must wake up those who are sleeping.
It’s the law.

minipie · 15/04/2026 05:32

Gallien · 15/04/2026 05:29

For those saying team DH, he snores too and doesn't get this nasty treatment.

Because OP can sleep through it, not because she is a saint who lies there awake but lets him carry on snoring anyway.

Clara27 · 15/04/2026 05:36

Some harsh replies here op. You both snore but he’s getting sympathy?? 🤷‍♀️
He’s a selfish knob! And you’re very considerate not to pay him back in kind. I hope he appreciates that you haven’t played him at his own game. Hope you enjoy your day

AnotherDayanotherNameChangeX · 15/04/2026 05:39

He’s snoring too? Off you go to clap and scream his name!

Highlighta · 15/04/2026 05:41

You need to get to the route of the snoring.

Him snoring doesn't bother you, but obviously you snoring really bothers him.
I am with your DH here. Sorry.

Basically you are saying that your sleep is more important because you have something planned for today? And if he was going, would that have made a difference?

user1492757084 · 15/04/2026 05:41

He was mean.
Don't sleep in the same room. DH should have removed himself and slept in the living room, soundly, until he could sleep all day in the bedroom.

Highlighta · 15/04/2026 05:43

Gallien · 15/04/2026 05:28

He's really, really mean. I think it borders on abusive to wake someone repeatedly in that way. He can sleep all day if he needs to. Cheeky git.

Don't be ridiculous.

Waking someone up because they are interrupting your sleep is now abusive?

BoogieTownTop · 15/04/2026 05:48

Gallien · 15/04/2026 05:28

He's really, really mean. I think it borders on abusive to wake someone repeatedly in that way. He can sleep all day if he needs to. Cheeky git.

What would you suggest he does at 2am, then 3am and then 4am when he’s woken up?

Just lie there listening to the snoring?

Its surely abusive OP waking him up snoring repeatedly and not addressing the issue.

Also saying he’s borderline abusive, really negates real abuse.

HelmholtzWatson · 15/04/2026 05:49

Gallien · 15/04/2026 05:29

For those saying team DH, he snores too and doesn't get this nasty treatment.

What "nasty treatment"? Catching up on sleep when someone has woken up several times in the night is not "nasty", it's fairly normal.