Dh woke me up to stop me snoring, he's got the whole day to himself

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We're on holiday in the UK just now, our DC (young adults and a mid teen) and the young adults partners.
Dh and I are in a bedroom with two single beds. I must have been snoring and he couldn't reach over to shake me as he'd usually do. He loudly clapped, two different occasions and then shouted out my name. All three times woke me and I've given up now and gotten up.
I'm peri menopausal, I don't sleep well most of the time and when I'm properly awake that's it.
Today everyone (apart from him) is visiting an attraction that we've had booked for months. Everyone is looking forward to it. He's not coming and is staying at the holiday cottage on his own. He enjoys long lies and naps on most days he's not working. He'll certainly be going back to bed today once he's taken some of us to the train station (we brought two cars).
I'm so annoyed I'm up at this hour, facing a full day and he's having a day to himself on a full night's rest.

Oh give it a rest.

The question is for OP, not you.

OP will know if he woke her up so that she is tired and will impact her enjoyment of the day.

You’ve no idea what it is like lying next to someone who snores. It is soul destroying. I have to wear ear plugs every night just to try and get some sleep.

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Absolutely ridiculous. Someone always finds a way to blame a man. 🙄

He didn't make the OP snore.

It’s Op that needs a rest from her dickhead H.

RTFT.

If my DH is snoring, he gets woken up.

Yes, she does, because her DH snores.

He has just got used to her tolerating it.

Is my moaning disturbing you? Feel free to pass on this thread then.
I'm allowed to post what I like, just as you are allowed to ignore something you don't want to read.

You have trouble understanding so bright and early? Wow.

Note the time I posted, I’d been lying awake hours already by then due to the snorer beside me! I can still have compassion and I think a lot of the replies are biased towards the poor man who needs his full nights sleep 🥲 They both snore!! and he knew the op (who has disabilities) had a day planned. He could have used a gentler approach. I certainly wouldn’t start clapping and shouting to stop my husbands snoring, that was selfish.

I think your DH was though less and understand why you are annoyed. However at this point, the emotional energy you are using up, will not be helping. Try some breathing meditation to calm yourself. I hope the day is as good as it can be. Let hom know he will be cooking dinner tonight/ giving you time to recover tomorrow. And buy some ear plugs if you pass somewhere that sells them.

Sorry but I can understand your DH. I snore until I lost significant amount of weight and we ended up sleeping in two bedrooms and booking villas with separate rooms.

DH snores as well but less than I did and while I could ignore it/fall back to sleep, he can't. It doesn't matter if he has time for a nap or not, you have to come up with a solution.

Honestly OP, you are sounding ridiculous.

We have all had broken nights sleep, whether it is due to babies, ill children, being ill ourselves, nightmares,,,the list is endless.

And most manage to carry on the next day, usually working, driving and just being functioning adults.

Are you going to be this "woe is me" the whole day today?

I feel for you OP. Everyone saying it's not OK for DH to be woken up seem to think it's perfectly fine for him to wake you.

His sleep is more important apparently.

I'd be seriously tempted to go in there now and clap him awake. Repeat as necessary until dawn.

This. We both snore too.

Can you push your beds together so he can reach you to shake you? You don't seem to like him much though, maybe your turn on the sofa tonight and his turn tomorrow.

I wouldn’t dream of waking someone up from sleeping, especially my loved ones! It’s not like someone is snoring on purpose for goodness sake. You’ve had children, I’m pretty certain you’ve had far more sleepless/busy nights than he has over the years they were young…but he still chooses to be this selfish.

Also - clapping and loudly calling your name, these would both ‘startle’ me awake and I’d be utterly incapable of getting back to sleep as gone in to alert. He could have gotten out of his bed in the same room as you and shaken you gently, he chose not to.

It doesn't matter what's happening today. You were keeping him awake, you just don't know how frustrating that is and sounds like you'll have had more rest than him. If you're keeping him awake, say tomorrow night, what's he meant to do - maybe switch on the light and read instead.

That’s the point, he is doing nothing the next day, just lying around.

He could have appreciated all the times OP tolerated his snoring and repaid the favour by not waking her up ahead of a nice day out she had planned.

My DH snores and it drives me ROUND THE BEND, honestly nothing enrages me like it when I'm exhausted in the middle of the night and cannot get any rest because there's someone trumpeting away next to me. So I'm afraid I am team DH too.

She does know what it’s like living with a snorer, because he snores too.

I'd have woken you up too and would make sure there are seperate rooms available on the next holiday.

Oh no, whatever next - rustling his newspaper at the breakfast table, making you a cup of tea instead of coffee. Poor thing, you must be traumatised.

Lying awake listening to someone snore is miserable. There are things that can be done to help, why haven't you sought help? It would improve your sleep too.