Dh woke me up to stop me snoring, he's got the whole day to himself

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We're on holiday in the UK just now, our DC (young adults and a mid teen) and the young adults partners.
Dh and I are in a bedroom with two single beds. I must have been snoring and he couldn't reach over to shake me as he'd usually do. He loudly clapped, two different occasions and then shouted out my name. All three times woke me and I've given up now and gotten up.
I'm peri menopausal, I don't sleep well most of the time and when I'm properly awake that's it.
Today everyone (apart from him) is visiting an attraction that we've had booked for months. Everyone is looking forward to it. He's not coming and is staying at the holiday cottage on his own. He enjoys long lies and naps on most days he's not working. He'll certainly be going back to bed today once he's taken some of us to the train station (we brought two cars).
I'm so annoyed I'm up at this hour, facing a full day and he's having a day to himself on a full night's rest.

God, this. Me and three of my mates all sleep in separate rooms from our husbands now as a long term strategy (all happy marriages tho) literally only because of the snoring.

OP meant kindly its literal torture to have a snorer waking you up nightly. Its horrific. Likely hes also sleeping in the day a lot more these days because he cant sleep properly at nught.

Its v entitled to think hes the one with the problem if you expect him to just silently lie awake every night listening to you snore. I think you need to look into why youre snoring so much.

Stop being a martyr. You must drive your husband mad between the snoring and your martyr attitude. Stay home and rest if you’re feeling that bad.

Op my dh snores most nights and it’s fucking horrendous! You need to address the snoring because it’s not fair to deprive someone of sleep even if it’s clearly unintentional

Aside from the snoring, why isn’t he coming on your family day out?

This. I wake my dh up every time he snores regardless of the plans although after the second time I’ll huffily go to the sofa. I love him but gods snoring makes me murderous.

But op is repeatedly waking her DH with her snoring and is indignant about it!

You know you (both) snore and he can't sleep through it. Get to the GP to sort it out. Sleeping -or lying awake for hours every night next to a snorer is absolute hell.

DH snores and I kick him out to the spare room most nights. He has no issue with this because he feels bad that he disturbs my sleep. He could sleep through a bomb going off. Sorry OP I'm with your DH on this one. It's torture having to listen to that sound at night, regardless of being able to have an easy day following. Napping in the day is no substitute for proper restful sleep at night.

....especially if he has to drive people to the station. I'm woken nightly by snoring and agree with the husband. OP needs to get it sorted! The person snoring isn't benefitting from restful sleep, either.

He sounds like an utter prick.

Can you have separate bedrooms in future, both at home and on holiday?

I would refuse to share a room with the selfish snoring hypocrite ever again.

He’s been really selfish. Firstly for not getting ear plugs and ear protectors so he can sleep. Secondly for waking you when he can nap all day but you have the kids all day.

I’m very noise sensitive and go to bed earlier than most people. I’ve got myself noise cancelling techniques so I can sleep. I don’t demand everyone else accommodates me.

There’s probably nothing you can do about the snoring. He can do something about being able to hear the snoring.

But it seems, like many on this thread, he’s rather be outraged and wake you up, then take help himself.

Tickets are booked and have been for months. I'm not cancelling on my DC and their partners because I'm tired but yes, I'm annoyed I'm tired.
We've spent so much time and money planning today, we (apart from dh) are really looking forward to it.
@Bernadinetta dh doesn't want to go. He'd enjoy it if he came and I'd love for him to join us but he's not interested so staying here.

OP should clap him awake next he snores.

He has got used to OP tolerating his snoring and needs a rude awakening.

It would drive me crazy not too be able to sleep so I’m team DH.

OP, I bet he’s done this deliberately. Has he done similar things to ruin a day out?

I agree. My husband snores and it makes me want to scream. We sleep in separate rooms now apart from on holiday.

I hate it when dh snores / im just drifting off and it wakes me up again and then I take ages to go back to sleep.
Youll be fine on a couple of hours sleep once you’re out. You’re not doing an exam or in work! Just make sure you’re the one getting the lift and not driving.

And get some help for the snoring.

Why didn’t you move then after the first or second time of being woken up so you could both they sleep?
it’s unreasonable to expect someone to lose their sleep because of your snoring, great if you can sleep through his snoring but he obviously can’t sleep through yours
sorry you’re tired, maybe you’ll feel a little more reasonable about it once you’ve had some better sleep

He hasn’t “had a full nights rest” because you were snoring. It’s like torture listening to that when you are desperate for sleep.

I think OP should wake him up every time he snores too. He’ll be fine going to work with a couple of hours of rest.

Maybe you should both wear earplugs?

Bless you "facing a full day" 😆. Do you not normally "face a full day"?! Have a coffee and get on with it. You're on holiday too so presumably it's a full day of something low stress not a full day of caring for small children or doing brain surgery?

What a picture it is to imagine the pair of you snoring away at each other. 🥴 I think both of you need to sort your snoring. Could it be weight, drinking the night before, sleep position?

We're both driving to the train station as there's so many of us. He's dropping off and driving back to the cottage, I'm parking at the station. He'll come and pick a couple of the DC up when we get back to the station.

How did he get OP to snore? She doesn’t snore every night so, it wasn’t guaranteed.

He got OP to snore? Wow.