Would paramedics refer me to social services if they didnt ask me anything

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Flat is very messy as husband is extremely poorly. Kitchen has dirty dishes. I am doing it on my own and baby is a velcro 9 month old and breastfeeds on demand. Typing this while he is suckling from me. Husband is so poorly he keeps vomitting into a baby potty (obviously never been used by baby, i just got it in advance)

He called the ambulance v early in the morning. He is sleeping in the spare room which has the baby changing table, baby wardrobe and a playmat with toys on the floor (noticed after paramedics left there was a cable on the floor). Honestly baby moves v slowly and i am usually with baby so will carry him off when he touches anything he shouldnt. He cosleeps with me in the master bedroom and the cot is full of clean clothes ( i put away some when i get a moment). Baby has never slept in it as he cosleeps (of course the ambulance staff dont know that but i think they saw it while standing in hallway).

They took husband away in ambulance, he honestly wasnt very lucid and kept saying he has a learning disability which means he cant reach his GP so no records of thr GP appointment. Truth is he has private health insurance so usually goes for private medical care do a & e staff can't see any records. He doesnt have a learning disability but has been diagnosed with adhd and he got a private antibiotics prescription yesterday.

They took my husband and left me with baby. No questions asked about baby but they did see baby as i was carrying him while talking to them.

Is he showing any signs of improvement, op?

Why are you jealous of other people using a service as it's supposed to be used? People sometimes need ambulances. Get over it!

You don't understand the state of the system. They tell you to go to a&e often. During lockdown I rang the emergency dental line for an infected gum and they wouldn't prescribe me any antibiotics and told me to go to a&E. The other health professionals don't care who they send, they'll pile them all in.

Why would I be jealous? 😂I could have phoned one myself. I am not jealous of an ambulance ride 😂😂😭

The reason the NHS is struggling so much is partly because people who don't need them are calling them 🤷🏼‍♀️.

You honestly would call an ambulance for a vomiting bug? 😬

I am aware of sepsis symptoms considering a close friend had it. The OP said her husband had D&V 🤷🏼‍♀️. She didn't mention any of the above symptoms unless somewhere else in the thread I've missed.

I go in and out of people's homes for my job and honestly more often than not average people's houses are quite messy. I guess because you never see that sort of thing on tv everyone assumes everyone lives in lovely tidy homes and feels shame about their own. They come into homes when people are at their worst constantly. It's fine OP.

Nobody can guess whether ambulance staff have referred you to social work or not. We weren’t there during their visit. My advice would be to give the house a clean and tidy when you can. If social workers do visit then they will see improvements and you can explain that you had let things slip due to your husband being unwell and caring for him and baby. That seems more than reasonable. If they are satisfied after the visit it is unlikely you will hear from them again unless they have other concerns. However, if you are struggling just be upfront and honest. Or speak to babies health visitor.

I did clean and got a cleaner for tomorrow.

Then I honestly don’t think you need to worry about anything . I know you will be feeling anxious (and this thread might be adding to that). Try to relax and hopefully nothing will come of it.

Like I said in my previous post, paramedics will take absolutely no notice of how messy your house is and will not call social services over something that is of no concern to them.
Please do not worry about this. It appears you have enough to contend with already at present.
Your child is clearly being well looked after, and its very common for some babies to need the comfort and security of mums breast more than others.

Update- its measles.

I think he must have gotten it from my son as we did notice a slight rash but it disappeared v quickly. I am vaccinated as had MMR as a child and later as a 19 year old as a condition of my student visa. DH's mum didnt believe in MMR.

Wonder if they would test your dc for antibodies to determine that he had had it. Hope dh recovers quickly,

OH the poor man. My friends husband had mumps as an adult was very ill. I'm glad that he has a diagnosis now.

I wonder if all the people saying your DH is a hypochondriac/shouldn't have called an ambulance/has nothing wrong with him etc etc. will have the courtesy to come back and apologise now he has been diagnosed with a serious illness ?
Probably not.

I hope your DH recovers well OP, best wishes to you both.

Poor bloke. Hope he gets well soon.

Thank you.

yeah so apparently I get a yearly mammogram because of the history. But refused genetic testing. Even though one of my family’s drs told me me and my children needed gene tic testing.

I work with HART a lot! Now they have some stories with hazmat suits!

Measles is a communicable disease so must be reported as I’m sure they will do

Autism is not a learning difficulty!

Someone can be autistic and also have learning difficulties however.

Hi OP since it is confirmed measles, by now you should have received advice about what to do. Please follow the advice and forget about a tidy house. The agency that might be in touch with you have nothing to do with social services. Measles is a notifiable disease and they will need to compile a list of people you have all been in contact with. If it’s a long time since you were vaccinated against measles they may suggest a booster.

If you haven’t had any advice contact the ward/hospital, explain you have a young baby and ask if you need to do anything.

Give as much information as you can. If you DS attends nursery or has been in contact with other young babies it really important that they know because babies are not vaccinated until 12 months old so any contacts over the last couple of weeks are at risk.

If your DS goes to a nursery then it’s very likely that’s where he picked it up. However he may not have had measles. Your DH may have picked it up at work if he works in a department with regular international visitors.

The main thing is that social services will not be involved.

Hopefully your MIL will change her views when she finds out her DS has measles.

Good luck with everything. Try and get some sleep and be kind to yourself. It’s not your fault just an unfortunate set of circumstances and hopefully your DH will make a quick recovery.

My baby doesnt go to nursery yet. My husband's ward hasnt told me anything other than they want to release him home but they havent assembled the meds.

I called 111 instead for advice and they told me i can call the gp on monday for an early MMR vaccine for my son.

They refused genetic testing or you did? If they did, then yes absolutely, you're entitled to that. Ive just been referred for it myself and the doctor went through the criteria with me, any first and second degree relative having breast cancer would get you the referral, but also having a male family member with breast cancer will get you the referral too. Sorry they arent listening to you x

That’s great. Ask your GP if you need a booster too.