Would you date a bisexual man?

[Seymorbutts]

Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

Therefore you would no longer be attracted to them so wouldn’t date them. Like if a heterosexual man started spouting manosphere bollocks clamps vaginas shut instantly. Attractions has to be there to date.

but it hasn’t happened on this thread has it ?

Absolutely no way. I don't want him potentially being attracted to double the amount of people, and I don't want to end up being dumped because I cannot possibly ever be the thing that he desires - a man. Relationships are hard enough. Fuck that.

I also think that if you marry and have kids, by the time the relationship is ageing, say 20 years in, he's going to want his other itch scratched. So I wouldn't hang my life on someone who probably won't be satisfied with a woman forever. Maybe he could, but I wouldn't be risking it.

As for more casual dating, I don't like this prejudice in myself but the idea of him having had anal with a man is just a big turn-off.

Not a chance I don’t ever want to sleep with a man who’s been having sex with another man, I wouldn’t want one the health risk and two it would turn me off big time, just a no from me.

Definitely not. I don’t like the idea of a relationship with a man who likes other men. Sorry if that makes me shallow, prejudiced or anti-something

Naive. You'll invest years and then end up dumped for a man.

Well, of course.

I was really responding to the OP who I thought was maybe considering a relationship with someone in particular, as opposed to feelings about relationships with bi people in general.

Maybe they were just talking about in general though.

Yes and I am. Married. Together 9 years. Yet to stray but there is always time! :)

This question seems to be asked every few months on here to the point that I don’t think anyone who asks is posting in good faith. You just want to stoke biphobia and attract people who like using vulgar language to express their disgust at bi and gay men.

You've explained perfectly, and it's exactly how I feel.

No, I wouldn't personally. I would feel that I just couldn't compete with a guy if he decided he wanted to be with a man in a LTR rather than me. I realise that's stupid as if he wanted to be with anyone else at all I wouldn't attempt to compete anyway, I'd walk away. But somehow it's still a flat NO.

Yes. I’d probably prefer one actually.

The amount of homophobia on here is mind blowing (yes, loads of comments here are incredibly homophobic and offensive).

Yep, wouldn’t bother me. Any man can cheat on you or give you an STI, whether they’re interested in men or not.

In what way does it seem like ‘baggage’ though? If someone has kids, obviously that’s baggage because it has a massive practical and emotional impact on their daily life. But being bisexual has no more impact than what someone’s ‘type’ is. It doesn’t prevent someone from doing anything or complicate their daily life.

I don't think it's homophobic to not want sex with a bisexual man.
I don't want sex with a woman either....does that make me misogynistic?

This is how I feel too. It's a base feeling, I can't explain it. I genuinely do not think I'm homophobic.

No. I also wouldn't date a red head, an overweight man or a man with kids. We are entitled to our preferences.

It’s more the repeated insinuation that the bisexual man in question will give you HIV.

Definitely not.

As a woman that only likes men, I want a man who only likes women.

I don’t want a man who has sexual desires I’m not into, so that means I wouldn’t date bisexual men, (or straight men who like certain things).

Thinking of my partner sleeping with men would turn me off because I’m straight and like straight sex.

Preferences in dating do not need to be justified though. I agree with the pp who said some peoples comments seem coercive and creepy.

No. I don't need that extra confusion in my life.

I used to say ‘definitely not’ but it depends how lonely you are for company I guess. I was a little lonely before my current man (straight) and briefly considered broadening my criteria as I have some lovely bi male friends who are fab boyfriends to their ladies. I actually didn’t mind the idea of them leaving me for a man - if they were going to go, they would leave regardless. You take that chance with anyone. I just didn’t and still don’t fancy doing acts they do with other men/pegging etc.

The health risks are only bad if they have unprotected sex with people from high risk groups/countries. If they don’t - it’s comparable to straight men who have UK non-sex worker sex.

I find the idea of being with a man who wants other men to be a turn-off. We cannot help what we're attracted to or repulsed by. At the same time, if I were queen for a day, I would ensure that the rights of all people of all sexual preferences were protected, including bisexual people, and I would wave my magic wand and make all discrimination against them disappear. I would employ bisexual people and be friends with them, and would happily accept them as family members if someone in my family married a bisexual person. So I do not think that I'm homophobic at all. I just don't want to sleep with them myself or risk investing years to be dumped because I can't give them what they want, sexually. This is common sense, not homophobia.

You could invest years in a straight man and end up dumped for another woman. What’s the difference?

You don’t seem to fully understand what bisexuality actually is. Bisexual people aren’t somehow compelled to keep switching between partners of different sexes. Being bisexual just means finding people of both sexes attractive. It doesn’t mean someone who can’t be satisfied unless they have sex with both men and women.

The difference is you're more likely to be dumped since he has twice the temptation. We all know how hard men of any kind find it to keep their dicks in their pants, and with a bisexual man, he can't get from a woman any of what the bi side of him wants. Sure, maybe he can remain faithful for life, but I certainly wouldn't be taking that risk and investing my life in someone who wants something I can never provide. It's just common sense.