Would you date a bisexual man?

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Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

Will or could?
Of course it's a risk for anyone who has sex, but statistically male gay men do have a higher risk than hetrosexual men of contracting HIV.

Your assertion that a bisexual man will eventually always dump a female partner for a man was incredibly biphobic/homophobic.

it’s absolutely fine to be turned off by a man fancying men as well as women, just as it’s fine to be turned off by a certain hair colour or men of a certain height.

It’s not fine to make offensive sweeping judgements about them based on their sexuality though. That absolutely is biphobic/homophobic prejudice and it stems from ignorance.

It isn’t common sense. It’s horsehit.

Can you quote one?

No, I made that mistake (without knowing it), married him, and it came back to bite me very hard. Completely ruined my life in fact. I'd advise anyone against it but of course people are completely free to make up their own minds. I've no problem with anyone being bi but there is no way I'd date a bi man again.

Yes, I have done.

It's my experience. At the time I read research that the group who most said they had previously cheated was bi men, gay men were next - can't remember after that. I can't say a bi man will always cheat, but I wouldn't take the chance again. If that makes me biphobic then I'm ok with that.

wouldnt bother me dated someone who was…wouldn’t say he was bi though as he didn’t want a relationship with a man just sometimes like sex with them. Does not make a difference to me as long as they are safe exactly as I would expect them to be with a woman too

There was one that was deleted that was just awful and compared being bi to being shit on before sex.

that do for you?

So one. That was deleted. Any other?

You said quote one. I did.

No, because I'm a lesbian. I would date a bisexual woman, though! I know several couples with one bisexual and one non-bisexual partner, either straight or gay.

No I wouldn't. Men are cheating bastards enough, without widening their selection pool. Also widening the STI situation, in particular HIV.

That wasn’t quite what it said though. It was talking about not doing something just because you were attracted to someone.

As the apparent ‘amount’ of homophobia is mind blowing according to some, I’m sure it’ll be easy to give a number of posts that are homophobic that haven’t been deleted so that we can all actually see them.

Never again. An ex was bisexual. We split up for a few weeks and, quite a while after we got back together, I found out that during those few weeks we were separated he went on grindr etc and had loads and loads of sex with random men. He probably wouldn't have managed to get even one woman to have sex with him in that period. He didn't tell me for ages so jeopardised my sexual health.

It’s not coercive or pressuring in the least. No one is trying to force sex or a relationship. It’s simply stating it is homophobic to feel an aversion to the nature of being bisexual.

Preferences are based on visual and behavioural traits that you experience in the every day with another person. Bisexuality is niether of those things. So in the absence of that the aversion is to bisexuality in itself, which is homophobic.

Anyone can date or sleep with who they like, but it is what it is.

I dated a bisexual man and it was fine, we broke up due to distance and he's now married to a woman. Being bisexual doesn't mean someone will leave you for a man, and if someone's going to cheat they're going to cheat, surely people don't think their partners are only not cheating due to lack of opportunity do they? Why would you want to be with them in that case? Obviously people can date who they like but it does seem an odd reason to not want to date someone.

Indeed

I suspect… tumbleweed

It’s not coercive or pressuring in the least. No one is trying to force sex or a relationship. It’s simply stating it is homophobic to feel an aversion to the nature of being bisexual

I agree it would be homophobic or biphobic if you refused to hire someone for a job because they were bisexual for example. But in the context of sex and relationships I disagree. I wouldn't date a man over the age of 60 or below the age of 30...am I ageist?

Well no, because I’m not averse to bisexuality. I have family and friends who are bisexual, gay and lesbian. I don’t want to date them though, because that’s not attractive to me. Gay sex doesn’t turn me on, I’d be turned off by thinking of my partner having sex with a man, because only straight sex doesn’t do it for me.

It’s coercive and those people can quite frankly, fuck off!

It's an additional complication. Or might be.

No, but calling sex between men disgusting (as several people have!) is very much homophobic.

Quite.