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Would you date a bisexual man?

592 replies

Seymorbutts · 14/03/2026 14:07

Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

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Jellybeans19 · 19/03/2026 23:55

@Lugol I'm so sorry you had to experience that. 💐 Unfortunately gay men have always been just as misogynistic as straight men, which is why quite a lot of lesbians (myself included) can't be bothered to have much to do with most of them. I have a decent gay male friend who I grew up with but apart from him I cba and stick to female friends. I've dated bisexual women in the past and don't have a problem with it, but I have quite a few lesbian friends who won't, largely because of past experiences of feeling like they were being used as an experiment before their partner went back to dating men.

Lugol · 20/03/2026 07:17

Jellybeans19 · 19/03/2026 23:55

@Lugol I'm so sorry you had to experience that. 💐 Unfortunately gay men have always been just as misogynistic as straight men, which is why quite a lot of lesbians (myself included) can't be bothered to have much to do with most of them. I have a decent gay male friend who I grew up with but apart from him I cba and stick to female friends. I've dated bisexual women in the past and don't have a problem with it, but I have quite a few lesbian friends who won't, largely because of past experiences of feeling like they were being used as an experiment before their partner went back to dating men.

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Thank you for your lovely reply. ❤️

It came as a huge shock to me to realise how much men really hate women and it becomes crystal clear before too long on that scene.
The lesbians kept to their own bars and places which I found strange a first because I didn't realise how much division there was but the things I heard gay men say about them were appalling. No need whatsoever.
The night that man beat the woman I mentioned upthread left me with 6 months of counselling because of the viciousness of the attack and the fact she'd done nothing to provoke it and her injuries were so severe.
I had panic attacks for years and that was just me, a witness.
Goodness knows how she processed it all and I often wonder how she is getting on.

There is little more scary than an angry gay man who has decided he wants to lay hands on you when you're a woman. They didn't seem to get the same memo 'some' straight men did that you don't hit a woman.

They don't care and there is no filter on their actions.

AlmondButterCrumpets · 04/04/2026 08:23

I wouldn’t date a bisexual man. I’m straight and want a straight partner.

Blondiebeachbabe · 04/04/2026 11:11

Not even if he was the last man on earth. I just couldn't find him attractive whatsoever, if I knew that he was up for having sex with men.

Blondiebeachbabe · 04/04/2026 11:14

glitterpaperchain · 14/03/2026 14:57

My husband is bi. We met when we were teens and I've always known. It's never bothered me. In fact I'd much prefer a man secure enough in his masculinity to be openly bi.

What an Oxymoron!😂

Marmalademorning · 04/04/2026 11:16

HermioneWeasley · 14/03/2026 14:08

Oh good, an opportunity for the MN collective to express their disgust at bisexuals

I wouldn’t date a bisexual man. It doesn’t mean I’m disgusted at bisexual people though.

TheMrsCampbellBlack · 04/04/2026 11:16

Nope.

LastNightMyPJsSavedMyLife · 04/04/2026 11:19

No, I’m not attracted to men who are attracted to men.

glitterpaperchain · 04/04/2026 11:39

Blondiebeachbabe · 04/04/2026 11:14

What an Oxymoron!😂

I think you don't know what an oxymoron is

Blondiebeachbabe · 04/04/2026 12:45

Dorrieisalittlewitch · 14/03/2026 18:24

If I were single and found them attractive, yes.

I think this thread shows a lack of understanding about men and sex in general though. I know multiple men who have had sex with other men but consider themselves 100 percent straight. It just so happened there weren't any available female "holes" when they wanted relief. It was entirely circumstantial and/or practical.

I'm female and bi. I imagine most bi men couldn't care less that a percentage of mumsnetters aren't interested. It's certainly never bothered me when people say they don't want to date me because I'm bi (two lesbians...never met a man that cared) because the whole point is mutual attraction.

Yeah, hate to break it to you, but those men were not heterosexual mate. How on earth did you keep a straight face when someone gave you that line excuse?

Blondiebeachbabe · 04/04/2026 12:48

I know multiple men who have had sex with other men but consider themselves 100 percent straight. It just so happened there weren't any available female "holes" when they wanted relief

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

UnseenAcademical123 · 04/04/2026 12:49

Blondiebeachbabe · 04/04/2026 11:11

Not even if he was the last man on earth. I just couldn't find him attractive whatsoever, if I knew that he was up for having sex with men.

If he were the last man on earth, there wouldn't be other men for him to be up for having sex with 🤣

DogsAreWelcome · 13/06/2026 21:43

UnseenAcademical123 · 04/04/2026 12:49

If he were the last man on earth, there wouldn't be other men for him to be up for having sex with 🤣

He’d still be bisexual though so the pp wouldn’t find him attractive.

UnseenAcademical123 · 14/06/2026 07:57

DogsAreWelcome · 13/06/2026 21:43

He’d still be bisexual though so the pp wouldn’t find him attractive.

But there wouldn't be other men existing for him to find attractive, so by definition he couldn't be bisexual.

NovemberMorn · 14/06/2026 10:34

UnseenAcademical123 · 14/06/2026 07:57

But there wouldn't be other men existing for him to find attractive, so by definition he couldn't be bisexual.

The most powerful sexual organ is the brain....so yes, he could.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 14/06/2026 10:36

I wouldn't. It's not for me. But then I also wouldn't date many many men with other characteristics - some ethnicities, some religions, some disabilities, some political views, some hobbies. We are all allowed to have a set view of what we find attractive and compatible. Not wanting to sleep with a man - for any reason - doesn't make you a bigot.

NovemberMorn · 14/06/2026 10:43

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 14/06/2026 10:36

I wouldn't. It's not for me. But then I also wouldn't date many many men with other characteristics - some ethnicities, some religions, some disabilities, some political views, some hobbies. We are all allowed to have a set view of what we find attractive and compatible. Not wanting to sleep with a man - for any reason - doesn't make you a bigot.

Of course it doesn't, it's called choice.
Some people would obviously like to take that away....maybe they would like women to behave like they were expected to do decades ago, put them 'back in their place'.🙄

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