Would you date a bisexual man?

[Seymorbutts]

Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

I don’t actually know any bisexual men. Would I date one? Probably not.

Can't think of a reason why I wouldn't.

I would if l liked him.

My husband is bi. We met when we were teens and I've always known. It's never bothered me. In fact I'd much prefer a man secure enough in his masculinity to be openly bi.

No, nothing against bi sexuals, but I don’t want to think of my partner fancying men or having sex with them,

Definitely not.

Same! In fact the idea of being with a straight man feels a bit weird to me now.

Sexuality is baggage now, is it?

Yes. And I have. But then I'm also bisexual. I don't know why it would bother anyone other than homophobes.

Preferences are not homophobia. No one owes anyone sex or a relationship and can choose not to date someone for any reason at all. How coercive to try to pressure people to date a bisexual person else they’ll call you homophobic. Awful.

Yup. Bi myself. See no issue with it.

To me yes…. Just a bit of baggage, along with children and I’m a single parent in my forties - can’t be arsed to deal with extra baggage

@girljulian do you have an open relationship?

As opposed to the straight men you only ever hear great things about..?

No, never have had.

Good god no. Not a chance. Couldn’t think of anything less appealing.

No. Wouldn't even consider it.

So why is fact your husband is bi something that would feel weird if he wasn’t? How does his bi sexuality manifest itself?!

I think it depends on your reason. For example, if someone says the reason they won’t date a bisexual man is “because they all turn out to be gay”, then yes, I’d say that’s biphobia because you’re essentially saying bisexuality doesn’t really exist (or at least, that bisexuality doesn’t exist for men).

Fairly obviously I don’t think anyone should be forced to date anyone. I don’t think anyone thinks that.

The way he relates to women, the way he understands things like penetration and how it relates to submissiveness (or doesn’t); his relationship with his own masculinity; his understanding that friendships with someone of the opposite sex aren’t threatening; the way we watch tv together and can casually comment on the attractiveness of anyone of either sex…etc. It just makes him different and straight men I’ve dated in the past didn’t have the same vibe, FOR ME, of respecting women as humans.

That will be him as a person rather than a result of his sexuality.

Because you're setting yourself up for heart ache when he dumps you

I disagree but ymmv. I prefer bi men just as some women prefer straight men.

No, but I wouldn’t date a straight one either.

I suspect there is a massive generational difference in these answers.
I'm in my 50s and have honestly never met anyone my age who identifies as bisexual. Amongst my and my friend's children (20s), it seems about 30% are bisexual at some point.