Would you date a bisexual man?

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Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

You could say that of every relationship. I'd have no issue dating someone who is Bisexual.

Yes I would and genuinely don’t understand the issue.

But that poster basically said if you don’t date a bisexual person, it’s because you’re phobic. It’s such a boring, lazy and stupid thing to say.

You think all the positive traits you list is because your husband is bi?

No I wouldn't. I am a heterosexual woman and only want to have sex with a heterosexual man. Sex and relationships are not an equal opportunity situation. I wouldn't have sex with all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons.

At my age I think it's unlikely I'll ever want any relationship, but if I was I would not want to be in a relationship with a bisexual man. It's hard enough if any man has a wandering eye, but thinking he might be eyeing up women and men would be too much for me. And I would be anxious that he might have an overwhelming urge to have a same sex encounter. I mean some people can't fight temptation , can they?
I've probably not explained that well.

Wouldn’t bother me. I know a bisexual man happily married to a woman for 20 years. I’m straight but doesn’t mean I want to fuck other men. But you know the answers you’re going to get on here.

I don’t know is the truth. I have a couple friends who are bisexual and one of them openly admits it’s difficult because there are times when he’s with his girlfriend that he misses aspects of the male body she will never have. So that’s made me think I potentially couldn’t give the man everything he needs in our relationship.

No I wouldn't. It was one of the reasons I backed away from a man I was keen on in my 20s. It wasn't the only reason, we fancied each other a lot but I knew we weren't compatible in other ways and it wouldn't have worked. When I found out he was bi that was the end of it, it was too far outside my dating comfort zone I think. Another reason I didn't feel right about it was that he hadn't actually told me he was bi, I heard it from someone else first.

This.

Well it hasn’t happened yet has it

Yes, of course I would, if I liked him. And he could spell.

So many women always say they would never date a bisexual man as they couldn’t be with a man who found men attractive, or they would feel worried that they wouldn’t be able to fulfil all his needs… (i.e at some point he’d want sex with a man again).

I wonder if gay men would have a problem dating a bisexual man saying they couldn’t date someone who found women attractive or that they also felt worried that they wouldn’t be able to fulfil all his needs? (I.e at some point he’d want sex with a woman again).

No, only because all the bisexual men I know have eventually come out as gay. I don’t have a issue with them.

We all bring our own baggage and experiences to relationships.

I actually did date a bisexual man when I was at university but I wouldn't again because every single bisexual person I know has eventually ended up with a same sex partner. Including my ex.

Now obviously, I've only met a very small sample but that is still my experience. I don't see the issue in saying I'm a heterosexual woman that now only wants to date heterosexual men.

Absolutely not

My cousin is a lesbian and she has only ever dated other lesbians, never bisexual women. She knows quite a lot of gay men and women and says it’s common for them to only want to date other gay men or gay women, not bisexual people. She is now married to another lesbian woman, whose best friend is bisexual. She doesn’t date bisexual people either, only straight men or lesbian women. Thats her preference.

For starters, I wouldn’t fancy having sex with a man who has had sex with a man. It’s as simple as that. I’d find it pretty grim.

Yeah I would. As long as the relationship was monogamous and committed as any other would be I don’t see why it makes a difference

It seems a bit hypocritical for a bisexual person to say they’d never date a bisexual doesn't it.

I wonder what her reasoning is.

I wonder if she hides her bisexuality from them in order to stop them from not wanting to date her (if dating bisexuals is also not preferred amongst the gay/lesbian scene).

It took me a while to get my head round your second para 😁 but the gay men I've known wouldn't touch a bi man with a bargepole... not because of fear of "not giving him everything he wants" but out of a kind of revulsion at the very idea that the bi man might at some point have stuck his willy in a lady's parts. Which is interesting because as a straight woman, I couldn't fancy a bi man because the idea of him sticking his willy in a gentleman's parts, or vice versa (or even being attracted to the idea in theory, whether he actually did it or not) would be a major ick for me. No idea why. Perfectly happy, obvs, for bi people do do whatever they like, but no thanks for me.

I dunno… I suppose it depends if they’re a nice human or a horrible human really

is that supposed to be amusing 🤔🤪

I'm not sure if I'd ever date again, but I'm very happy to have dated bisexual men before. Been married to a bisexual man for decades. Best choice I've ever made.

The straight guys I dated oversexualised my dating history, made it about them, and in general, I can only describe as that the lens they viewed relationships through felt weird and not compatible with mine. That didn't happen when I was in relationships with bisexual men or bisexual women.

Some of that may be unrelated personality, some of it I do think is how sexuality either influences personality or how they were impacted by cultural socialisation, just as other things influence those. I think that may be part of why some heterosexual women also feel weird and not compatible with bisexual men, and other preferences that have been discussed. I'm not fully clear on it, but I do think there could be something there in how sexuality plays a role, maybe only a small one, in how we see things and people have their own preferences for what kind of view they'd prefer their partner to have.