Would you date a bisexual man?

[Seymorbutts]

Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

I have the right to say no to dating any specific man, but no I wouldn’t write off anyone based on preconceived ideas about their protected characteristics. I could meet the most gorgeous, kind, funny, intelligent disabled man, or bisexual man, or Chinese man or Māori… The only one I would turn down would be a married man, and a gay man would probably turn me down.
You guys are confusing ‘lifestyle’ choices with sexuality, which is not a choice.

It’s prejudice because you’re writing off people based on assumptions who you don’t actually know.

Could you answer the question about whether you would date/ have sex with anyone?

My assumption of a bisexual man would be that he also finds men sexually attractive and I only want to be intimate with a man who finds women and women alone sexually attractive.

I'm assuming this is aimed at me?

Right, so if I know a man once visited strip clubs, or enjoyed role play, it's prejudice to no longer want to date him?

And what assumption? If a man is bisexual, he clearly enjoys sexual activity with men. Being a woman, there would be certain acts and aspects I can't provide him with that I know he enjoys. I don't want to be in a relationship where I can't provide things to my partner that I know they enjoy - even if they tell me that they're okay with going without it. Is that prejudiced?

I'm going to say it again! Why in the name of goodness, would I want to, potentially, make my life harder? There are lots of things I don't need in my life, I don't want to make it harder than it already is. Some potential dates might have protected characteristics, or quirks or lifestyle choices or obsessions, I don't have the time or patience to have to deal with those. My life and the way I live it are of primary importance to me, only I know what would improve my life and what would do the opposite. So I make decisions based on that.

@loislovesstewieI already have, learn to read, not just react.

I've been successfully reading since I was 4. I cross posted. You don't have to be impolite.

'Protected characteristics' include marriage, and of course a man might be in an open marriage, or polygamous, so isn't it a bit prejudiced of you to make an assumption about his availability based on your preconceived ideas?

I'd love to know what you think is prejudiced about my reasoning behind not wanting to date a bisexual man, too.

Dear god, you're scraping the barrel now in your desperation.

Maybe you should look up the meaning of protected characteristics and when they apply. They do not apply to personal relationships.

Anyone can refuse to have a relationship with another person, based on any reason and that includes people with characteristics which would be protected in other environments.

What about Taiwanese? Are they exempt?

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Ok, I give up trying to gently coax this into the realms of rational debate.

Sanity has left the building

Comparing the Holocaust to a woman not wanting to date a bisexual man...

I'm lost for words

Yes. I mean I doubt I'll ever be in a position of finding myself propositioned (happily married), but if it does happen I will override any preferences of my own in deference to whatever his/her "protected characteristics" are and just lie back and think of England.

It’s not an assumption that bisexual men are attracted to men. I’m not attracted to men who are attracted to men. What’s with this ‘writing them off’ comment? I don’t think anyone is writing them off as people, some of us just wouldn’t want to date them. Why is that such an issue?

Protected characteristics? This is about dating, sex, relationships etc, not a job interview.

On the matter of the Holocaust, there is a very long history in Europe of antisemitism. Anyone who knows anything about history should be aware of that. The Nazis were the latest in a campaign to denigrate, kill and despise Jewish people. Slavery is is as old as the hills, it's existed everywhere at some point in history. No country has not had slaves, the form of slavery varied from country to country, and varied over time. I'm sorry to have to make this simple point, but the conversation seems to have become somewhat mad.
No one here is advocating for enslaving bisexual men, or sending them to gas chambers. We are merely expressing a personal preference. A PERSONAL preference for personal relationships.

I notice you leave sex out of your list of “protected characteristics” you would not “discriminate” based on. I suppose even you would find it hard to argue that we are bigots if we find one sex attractive and not the other.

BTW protected characteristics relate to protection from discrimination in areas such as employment and service delivery. They have no relation to dating and personal relationships.

Your posts are really disturbing and genuinely are making me feel quite nauseous. Comparing women deciding for themselves who they want to date according to their own sexual identity and preferences to Nazis and slave owners - truly gross.

People are allowed to have any standards they like when dating. I know a man who is super in shape, spends hours a day at the gym, but he likes women who are bigger and he’d never date a woman who was really slim or muscular. He likes muscles on himself but he likes a very different body type in women. That’s ok.

Attraction and sex/relationships cannot always be rationalised. This kind of discussion reminds me of when I'd be dating when I was younger and you would dump/reject a man and he'd want "valid" reasons for you doing so. If your reasons weren't valid enough, he'd want to try to insist you couldn't end it or not even start it. It grates on me so much. No one owes you their attraction. Some men will look at me and think phwoar, others would look at me and think no way. That's fine.

For me I cannot explain in words really why I wouldn't date a bisexual man beyond I would feel uncomfortable knowing the man I was having sex with would also want to have sex with a man. The infidelity thing is irrelevant. Id rather date a straight man who was cheating on me than a faithful bisexual man.

Absolutely yes but then, I am also bi-sexual.

"I'd rather date a straight man who was cheating on me than a faithful bisexual man."

I would pass on both.
Thankfully we can all CHOOSE who we want to date/have sex with.
It used to be a good thing to be called 'choosy', when I was young, now it seems (on here at least) it's a reason to be interrogated.

I mean yeah I'd rather not be cheated on at all! Just making the point that potential fidelity or not is not the issue for me .

I'm a heterosexual woman, I therefore only date heterosexual men. Not trans men, not bisexual men just straight heterosexual men.

I'd also never date a virgin or someone who has never lived on their own, or who hates cats.

Well according to some very peculiar but vociferous posters on here that would make you transphobic, biphobic, virginphobic and anticatphobic. All in all they'd call you a dreadful prejudiced bigot and you need to open your mind to all these terrible prejudices which have been put into your mind by the society we live in.

In reality you're a perfectly normal woman who has perfectly normal preferences.