DD7yo is begging to have her ears pierced tonight (school night) is it a bad idea?

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So, DD has been begging to have her ears done - fine by me, explained it hurts, taking care of them ect ect.
I suggested waiting until summer holidays due to PE ect.. but DD said the girls in her class don’t take their earrings out for PE and don’t tape them ect. I checked with those parents and the school and they are allowed to wear a small stud during PE. So DD wants it done asap.

Its a non uniform day tomorrow and DD is now begging relentlessly to have her ears done when she gets home tonight so she can show them to her friends with her non-uniform 😂

I don’t know if I’m overthinking it, is it a good idea to send her off to school with fresh piercings? Should we wait until the weekend, or do you think she’ll be ok if she did have them done tonight? She knows she can’t fiddle with them ect. They don’t have PE tomorrow anyway ect. But I’m so undecided.

I very much doubt the person was coming to her house in the first place. That’s just a cover for taking her daughter to a place that would do it with a gun. Or it’s all just rage bait as children’s ear piercing always ends up in a row.

Agree. Amazed that most think it’s ok

I agree! I got a second and third piercing in my ear lobes last year and went to a highly reputed piercing place. The place was great, they had all the certificates on the wall, the piercer was lovely but the process was SO SORE and hurt so much as he pushed the needle through my earlobe!! It hurt so, so much more than when I got my first piercing with a gun when I was 13. They kept getting infected and it was basically not great.

So when I eventually agreed to let my 8 year old daughter get hers pierced, I took her to a beauty salon that has been doing piercings for yonks and they did my child with the gun. It was over in seconds and my daughter said it wasn't that bad. The piercing never got infected and healed up beautifully and all is fine.

I wouldn’t allow her to get them pierced. I think it looks awful on young children.

My DD's aren't getting them done till the summer before secondary school (if they want to). I know some people think that's strict, but when I was at school I witnessed a girl running around playing and her earring got caught on another child and was literally torn out of her ear. She was upper primary at the time. I appreciate these sort of accidents can happen whatever age, but the younger the more likely. 7 is way too young for me.

What I don’t understand OP is why you don’t ask your friend the ear-piercer rather than asking MN. Just ask her? I’ve checked your posts to see if you’ve answered that but you haven’t.

Its advisable to get child's ear pierced really at start of holidays preferably summer holidays to get them used to earrings and the pain and monitor any changes . I wouldnt get them done on a school night. I never had girls and only my youngest lad wanted his ear pierced but i kept putting it off to holidays and he never got it done in end. I on other hand was 12 when I wanted mine done every girl in my class had them done and my Mum made me wait until I was 15 ((knocked her down from 18) got to 15 and she said no wait until 18 i went and got them done anyway and she said they looked nice lol my older sisters hadnt got theirs done until 18 but wasnt so fashionable then. (Talking 70s) I swore if I had daughters I would let them have them have their ears pierced whatever age they asked.

@Allseeingallknowing Where we live, most girls do not have this done at 7. Teens normally. It seems cultural and class based.

Parenting rule #1. You don't give children things just because they want them. if we did that my three year old daughter would have had a motorbike and a tattoo for Christmas!

You have good reasons for waiting until the holidays. Stick to them.

How can a 7 year old make a sensible judgement about their long term wellbeing and health? I know people will say it's a minor procedure - which it is - but as a parent, I think you should have the final say and not be cowed into submission by juvenile nagging.

Just be really pedantic and derail OP’s post…it’s actually a contraction of 2 words: et cetera. “Et” is Latin for “and” and “cetera” translates as “the rest”.
I’ll bore off elsewhere now.

I would say wait until she's at least 12.
By then the concept of being responsible for them is clearer, and you know if she's up for being responsible for self care. Also, make an agreement that she is responsible for cleaning, etc., and if she doesn't keep it up and her hole(s) close, and wants them done again she has to pay for it. I say this with experience of my girls, nieces and granddaughters. I didn't want one more thing to deal with on my plate.

I think she's too young. My sister had hers done when she was 12 and i was 10 and my mum thought might as well get mine done too. Now i have to walk around with yhese stupid holes in my ears forever. I'm now 56 snd wish i hadn't had them done. My daughter is 19 and still hasn't had hers done. It's her choice at that age, but I think 7 is too young.

As someone who had to deal with many children with sore piercings in school, I would always say it’s best to do it over school holidays. Yes many will be fine but I’ve had very distressed children who are in pain or have bumped their ears and are sobbing in the medical room. In the end the school banned the wearing of any earrings in school and were very strict on it.

The responses to these ear piercing threads always kill me off 🤣 she’s 7, she’s asking for them done, if you’re okay with it as a parent and school rules aren’t overly strict, just do it. I’ve had about 12 piercings with a gun and a couple with needles, never used a cleaner and never had an infection. Some were done bent across a counter in a jewellers- the good old 90s! And shock horror, I’m still here to tell the story. The way people reply you’d think it was the equivalent to using a needle to inject heroin 😂

What did you decide OP?

also glad you took on board the correct spelling of “etc” 😂🙏

Did you get them done OP? Only just saw this thread, but yeah our school are strict on you can't even tape them up, they can only be done in the summer holidays as otherwise they make them take them out (secondary school though). DS pierced his own one night though when he was 12, but a piercer checked them and he'd done them badly so we let them heal

Yeah we did them in the end. All good she’s happy. She cant stop talking about how she’s going to wear her earrings out tomorrow (going for Mother’s Day lunch) and she’s been dressed as a princess all morning with a headband on to really show them off y’know?🤣

Some may not agree, some may call us common .. or ‘that type of parent’ apparently, but everyone in my house woke up happy and healthy so I call it a win 🫶

Watch her with the swimming then. Ideally she shouldnt until they've healed but she will so make sure you really clean them afterwards.

She’s been warned she might not be able to go in the pool. She said she can sit on the edge and splash her feet. She not a big water girl as it is so I don’t think she’ll be too upset tbh.

Surely the piercer isn't licensed, it's the premises that's licensed?

Great! What did she go for as studs?

She chose some little pink gem studs and we’ve swapped the backs for a silicone thing that’s much wider to prevent any imbedding, my sister one had an earring back imbedded into her ear it was pretty nasty!

Sounds good!

At the school I work at earrings most definitely have to be covered up or removed for PE. They can be easily caught by themselves or another child.