Your biggest mumsnet character flaw (that causes you no problems in real life)

[HailMerry]

Having read a few threads that variously refer to peoples’ failings with organisation with them being variously late or missing in action I can never get over the ferocity of attack in response to these posts. I mean I wouldn’t understand as I am shocking and despite trying really hard I will forget things, get lost, confuse days, double book myself. And it causes me no problems whatsoever. No one thinks I think I am more important and no one sulks or ditches me.

I am a kind and loyal and helpful person so a bit of chaotic twattery is forgiven easily. I mean people organise me a bit and send me reminders sometimes but that’s it.

also never remember to offer tea and coffee and visitors just make their own or remind me and I will make a cup. Again, no one cares! What is easy in your life that mumsnet makes sound really complicated?!

I don't seek out the perfect outfit for weddings. I wear things I have.

I can't make a chicken stretch to 45 meals

Isn't that sort of the point though.. it causes YOU no problems.. but it does cause other people problems. Even if its just a text to remind you its work for someone else because of you. Or waiting for you means standing alone somewhere not using their time which they chose to spend with you.

It causes you no problems but does cause problems for people who you value. Isn't that alone enough to make you want to not be late?

I dont think that makes you a bad person or not kind and lovely. Im sure you're a friend who is worth having despite the need for chivvying and maybe the inconvenience to someone else is minor in the grand scheme of things.

But I guarantee that at least some of your friends are annoyed by it. They just have the grace not to tell you!

I cant abide lateness. Obviously unless its unavoidable for reasons outside of control. I will never understand how people get through life unable to manage their time!

In answer to your question.. im a stepmother with partial custody of my stepdaughter despite divorcing her dad. Apparently I should never parent and all decisions should he left to her actual parent! Never bought into that for a second shes been mine since she was 2 and if that means she gets a shooing for not doing her homework on my time then she gets it!

I’m a SAHM and my house is pretty much always messy. I know people think that, since SAHMs are home so much, the place should therefore be spick and span. The problem is, it’s being at home that makes it messy in the first place.

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I think that correct spelling and grammar are important.

I sometimes feel cold and put the heating on.

Liking and thinking the best of other people. Not thinking everyone is trying to take advantage of me.

I’m not always kind and I don’t always believe the woman and I don’t make any of my family, in-laws or family give me advance warning of visiting us or make them knock on the door.

I don't always answer the door.

I get along with my MIL whilst also not being much each other's kind of person.

I don't believe in any sex relations apart between man and woman who are husband and wife.

You sound like a fab (step) parent.

As for the time keeping they honestly do not care, not one tiny bit. I mean I am not late often - I do try - but it does go wrong and sometimes epically so. The main person I fuck things up for is me. My husband is the opposite and even he doesn’t get annoyed as he sees the effort (I put in to getting things wrong). Fortunately I am very competent in some areas but I have the same issues at work too but people are very good humoured about it. I set off for a very important meeting last week and popped into the toilet before that kind of redirected me and I forgot what I was doing so I had a mini meeting with someone else (not important!) and went home. Didn’t give it a thought for two days!

Oh my, so many
I enjoy one night stands occasionally
I don't mind giving lifts to people who don't drive
I'm comfortable walking around London alone at night
Friends and family are welcome to drop into my house at no notice

That's kind of you to say!

Maybe I need to be your friend to work on my irrational phobia of lateness!! It doesnt help that my autistic father absolutely cannot be late so growing up we were relentlessly early for everything!!

I don’t shower every day… no one cares apart from some mumsnetters

Damn, you beat me to it! I shower 2 or 3 times a week. It's fine.

I don't have a toilet brush.
Somehow I still manage to have a clean toilet and bathroom.

Brilliant. My mother can’t be either so we were also relentlessly early for everything! Interesting how we have had different responses!

Honestly OP, that episode of forgetting that you were on your way to a very important meeting in the five minutes you spent in the loo, is quite worrying. Perhaps you are peri, or getting older? Since you are mostly on time it's easy to see why people forgive the few times you arrive late, but surely people around you are concerned at this kind of cognitive wobble?

I am loving these but this one is a challenge to agree with - I can only presume your children don’t birth giant log shits that defy my understanding of our internal pipe work. I mean I have needed things more hard core than a brush!

I’m unapologetic about not driving, I don’t ’check in’ with friends, and I don’t scour my house ahead of visitors.

I love being a wedding guest.

I made “mum friends” at the school gate and we are still great friends 15 years on (while largely our kids are not ).

I am not someone who “hates conflict” or is a “people pleaser”. Lost that with age

Also happy to give non drivers a lift is within a mile or two of where im going.

I am not obsessed with my teens getting into Oxbridge and fiercely analysing if others are being given unwarranted chances to do so. Chill out!

My husband games and I don't give a toss. He's an adult and he's welcome to.

I sometimes start things with the best intentions but something more intetesting crops up and I

I think I’m in a school gate clique. In reality we’d welcome anyone who talked to us, but many people just don’t.