Something you were judged for that was actually a great decision?

[worldshottestmom]

Im interested to know; what is something that you were judged for that turned out to be a great decision?

One of many of mine is having kids! When I fell pregnant with my first child, the people I called friends at the time judged me hard. We were all early to mid 20s and they were all about drinking, drugs and having fun. Compete hedonism, as is pretty normal at that age.

It just felt like at that point in my life i was done with all that (23 at the time). I wanted to be a mum, settle down, and live a healthy and productive life. It soon became clear i was not welcome anymore; no more party invites, not more inclusion in whatever they were doing. Eventually just mostly stopped talking to me and spoke to me as if I was 90 and my life was over.

One of them, my closest friend, genuinely sat me down and tried to convince me to have an abortion. Two others made jokes to me about getting an abortion and how glad they were that they were not pregnant, and what a huge mistake it was.

But here I am today, 2 beautiful, wonderful children that i adore and complete me as a person. They make my heart so full. I couldn't be any happier with my decision.

So let's hear it, what about you? Im trying to demonstrate to others that its not always best to listen to those around you. So frequently people rely on others with their problems, which is fine and it's normal, but sometimes its so important to think and make decisions for yourself.

Having my eldest dd at the time and with the person I did I was judged at every opportunity. We was in so much debt and he was a total prat. Cue 20 years later and my dd is by far one of my greatest achievements she is such an amazing person inside and out. The dad now very much ex husband was indeed a total and utter prat it lasted a year before I thankfully got rid. I was judged on that too but definitely a good choice.

I've been to London 3 times as so glad I never went back after that lmao

Getting divorced from an abusive man.

Having a child knowing I would go it fully alone for all eternity.

Not going to my brothers wedding to protect my peace and sanity and not allowing my child see me being surrounded by people who have no respect for me and have outwardly been disrespectful.

Going no contact with my abusive mother.

Horrible you got judged for this but this was sooo sweet to read! Restored my faith in love and romance, thank you. I'm so happy for you that it worked out!

Leaving home at 16 to move in with my boyfriend. Got told we were too young, that it would never last, I was making a mistake and I’d regret it. 31 years later and we’re still as in love as we were then. Best decision I ever made.

Wow, a very bittersweet comment to read. I have to say, throughout your life it sounds like you've maintained such a strong sense of strength, endurance and resilience. I can only look up to you. Well done on making such a success of it!

Awww this was so lovely to read. I love it when young romance works out. Everyone always doubts young love, but if you work at it and stick together you can only grow stronger. Beautiful comment, thank you

I can’t imagine life without my child I’m so glad I didn’t let the pressure get to me

I hate that everyone thinks everybody has to follow one path in life, it's so infuriating. Good on you for choosing what was best for you and your DH, im glad it worked out!

I was very nearly aborted. My mum (a scared teenager in the 60s) went to a back street abortionist. She bottled it and eventually her parents found out she was pregnant. She gave birth to me in a home for ‘fallen Catholic girls’. Her tenacity meant that she was eventually able to keep me (although my grandparents pretended I was theirs).

It would’ve made her life so much less complicated for a lot of years if that abortion had taken place, but I’m so thankful it didn’t. Despite the rocky start, Mum and me… then (step- but he’s really not 🤩) Dad, then siblings, have had the best life. We lost Mum six years ago, but I thank her daily for keeping me. 🥰

Wow, this hit me on a different level due to my own circumstances in various parts of life. So so so happy for you that it worked out. I truly believe kids are never a mistake for those who do want them. They're just so wonderful. So glad you took out the trash too, I love hearing about women thriving after cutting off the dead weight of their trash partners. Good riddance to him!

God damn, that really is inverted snobbery! Sounds like your 'best friend' at the time was jealous tbqh, and probably didnt want you to leave on selfish grounds. Your ex be just sounded like an idiot im ngl. My family were actually a bit like this, too. My mum once accused me of 'abandoning' her because I went to uni. So strange how those who are supposed to want the best for us in life are often the ones who try to hold us back

Damn, im sorry this happened to you. Had an abusive ex who controlled everything I ate. Just made me develop a secret binge eating disorder to regain control over what I ate, so complete back fire on his 365-healthy life goal. Now that I dont have my food controlled, I stopped binging and am healthier than ever! Thats why I liked this comment, I actually really relate to it lol

God I hate London so much. Bet youre so glad to be away from it, I really dont get why everyone loves it so much I just think its awful. Lived in the country for a bit too but also being from a city, moved closer back as couldn't quite handle the compelte silence of country life but dont want to chaos of city life. In-between does me nicely lol

Everytime I read about someone leaving their abusive partner my soul sings. Seriously well done, I know myself it isnt easy by any means. Its reward enough knowing your doing the right thing, despite knowing the weight of what you will carry being alone. Its like exhaling after holding your breath for so long.

And good on you not going to his wedding, Im NC with my abusive brother as well. So many family members that say you should just talk to them because "family is family". No, family is blood, those who actually care enough about you to treat you like a human being, with respect and dignity, are family.

This was harrowing to read honestly. I just want to give you a hug. What a horrible situation for your mother to be in, im so glad she didn't go through with it either. Thrilled to hear you've had a wonderful life surrounded by people who love you, truly is heart-warming 😊

Im hoping to do the same at the minute! The thought feels terrifying and so many people telling me it'll be too much etc. Just trying to envision the future and how much better it'll be if I do it now. Thank you!

Exposing my so-called boyfriend, the father of my child, as a spineless, cheating liar to all his friends and family.

He thought I was a little doormat so I showed him that he never really had any power over me.

Not having children.

I was berated by so many people; I didn’t know what I’d be missing, I’m selfish, women just have children as it’s the done thing, I’d regret it when I had nobody to look after me in my old age!

It really hacked me off that people felt they had the right to question my decisions about my life. I doubt they’d have been happy if I told them I believed having a child with the expectation they will look after you in later life is the very definition of selfish!

I knew what was right for me and never wavered on it.

Thank you. I’m 60 this year, but I’ve been thankful since the day my mum told me. Her life with me in the early years was really hard- she wasn’t to let anyone know. Then she took me and left.
I have had the most wonderful life. I have such great friends; my family is made up of biological and adoptive children (no difference to me), and I have had such adventures.
I just wanted that poster to know.

Not me.
Our daughter became pregnant 1 month after her second child.
(Ex) Husbands parents blamed her and said she should get an abortion. He could do no wrong in their eyes.
They never had a relationship with the baby in fact they didn't see the other 2 after the divorce.
Neither did the dad. All 3 children were under 5 when they divorced.
That child is now 16, me and daughter bumped into the ex in-laws and they asked if they could
see the children as their son has gone no contact with them. They said that they feel guilty in not
seeing the children. Lived less than a mile away.
Our daughter is the nicest person I know yet where her children are concerned she will kill
Told them that they have had a long time to get back in touch to see them and to 'piss off'

She told her kids and they agreed that they don't want to see them or their dad.

@worldshottestmomyou can do it!

Marrying my amazing Gambian husband.
Eighteen years on, still going strong and very happy. If I'd listened to the doubters I would have missed out on the best thing that's happened to me.

I live for this female rage. I fucking despise men like that. Cheating and thinking they can get away with it, the sheer audacity of doing it while thinking they have a good little woman at home who will tolerate anything and "what they don't know what hurt them". Wish I could of been there to see him get exposed, fucking damn good on you, round of applause!

Was actually hoping someone would comment this, thank you! What is people's obsessions with trying to force women to have kids??? Do they think a child born to someone who actively says they dont want kids will be happy? I think not. I dont understand why people force this opinion it drives me insane. Good on you for doing whats right for you!