Big row with DH over my weight

[Prickleitch]

Hi

last night I had a huge argument with DH about my weight loss. To give you some context, I am 5‘8“ tall and five months ago I was over 16 stone. I’ve always been quite a curvy girl and when I met DH I was probably around 12 stone so not slim but not massive either. having children and getting a bit older saw me put the pounds on and I decided last year that I had to do something about. Obviously some of this was vanity driven but also my blood pressure was a bit high and I didn’t want to just keep getting bigger. I have been taking Mounjaro which I have paid for privately and when I got on the scales two days ago for my most recent weighin I weighed 10 stone and 12 lb. This is the latest I’ve been in my adult life and I feel happy with this weight.

last night, DH made a comment about me looking too thin. He kept on about it so I asked him if he still found me attractive. He said that he didn’t find me unattractive but that he definitely thought I was sexier when I had a bit more weight on me. He then made a comment about how he thinks the weight loss has made me look a bit older. They sent me into a rage. Whilst we all have our personal preferences but he seems to be forgetting that I was 16 stone with high blood pressure.

It was at this point that all hell broke loose and I said some pretty nasty things to DH. I’m not proud to admit this but after the comments to me I screamed back at him “well I would like a husband with a 10 inch cock but here I am getting on with things with your chode”

he thinks I’ve crossed a line. AIBU to feel that his comments to me were unfair ?

OP didn’t say she wants a 10 inch chode. She said she wants a ten inch dick and that her DH has a chode. A chode is a penis which is incredibly small in length but has decent thickness. So all in a weird and cruel thing to shout at your husband, that he has a very small penis.

@AppropriateAdult · Today 19:37

Do you honestly think he was ‘concerned’ that at 10st 12lb his wife is ‘too thin’? What utter bullshit. He wanted to make you feel bad and self-conscious about your weight loss, OP. Is he overweight himself?

Good point. ^

And I don't think YOU are the one who is 'projecting!'

Lots of posters on here are very sensitive and butthurt about the 'stubby little willy' comments though, like it's the worst thing in the world to say.

I wonder why??? 🤔

YOU @Prickleitch had every right to say what you did. Good for you! Your husband is clearly very jealous and threatened by your weight loss. (He's not the only one I think!)

He wasn't asked for his opinion though was he? He gave his unsolicited opinion, saying she looked older, and then she asked if he still found her attractive. He should have kept his gob shut - if you can't take it, don't give it out.

Chode - a penis, especially one characterized as being short and thick.

And him calling HER too skinny, saying she looks much older, and that he doesn't find her attractive anymore is NOT weird and cruel?!

Yeah, OK then.

As I said, this place sometimes!

The double standards on here honestly stink!

one if factual, the comment about the cock is just nasty and you know it.

I know 6 people on Mounjaro, they all look older than they did.

First comment nailed it.

Do you know how much 10 " is in reality? Wouldn't be much use in reality to him or you.😁

EXACTLY! This thread is batshit!

No, it really didn't.

It's YOU who is saying that, the OP didn't say that at all 😂

If someone is weird and cruel it's not some random DH we don't know, it's some posters who are taking this very personally 😂

It really did

Agree.

He wasn't asked his opinion.

He told her she looked thin, unsolicited, and in the first post OP said he kept going on about it. She had never asked him about it.

After him going on she eventually asked him if he still found her attractive. He said yes, but not as much as when she was bigger.

He then decided to tell her, also unsolicited, that she looked older.

First of all, well done on your weight loss and living a healthier lifestyle.

You have lost a lot of weight and are bound to look different. It sounds like your husband preferred you being a little bigger than you are now, and that's fine, he is allowed to have a preference . I don't think he was particularly mean with what he said, but your retort was a little childish and more personal.

I think maybe the conversation could have been handled better both sides to be honest.

My DH says he didn’t mind me when I was chunky (5ft 8 and 14 and half stone) but also acknowledges that my weight is my concern. I prefer to be slim so that’s what I am.

Not really.

OP: “last night, DH made a comment about me looking too thin. He kept on about it so I asked him if he still found me attractive. He said that he didn’t find me unattractive but that he definitely thought I was sexier when I had a bit more weight on me. He then made a comment about how he thinks the weight loss has made me look a bit older. They sent me into a rage. Whilst we all have our personal preferences but he seems to be forgetting that I was 16 stone with high blood pressure.”

Eh, what you said was nasty (and gross), but he was being a jerk. You've lost weight for your health, and you're not unhealthily thin, so I don't think he has a legitimate cause for worry. It sounds like he just found you more attractive when you weighed more, but tough luck! You deserve to be healthy, even if that means you may look a bit older than you did when you weighed more. People tend to look older as they age, anyway, so it's only a matter of time. 🙄

I wouldn't feel too sorry for him, but I'd try to calm things down and have a serious conversation about what led to this outburst. Would he rather have you healthy and a bit thinner or less healthy and curvy? Doesn't he want you to live a long and healthy life? Is his love based so much on your appearance? Because many things can change how we look in the blink of an eye. Can he understand how his comments hurt you (and why you lashed out)? I'd apologise, but I'd expect him to do some thinking about his own comments and think twice before he criticises your appearance again.

You must be lacking in comprehension skills then.

LMAO..Aura for Aura
If you can dish it without diplomacy then be prepared to take it too.

He cant help the size of his thing but you can help your weight loss.
Are you in the healthy range?
Is your relationship always this explosive?

Sorry, but 😂

Just a silly argument

Congratulations on your achievement - it sounds like you have done amazingly. But your DH is not wrong, losing fat in your face can make you look older. I think he was insensitive about telling you that, but you were totally out of line.

10 inch cock?
My friend Billy had a ten foot willy.....