Anthony Joshua Accident *MNHQ ADDING CONTENT WARNING FOR INJURY*

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I heard about this via X (twitter) and unfortunately ended up seeing the unblurred version of the incident which was awful and my heart goes out to the mothers/fathers/families of those boys.

It has come to light that I had spoken to the young lad that was the friend. I cant stop feeling this strange sadness, not only was I exposed to a clip that i didnt realise contained unblurred graphic footage of two deceased men. But the sad part, and i did cry, was that i had spoken to one of them as he owns one of the gyms I have been to in London. I didn't agree with his views entirely when we spoke but it just breaks my heart to know that the young man had so so much success ahead of him and when we did speak, I couldnt have imagined that his life would be cut so short. Its strange. A strange feeling.

It just saddens me. I cried. But the image of these two young men is just engrained in my head. Its brutal and whats so strange is their social media profiles are still “alive” still have comments, interactions, stories. Im just quite saddened by it.

Very sorry for the loss of your friends OP. I hadn’t heard about this till now.

So what? Speaking to someone a few times is absolutely a tenuous link.

You're falling over yourself to mention it - you say it four times in your first post alone. You're absolutely trying to center yourself in a story that's nothing to do with you.

The fact that the story is a tragic accident and you're mentioning intimate details of the victims injuries makes it even worse.

Worst footage I’ve seen in my life. I was sent it and have had serious words with the person who forwarded it to me. They apologised and admitted they didn’t even watch the footage before they sent it. They had presumed they were just sending footage of AJ coming out of the car.

It was horrific, brutal and really, really shocking to see those two men in that state. I’ve felt weird ever since, can’t get them images out of my head and struggling to process how that level of destruction happens, even at a high speed.

The mind just can’t process that. I won’t open anything again to be honest until I’m absolutely sure it’s ok to do so.

horrifying

I have not watched to footage, nor will I. I did, however, watch the news, and was disturbed enough at what they showed - the whole way this has been documented is deeply wrong.

Oh my god please just stop. You did not know anyone affected.

@soupyspoon I did report a post to MNs last night as I thought it was distasteful but no action as yet.

I can see they added a content warning, that makes it ok then 🙄

I don’t think it’s main character syndrome at all. It’s just the OP has spoken with one of the men and then seen a graphic video of the accident. It’s not unusual to feel shocked and saddened.

I used to follow AJ and watched his most recent fight, I don’t know him of course! But I can feel for the tragedy of what happened / I cannot imagine what the family are feeling but having lost my father incredibly suddenly when he was young in his 40s I can understand a small amount of the level of grief. It’s tragic and so very sad.

PS not seen the link and I don’t want to. But people are regularly sharing images of Gaza etc on SM and they’re I imagine similarly horrific.

I saw the first 4 or 5 seconds of the video and turned it off. That was bad enough. An injured and shocked guy being pulled from a car after an accident with everyone gathered round shoving cameras in his face to capture it is repugnant. We've lost our humanity. How about see if you can help and if not, stand back to allow others to help and afford him some space. Disgusting.

I find this thread thoroughly distasteful. Some respect for the dead and their grieving relatives is needed. This is not entertainment and don’t get me started on the disgraceful specimens of humanity who post footage of scenes like this.

I don’t think it’s a tenuous link or op making it about herself. It’s a shocking thing to find out somebody you know in passing has died in a horrible way, particularly someone young and full of life. It’s quite normal and healthy that op wants to talk about it because it’s on her mind. We’re so weird about death sometimes.

I get that it seems worse when you know the person vaguely but that's a pause for thought moment not post on mumsnet moment

Absolutely this.

I understand OP’s shock was exacerbated by having spoken to one of the men a couple of times. But the repeated reference to ‘babies’ and crying. The unnecessarily detail about injuries. Accidentally coming across the video but not stopping it once she realised how graphic the content was.

If someone is so shocked at an acquaintance’s tragic death, you don’t start gossiping and wallowing about it on social media.

I think this thread is nothing but disrespectful.

Well said.

You knew exactly what you were going to be watching when you clicked on a video of the aftermath of a car crash, OP.

I don’t agree, I think it is very normal to feel the need to talk about things rather than internalise them. But everyone deals with things differently.

(I did say in a pp I found the OPs repetition and language OTT, but I don’t have issue with the thread she started, nor added sense of upset given loose association with one of the deceased).

She’s saying she spoke to him at his gym and what a shock he’s died. Seriously get a grip

I’m afraid that OP really did centre herself. Repeatedly.

Does the Asian lad have a name?

I mean since you started a thread about him and how upset you are at his passing?

If someone I knew vaguely- like someone I went to school with, but never really spoke to or a cashier at my local shop etc- had died and footage of their body had been posted on social media I would find it upsetting.

I don't think the OP has done anything wrong (except post details of injuries) and I think people on here are having a competition of who can be most outraged. Almost the same as a grief vampire, but the opposite extreme.

She repeatedly made it about her and the tone and content of her posts were off. Anyone who can’t see that is as bad as the OP.

Anyone who can’t see that is “as bad as the Op” ? WRF
Think you might have forgotten the “ in my opinion”.

Some of us disagree with your conclusions about why the Op’s posted.

Might have just been better to speak to your partner, they weren’t your bestie, so most will think that you are desperate for attention, whether or not that is the case.