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Anthony Joshua Accident *MNHQ ADDING CONTENT WARNING FOR INJURY*

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 01:34

I heard about this via X (twitter) and unfortunately ended up seeing the unblurred version of the incident which was awful and my heart goes out to the mothers/fathers/families of those boys.

It has come to light that I had spoken to the young lad that was the friend. I cant stop feeling this strange sadness, not only was I exposed to a clip that i didnt realise contained unblurred graphic footage of two deceased men. But the sad part, and i did cry, was that i had spoken to one of them as he owns one of the gyms I have been to in London. I didn't agree with his views entirely when we spoke but it just breaks my heart to know that the young man had so so much success ahead of him and when we did speak, I couldnt have imagined that his life would be cut so short. Its strange. A strange feeling.

It just saddens me. I cried. But the image of these two young men is just engrained in my head. Its brutal and whats so strange is their social media profiles are still “alive” still have comments, interactions, stories. Im just quite saddened by it.

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IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 30/12/2025 01:36

What happened?

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 01:44

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 30/12/2025 01:36

What happened?

Anthony Joshua was involved in an accident in Nigeria. Two lives were taken. I’d had a conversation with the friend whose life was brutally taken in summer of this year. Just so sad. They were just left for dead. The other was decapitated. I didn’t actually want to see any of that and thought it was just anthony Joshua being removed from the vehicle but it panned to the bodies.

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Imaginary86 · 30/12/2025 01:50

I was looking for a thread on this, haven’t seen anyone post about it

Imaginary86 · 30/12/2025 01:51

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 30/12/2025 01:36

What happened?

There’s a horrible video that I saw on fb. It’s absolutely awful and so disturbing. AJ is very lucky to be alive put it that way!

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 01:54

Imaginary86 · 30/12/2025 01:51

There’s a horrible video that I saw on fb. It’s absolutely awful and so disturbing. AJ is very lucky to be alive put it that way!

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I think what made me sad was that I spoke to the one guy and you just wouldn’t think something so awful would happen. His socials are all still showing stories etc of all of them and suddenly they’re gone. Life is so precious we don’t even realise. I don’t know why but just seeing it from a mother’s perspective. Two babies just laying there dead on the floor. Something about the fact I’d spoken to the one guy just gets me more.

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user1492757084 · 30/12/2025 01:55

The speeding driver has a lot to answer for.
Why not drive to the conditions and obey the local laws?

sittingonabeach · 30/12/2025 01:56

It’s horrendous how videos can be posted on social media

Imaginary86 · 30/12/2025 01:59

PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 01:54

I think what made me sad was that I spoke to the one guy and you just wouldn’t think something so awful would happen. His socials are all still showing stories etc of all of them and suddenly they’re gone. Life is so precious we don’t even realise. I don’t know why but just seeing it from a mother’s perspective. Two babies just laying there dead on the floor. Something about the fact I’d spoken to the one guy just gets me more.

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I saw the stories of the ping pong game hours before the crash. Was he someone you spoke to a lot at the gym or in passing when you saw him? Both men were only 36

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 02:02

Imaginary86 · 30/12/2025 01:59

I saw the stories of the ping pong game hours before the crash. Was he someone you spoke to a lot at the gym or in passing when you saw him? Both men were only 36

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Spoke to him a few times. The Asian lad owned the gym in London and had one in Dubai. I’m quite a sensitive person so even a few conversations to me is enough for me to just feel the loss or at least feel weird. If that makes sense? I think the brutality of the deaths plays into this too.

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RunSwimSpin · 30/12/2025 02:15

PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 02:02

Spoke to him a few times. The Asian lad owned the gym in London and had one in Dubai. I’m quite a sensitive person so even a few conversations to me is enough for me to just feel the loss or at least feel weird. If that makes sense? I think the brutality of the deaths plays into this too.

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Having had a conversation with someone is a tenuous link. Count your blessings and try to get some sleep. Be glad that you won’t actually have to grieve these young men like their families and friends will.

FancyNewt · 30/12/2025 02:25

Agree with the PP. And I'm not sure the family and friends of the young men will appreciate you sharing details of the injuries and drawing attention to the SM.

I don't understand people who try to associate themselves to a tragic event by looking for any tenous link. It all comes across as self centred and grief hijacking.

McSpoot · 30/12/2025 02:28

FancyNewt · 30/12/2025 02:25

Agree with the PP. And I'm not sure the family and friends of the young men will appreciate you sharing details of the injuries and drawing attention to the SM.

I don't understand people who try to associate themselves to a tragic event by looking for any tenous link. It all comes across as self centred and grief hijacking.

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A term I learned on MN is very appropriate here - main character syndrome.

RunSwimSpin · 30/12/2025 02:29

McSpoot · 30/12/2025 02:28

A term I learned on MN is very appropriate here - main character syndrome.

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Yes, and grief vulture. It’s unpleasant.

Imaginary86 · 30/12/2025 02:32

FancyNewt · 30/12/2025 02:25

Agree with the PP. And I'm not sure the family and friends of the young men will appreciate you sharing details of the injuries and drawing attention to the SM.

I don't understand people who try to associate themselves to a tragic event by looking for any tenous link. It all comes across as self centred and grief hijacking.

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You need to blame SM for allowing the video to get posted in the first place. I didn’t even go looking for anything and the video came up .

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 02:34

FancyNewt · 30/12/2025 02:25

Agree with the PP. And I'm not sure the family and friends of the young men will appreciate you sharing details of the injuries and drawing attention to the SM.

I don't understand people who try to associate themselves to a tragic event by looking for any tenous link. It all comes across as self centred and grief hijacking.

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I don’t think it’s a tenuous link. I knew enough about him to still feel a sense of shock. I’m allowed to be shocked. The young man had his wholE life ahead of him.

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Ilovelifeverymuch · 30/12/2025 02:34

user1492757084 · 30/12/2025 01:55

The speeding driver has a lot to answer for.
Why not drive to the conditions and obey the local laws?

While I agree that the driver was most likely speeding especially given the damage on the car and the fact they hit a stationary truck. I've also seen reports that the car tire burst which caused the accident but I don't have any proof, I've seen quite a few different stories so I'm not even sure what the truth is at the moment.

I will also say as someone with Nigerian heritage who has visited many times that local laws don't really exist. I remember trying to cross at a zebra crossing once and realized that drivers in lagos don't recognize zebra crossings so cross at your own risk.

It's also a shame that after such an accident there were no emergency services ambulances etc which infuriates me when you realize that the political leaders in Nigeria all travel to the UK, US, France etc for treatment due to the poor infrastructure in the country but do nothing to fix it. I've heard of many situations where someone house is on fire and they call the fire service only to be told that they don't have any water. That's how bad things are.

May the men who lost their lives rest in peace, very sad situation.

LegoHomeAloneHouse · 30/12/2025 02:35

FancyNewt · 30/12/2025 02:25

Agree with the PP. And I'm not sure the family and friends of the young men will appreciate you sharing details of the injuries and drawing attention to the SM.

I don't understand people who try to associate themselves to a tragic event by looking for any tenous link. It all comes across as self centred and grief hijacking.

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Agree. I hate people centring themselves through a tenuous link when things like this happen.

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 02:36

McSpoot · 30/12/2025 02:28

A term I learned on MN is very appropriate here - main character syndrome.

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I think there’s a time and a place for main character syndrome. I’m shocked it happened and saddened that two young men could just be left on the side of the street no aid called. Nothing. There is no reason for me to want to be a main character. Just shocked that things can happen so fast. He was set to be extremely successful and was doing really well.

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 02:37

Ilovelifeverymuch · 30/12/2025 02:34

While I agree that the driver was most likely speeding especially given the damage on the car and the fact they hit a stationary truck. I've also seen reports that the car tire burst which caused the accident but I don't have any proof, I've seen quite a few different stories so I'm not even sure what the truth is at the moment.

I will also say as someone with Nigerian heritage who has visited many times that local laws don't really exist. I remember trying to cross at a zebra crossing once and realized that drivers in lagos don't recognize zebra crossings so cross at your own risk.

It's also a shame that after such an accident there were no emergency services ambulances etc which infuriates me when you realize that the political leaders in Nigeria all travel to the UK, US, France etc for treatment due to the poor infrastructure in the country but do nothing to fix it. I've heard of many situations where someone house is on fire and they call the fire service only to be told that they don't have any water. That's how bad things are.

May the men who lost their lives rest in peace, very sad situation.

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That’s what saddens me the most. It was avoidable. All the socials still being active and showing them all happy and then in a heartbeat their innocent lives taken. The one I spoke to and knew of was set to be really successful too. His gym in London was doing really well too.

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 02:38

LegoHomeAloneHouse · 30/12/2025 02:35

Agree. I hate people centring themselves through a tenuous link when things like this happen.

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Tenuous would be I’ve seen his insta stories. I’ve actually spoken to this guy.

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McSpoot · 30/12/2025 02:38

PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 02:36

I think there’s a time and a place for main character syndrome. I’m shocked it happened and saddened that two young men could just be left on the side of the street no aid called. Nothing. There is no reason for me to want to be a main character. Just shocked that things can happen so fast. He was set to be extremely successful and was doing really well.

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You could have expressed all of that without (repeatedly) centering it around you having once spoken to one of them.

Sparklybutold · 30/12/2025 02:41

There’s a term for this - parasocial relationships.

DemandingDogs · 30/12/2025 02:43

Stop being a grief thief OP. Their families will grieve for a long time. You won’t.

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PithyMauveZebra · 30/12/2025 02:52

DemandingDogs · 30/12/2025 02:43

Stop being a grief thief OP. Their families will grieve for a long time. You won’t.

Mumsnet really does blow things out of proportion. I’ve never taken away the fact that the families will grieve. I said earlier. From a mother’s perspective seeing your baby there with no one helping would sit with them forever. And sending them off in good faith thinking they’ll come home safe is worse. They all had instagram stories saying how it was sinas second time in Nigeria etc. it’s very sad. It doesn’t take away for one moment what their family feel. It’s just shocking. The whole thing could have been avoided and it’s so tragic.

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bluebella79 · 30/12/2025 03:17

I hate it when people do this. We get the message- you've spoken to him. No need to go into further details about the accident. You could have just put a message to wishing they rest in peace and left it at that. Yet you go into details about the injuries sustained. I truly hope their families don't come across this post.