Anthony Joshua Accident *MNHQ ADDING CONTENT WARNING FOR INJURY*

[PithyMauveZebra]

I heard about this via X (twitter) and unfortunately ended up seeing the unblurred version of the incident which was awful and my heart goes out to the mothers/fathers/families of those boys.

It has come to light that I had spoken to the young lad that was the friend. I cant stop feeling this strange sadness, not only was I exposed to a clip that i didnt realise contained unblurred graphic footage of two deceased men. But the sad part, and i did cry, was that i had spoken to one of them as he owns one of the gyms I have been to in London. I didn't agree with his views entirely when we spoke but it just breaks my heart to know that the young man had so so much success ahead of him and when we did speak, I couldnt have imagined that his life would be cut so short. Its strange. A strange feeling.

It just saddens me. I cried. But the image of these two young men is just engrained in my head. Its brutal and whats so strange is their social media profiles are still “alive” still have comments, interactions, stories. Im just quite saddened by it.

No. OP is just doing that thing of calling two grown men “babies” because they were someone’s children 🙄

A mother lost her son, friends lost their close friend. Think about them. Their feelings in this matter. They aren't going to want it rehashed by the public, they're going to want time to grieve and find out the facts of the accident.

Imagine how you'd feel if it were your children. I'd be devastated if it were mine, and I certainly wouldn't want it discussed in detail everywhere.

Have some compassion.

@Addybee I am sorry for your loss.

“I think the issue with Mumsnet is there are individuals who create a situation out of nothing.”

Pot and kettle OP, pot and kettle.

I sincerely hope you recover from this odd, wholly out of proportion grief you are suffering from quickly.

As other people have pointed out, this just screams main character syndrome. Never understood people who see a tragic public event and try and make it all about themselves.

"the sad part, and i did cry, was that i had spoken to one of them" - that's not the sad part OP

Who is this forth passenger the ‘Asian Lad’?

This!! It’s beyond crass to watch the videos in the first place (then act shocked you’ve seen things you mightn’t want to!!) but to relay details on here is disgusting. No respect for the ‘young men’ or their families.
Obviously it’s more shocking when it’s someone you vaguely knew dies, that’s human nature. It doesn’t make you extra sensitive or special op. Feeling the way you do is unsurprising but sharing details and raking over it is unpleasant at best.

I didn’t actually want to see any of that and thought it was just anthony Joshua being removed from the vehicle but it panned to the bodies

So when you thought it was ‘just’ Anthony Joshua being removed from the vehicle you wanted to watch? Why? Have you no concept of allowing people privacy and dignity? Horrible, vulture-like ghoulish behaviour in itself, and that’s before you get trying to center yourself in this with the claim that the ‘sad part’ is that you’d spoken to one of the deceased. Hint: that’s not the sad part.

FFS people. I agree with the poster using the Toby in the cafe analogy. I also think the OP has gone a bit OTT with the repetitive posts and use of ‘babies’ but surely an actual grief thief would be someone who, for example, goes up to the family or in this case goes to see the gym staff and then gets distraught and upset telling them how sad she is [don’t do it OP]. Surely posting on mn about this sort of thing is exactly one of the things it’s for?

I suspect anyone who posts about an individuals death is highly unlikely to be close enough to the person to claim sympathy.

I don't use social media so haven't seen any videos.

I read about one injury on the 'comments' of an online newspaper.

There are tragedies daily and whether anyone knows the person or not is almost irrelevant.

This week 2 men were drowned in Devon and a mum and her 2 young children died in a house fire.

They are equally as tragic it's just they aren't 'newsworthy' people.

I don't think it's worth 'going public' with your grief about someone you've spoken to a few times in a social setting.

Wow this whole thread is centred around you OP, why the need.

I think it should be taken down

Mumsnet is full of cunts sometimes. I go to the gym and sometimes have little chats with people. If I saw any of these people dead on social media, I would also be upset. It’s human.

my family lived in Nigeria for a few years and this was daily. Even if you’re going at the speed limit, a trucker stopped on any highway could cause significant injury. It’s just not the same there.

So sad. I went to school with one of them and he was just a nice boy, liked by everyone. My heart goes out to their families and I will be avoiding anything that might show anything graphic. Disgusting that those pictures have somehow entered public domain.

why does it matter that he was doing well financially and was successful. It would be just as tragic if he was poor and unsuccessful.
This gets to me when people die. Your loss is evaluated by your money ,looks etc .
When someone beautiful dies it is the same narrative...so tragic and they were so beautiful as if it would be less tragic if they were ugly !
But I do get the OP point. It is a shock when it is brought into sharp focus that life can be stuffed out in a heartbeat.

I don’t think that him being successful matters.

Im in shock and devastated by his passing- but the real loss is for those who were his family and close friends.

I hope they find the strength in each other to carry on. Lateef also sounds like he was an incredible man who did so much for people less fortunate than him.

I don’t think the OP is grief-jacking. She’s just pointing out the obvious fact that when you have a link to a person who is then all over the media, it feels much more ‘real’.

I haven't come across any videos but did read about the tradegy. I'm glad Joshua is ok, but it's sad about the other 2 lives lost. Sorry you had to see the video sounds graphic and these days that's what happens as people are quick to record and post. Hope you're ok OP

What continent do you think Iran is in…

It’s appalling how many are piling in on the Op.

I get the point about grief jacking. I know who made a funeral (of someone slightly famous) all about herself posting video all over social media. I don’t think the Op is in the same spirit.

Bit of a silly one isnt it?

no one refers to iranians as asians- same as people not referring to people from dubai/saudi/lebonan as ‘asian’

Gosh, the internet has become rather 'robust' of late, hasn't it?

Bloody hell OP, how many times do you want to let us know that you’ve spoken to one of them? We get it!! Well done!!

Op didnt "have to" see the video.

It came up as I was doom scrolling last night. I managed to scroll past it within 2 seconds. Didnt see a thing as I didnt "have to".

Op made a conscious decision to watch it knowing full well it was a video of an accident and would have been very aware it might have contained awful footage. She decided to watch it, no one made her.

I’m with the OP here in terms of her being shocked and a bit sad as she actually vaguely knew one of the deceased.

i also once spoke briefly to a very famous person who lived locally to me and was gutted when they died - but they died just after a family member (not a DP) passing away and I was caught up in that shock/grief. Have you had someone close to you die fairly recently, @PithyMauveZebra