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Say here what you can’t say in real life - Christmas edition

258 replies

Rainallnight · 21/12/2025 21:35

If you have someone in your life who is driving you mad or making you brim with rage this Christmas, tell them here!

Get it off your chest in a safe space so you can turn around, smile, and offer them a sherry.

NB - this isn’t AIBU. All gripes are correct and permitted.

I will start.

SIL, I am furious that we have driven hundreds of miles with small DC to spend Christmas in your part of the country, including hosting YOUR mother for the duration, only to find that you are not spending Christmas Day with us, AND that you have not yet deigned to pin down a day to even visit. Furious, I tell you.

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Blueyrocks · 22/12/2025 23:36

To my DH, despite agreeing with you that it's far better for our kids, I feel sad and anxious about this Christmas not being with my birth family
To my DB1, I think I understand now why you avoid the family at Christmas too, and I wish we could talk about that. To DB2, just very secretly I feel a bit sad that you're with your bf at Christmas instead of us. I'd never say it, because I am so happy for you, but I miss you and the selfish part of me wishes you were with us instead.

ThatRareLimeFinch · 22/12/2025 23:42

youre a useless man and a half arsed dad, the fact youve had to borrow money every year of your parents to buy your daughters presents because youve spent yours on weed, pisses me off no end. get a grip! The fact 'you' decided that youre taking your daughter to your mums christmas AM under the guise of 'giving me and DP some time together' is bullshit. you just cant say no to your overbearing mother. we both know she told what to do at xmas, at 30 she still rules your life, and gives into your demands when you kick off because youre an abusive narcissist. she only does things like this to piss me off because she hates me, which she openly tells you, but yet you wont say no to her. so grateful i dont have to spend christmas with you anymore. P.S your mums a bitch!

goody2shooz · 22/12/2025 23:43

Ladymeade · 22/12/2025 22:28

I got FTFO but not the rest and Google was no help... Please explain 🤣 x

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Fuck the fuck off to the far side of fuck and then fuck off some more. Or something very like that 🤪

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MrsCompayson · 22/12/2025 06:44

Husband why were you out for 9 hours 'christmas shopping' yesterday with your dad? And why were you so annoyed to be held to account about it by me and the kids?

Oh yeah, because you are a neglectful narcissist who withdraws when he is held to account about anything.

You have been miserable since you finished work for christmas, yet you can go out and booze, eat, be merry with your dad. Fine good for you, maybe I would like to go out with you once? Or even just watch a film? No you would never allow that.

It was 17 years too the day that you went on a massive bender when our first child was born, her in an incubator me just had a hemorrhage and painful assisted delivery. Didn't remember to turn up to the hospital the next day. I SHOULD HAVE LEFT YOU THEN!

When you were out yesterday I had such a lovely peaceful day, I felt like myself for the first time in years, now I have to spend christmas with you, you miserable selfish man, sitting there with your miserable bloody face determined to control the mood. Fuck off.

Hand hold xxx

cornflakecrunchie · 22/12/2025 23:58

Dear Santa (or MNHQ)
Please send all these ladies' family details so I can write to them & tell them to stop being so damn selfish & horrible, & give the ladies a BREAK.
Hoping they have a much happier time than they are expecting. xx

starfishmummy · 23/12/2025 00:12

Dear MIL, I know your conversation with your sister about wishing you could spend Christmas with all your children was staged for my benefit. However for all the years DH and I have been married, you've put your other son and his family first.. You're the ones who prefer to spend Christmas with them. And refused our invitations so often we stopped asking.

XenoBitch · 23/12/2025 00:20

I am not coming over to yours for xmas because I have had enough of your drinking and shitty behaviour. It was not your last little spat that upset me... it has been all of them for my whole life. Last time was the final straw.

Outnumberedwoman · 23/12/2025 00:34

I am beyond tired. My autistic child doesn't let me have more than 3 hours sleep a night and this has been the case for as long as I can remember. Im on my own as a single parent and Christmas day will be the same as every other day - cooking, dishes, changing nappies and getting attacked when she goes into a meltdown. It will just be the same as every other day so no im not feeling the joys of the season, I won't just cheer up or snap out of it and if anyone cared to ask the one thing I would like is a break.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 23/12/2025 04:50

Don’t invite me over if you’re then going to give bullshit excuses why you can’t after all. You do this with monotonous regularity and I’m sick of pandering to your ego. Waving an invitation in front of someone isn’t the same as actually inviting them over and sticking to it, and I don’t know why you think it is.

JennyForeigner · 23/12/2025 05:52

I just don't care at all, sorry not sorry. I won't be going anywhere at this time of year, until the day it involves a sleeper train, the book of my choice and blissful isolation.

Particularly, I won't be be driving two hours each way with young children to see people for whom travel is infinitely easier, because you have been suckered by 'tradition.' Smallpox is a tradition.

While you're at it, tell that odd relative of yours the Christmas she lectured about the importance of family was the last time she'll see me. It was rude and I don't give rudeness a second chance.

Sharptonguedwoman · 23/12/2025 07:11

KStockHERO · 21/12/2025 23:46

Yes, I do actually mind "looking in on" two sets of neighbours' cats on Christmas and boxing day, morning and evening.

Because it's not just "looking in on" them like poking my head around the door and yelling "Yoo hoo kitties" then leaving again, is it? It's washing out their bowls, putting down fresh food, changing their many water bowls, scooping up turds and solidified pisses from their three litter trays. It's spending a little bit of time with the poor mites that you've just abandoned for a few days.

Times two or three depending on how many selfish neighbours decide to just fuck off and abdicate responsibility for the pets they supposedly love.

The irony being that the main reason good old KStockHERO is always on hand for "looking in on" cats is because I don't shirk my responsibility for my animals. I don't just fuck off and leave my cat for days whenever I feel like it.

Tossers.

Say no and recommend a cattery. Being left is miserable for the cat.

Sharptonguedwoman · 23/12/2025 07:17

FeeLipa · 22/12/2025 21:48

DH is actually fucking useless.

DH said he would get his eldest (my stepdaughter) a car for her 18th. She's now 21 and no car has ever materialised. He had the idea of getting her a car for Xmas. Last month she asked if she could be leant some money as someone she knew had one for sale, and this year she has parking at her uni house. He said no, as 'Santa might be bringing something wink wink '.

He hasn't found a car. I found one for sale that was perfect,and he arranged to go and look at it yesterday, telling them he would get there at 1. At half 4 when he still hadn't left home they said not to bother as they were waiting to go out. He thinks they are the unreasonable ones .

Poor thing thinks she's getting a car Thursday.

Go! Take a friend, buy the car!,

Sharptonguedwoman · 23/12/2025 07:30

SilentNight2025 · 22/12/2025 09:42

My mum is trying to spoil Christmas. She has spent the entire year telling her kids they can’t come for Christmas which is fair enough but two were invited. She then started dangling it over our heads that we can come with certain restrictions - leaving partners at home alone. Now it’s days to Christmas and she wants us to jump at her invite to go.
She will spend most of the day silently raging behind everyone’s back and then rant about people once they leave but if we don’t go we will be the bad ones.

Don’t go!

Hairgician · 23/12/2025 08:35

Sil you are a raging shopaholic with no fucking boundaries. Stop dumping all your shite on me just cos you need to be fun auntie. We dont need you to give us stuff to give to them 'to save us money' we arent skint, fortunately. Unlike plenty other families who would be genuinely grateful for the donations of clothes and shoes you bulk buy cos they are in the sale. How many fucking pairs of trainers and wellies do you think 1 child needs?
And stick your giant plastic nutcracker ornament that i have no room for up your arse hole.
Dh clear your clutter and crap away out of my sight.

Phew. Feel better.

Swamphag · 23/12/2025 09:01

While some of these are unavoidable in terms of grief etc, please those of you who are run ragged looking after the wants of others, just stop. Leave your shitty husband's and stop hosting those who make you miserable. Make 2026 the year you all suit yourselves and make you happy.
💐💐💐 to all of you needing support to get through the next few days x

AutumnLover1989 · 23/12/2025 09:14

callmelover · 22/12/2025 07:06

I’m a bit fed up of the “we’ll only buy for the kids” line from my older siblings.

they have children, I do not. So I’m expected to spend £50+ per child (there’s four of them), while they get me nothing.

Just buy them a selection box each. They are being extremely grabby 😞

BeGutsyGoldMoose · 23/12/2025 09:56

In-laws, why do you always pressure my daughter and your son to spend Christmas with you? Out of 9 years they've been married we have had one Christmas day with them, one! If they try and decline your place you then turn on the tears and guilt trip! FIL why do you insist on putting my daughter down on Christmas day? You make her feel like nothing and she just hates it. To top it off you then expect your son to cook Christmas dinner whilst you criticise everything as you consume vast amounts of wine.
Finally dear son in law I pray that you will achieve courage to tell them no next year and just let us have another Christmas with you and daughter as we'd love to host you and cook for you. Much love x

skyscrapersinging · 23/12/2025 09:57

My Festive Moan is HMRC charging me £54 customs duty on a box of presents (mostly tat) sent by my mum for Xmas. Because they misread $ as £ and now I have to jump thru a million hoops to get some money back from them. Merry fucking Christmas you incompetent, miserable pack of arseholes.

Maddy70 · 23/12/2025 09:59

Ive invited a ridiculous amount of people for Christmas dinner and I want them all to fuck off , my house is a tip and no one except me seems to notice and I want them all to fuck off out of the house I am definitely being unreasonable, they all work late into the night and they are in bed (reasonably) but I want to wake everyone you and bollock them for leaving me to sort everything (even though it was all my idea !)

Chocolatestain · 23/12/2025 10:23

SIL please stop sending us piles of tat. DH and I would much rather no gifts than random landfill fodder. DH is a middle-aged man; he neither wants nor needs a Lynx Africa gift set, complete with green nylon socks (and I certainly don’t want him reeking of it!). DS would be happy with a book token - not so much a Mandolorian soap-on-a-rope and England football lanyard to hang it on.

WonderingAndOverthinking · 23/12/2025 10:26

Yes FIL, after having to sit next to you with my DC getting them to choose their own Christmas presents on my phone, paying with the money you’ve transferred to me (as “it’s easier”), accepting delivery of them even though we are both out at work and you are home all day - I ABSOLUTELY DO expect you to take them home and wrap them up yourself before bringing them back Christmas Day. The look of surprise when I suggested it was laughable.

CharlotteCChapel · 23/12/2025 11:21

Vegetarians, you aren't superior to meat eaters. You make your choices I make mine.

DH don't stress yourself over Christmas, you aren't nice when you're stressed. Plus stop telling me all the details of the beer you're drinking. You know I can't drink it anymore.

ThatCyanCat · 23/12/2025 11:23

We do love you, but that's not why we're doing the cooking. It's because you're a terrible cook and you'll set off the fire alarm and somehow manage to serve up something burned, charred and still cold, and the kitchen will be a disaster area until Twelfth Night.

Thistimearound · 23/12/2025 11:26

Buying plastic stocking filler tat (oh I know, I’ll pad it out with pens and fidget toys and squishmallows and novelty stationery!) is terrible for the planet and sets a terrible example to children. Just get them a few nice presents you think they’ll want for at least a few months, if not longer.

SpiritOfEcstasy · 23/12/2025 11:35

My exDH (dickhead not darling) made a Wise transfer of money to our DDs 17 & 15. That’s it. No lists. No shopping. No hoping the mad clothes wanted will be in stock. No stocking fillers. No gift wrapping … just a money transfer.