Holly Ramsay hen fallout

[Mookie81]

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15275975/holly-ramsay-fiance-adam-peatys-ban-mother-wedding-hen-party.html

Hmm, I have 2 theories:

1. She didn't think his mum fit in her shallow aesthetic, based on the photos I've seen of the guests and the do as a whole.
2. His mum doesn't necessarily approve of the partnership- looking at the timeline described in the article, from when they met to when they apparently got together, I wouldn't be surprised if his mum had sided more with the mother of his child.

Before anyone says, if you don't know who they are, read the article. Yes there are more important things to worry about in the world, I can think about more than one thing at a time.
This is purely my opinion, so hopefully I can't be sued.

One of the siblings, the one that just got arrested for sending death threats, was/is a drug addict with mental health issues that don’t appear to be under control.

It’s understandable that they want to keep their distance from him, even if that means they also have to keep their distance from those that have a problem with that.

Makes no sense.
He struggled with mental health too.

She deliberately left the mum out its obvious.
Adam invited all the men in her family to his.
When she has her own kids wonder what she will feel like when it happens to her. They probably dont realise, but when you do this to your parents, you are teaching your children something too.

They shouldn't sell their wedding pictures its vulgar and haven't some people got enough money?

At the end of the day hes a swimmer that's all, and it sounds like he should have stayed with his ex and their son.
There didnt seem to be any problems like this then.

I read about this. The groom’s mother was complaining about how guests from their side of the family couldn’t afford to attend the wedding as they are on universal credit. There is obviously a tremendous disparity between the social classes.

I went to a bachelorette party as a plus one. I knew the bachelorette but we weren’t friends.

We started the bachelorette at her house. We were all in our 20’s except for her mother, her aunt and her future mother in law. Her mother in law was elderly. Part of the bachelorette was a pub crawl and we took taxis into town and her mother and aunt finished their night at her house and were cleaning up as we left.

However, her elderly mother in law accompanied us on the pub crawl. All night the bachelorette sat by her future mother in law watching everyone dance out of a sense of duty. Her mother in law smelt - but I won’t go into that. The bachelorette sat by her mother in law all night and didn’t complain once.

It’s been over 20 years and I’m friends of Facebook with the woman who sat next to her mother in law. I’ve seen their children grow up. The kids are just beautiful. Her husband is so kind and hardworking. Her parents were very hard workers who went into business and did quite well for themselves. This article made me think of that bride.

I think loving someone is accepting their family. But I don’t believe it’s appropriate for a mother in law to attend the bachelorette party. She’s obviously kicked off and been disinvited to the wedding. It’s sad for her because it means she won’t be part of her son’s life. I would be devastated if this happened to me.

What is this obsession that you have to invite your inlaws to everything! Not everyone is close to their in-laws.

Basically the same old story man gets married loses contact with his own family and it is all about the wife’s family. Ask the Beckhams they are living proof of this.

I don’t really understand why either of them are getting much publicity. He’s an Olympic swimmer who had a stint on Strictly years ago and she’s literally just Gordon Ramsay’s daughter… I haven’t heard of her doing anything in the public eye at all before this, unlike her younger sister.

It’s obvious his family wouldn’t fit in. They’re very working class and the wedding is incredibly upper middle class. You definitely would feel a pressure to dress a certain way, knowing most of the attendees were in dresses costing thousands.

I don’t know anything about his family obviously but do wonder whether his DS is invited, and whether he’s an active parent to him. It does very much read like he’s got too big for his boots. Nobody becomes an Olympian without their parents.

Probably true though. When she realises that his son, and not her, will (or should) be his top priority.
Those little pockets of jealousy will grow....and grow .....
Unless of course she quickly gets pregnant herself 😉😉

It's a complete mess

It's often the case that people who find religion or conquer an addiction are the most pious and uncharitable towards those who are as they once were.

I've been to lots of hen dos and none have invited their MIL it's for your friends ❤️

Yet again, the Peaty family are running to the press telling all.

“The family feel like they’ve had little economic support from Adam”

And thus we now know what the root of the Peatys’ issue is. Adam not giving them any of his money. That they’re not entitled to. No matter what they think they believe.

Adam hasn’t left his family out of his wedding. His sister is a bridesmaid. His brother was meant to be a groomsman. IMO the family are behaving appallingly and running to the press is just proving Adam and Holly have made the right decision.

Sad thing is whoever is more at fault or if it’s a bit of both it seems to have exploded so fast it’s probably past the point of no return. Holly and Adam’s mum are never going to get on now, and he has made it clear Holly is his priority. So that relationship is scuppered as is the relationship with his brother.

Maybe this will give Victoria an insight into how Adam’s mum might be feeling. They are in the same position.
I think all mothers either sons can empathise a little. Although Adam’s mum may be controlling etc but maybe she just wanted to be part of the wedding. She’s in an awkward spot with grandson and mum of grandson in the mix. She’s must feel divided loyalties.

@OnlyOnAFriday of course Holly is his priority now, she’s about to become his wife. Mums of sons need to accept that as a fact, when their son is in a relationship or married then their wife - her needs, wants and wishes - become his priority. We don’t own our sons, or their lives. When they start making their way in the world, we must take a back seat.

I have taken zero interest in Gordon Ramsay and his family before but now I've just had his caution for gross indecency with two other men in a tube station toilet Streisand Effected into my consciousness. His PR person's version of events makes no sense. (To paraphrase) 'He was involved in drunken horseplay with two friends in the toilets, the station master overheard the noise, got the wrong idea and called the police, the police arrested the men as they came out of the toilets, they were taken to the police station and accepted a caution.' I don't know about these things but if neither the station master not the police had witnessed what exactly had gone on inside the toilets they wouldn't have the evidence needed to issue a caution for gross indecency. And why accept the caution?

This should work both ways then daughters should prioritise their husbands as well and not only their mums.

But the Ramsays are dysfunctional as hell.

Gordon - product of a violent drinker. Dysfunctional background. Mother held the family together. Father often out of work. Serial cheat.

Tana - dysfunctional background. Cheating lousy father, cool wife for a mother so she becomes one herself. I've zero respect for her.

They're in no position to look down on the Peaty family.

I absolutely agree. I’d expect my dh to stand up to his mum for me if it came to that. Thankfully I get on fine with my mil.

its a shame Adam’s mum didn’t realise this, she might have shut up a bit more.

Or in this case your mum's friend.

Death threats? He's probably said something like "I could kill you for how you've upset Mum", Adam showed Gordon and the press are on it before you can say Jack Robinson.

I think this is probably at the root of the whole thing. One toxic dysfunctional family member can wreak havoc. Perhaps the mother enables the addict.

I’ve certainly never been to a hen with a MIL present. If Adam happens to be close to Holly’s male relatives that’s up to him.

We don’t know that they are looking down on them. They certainly don’t look down on Adam.

It’s precisely the Ramsay dysfunctionality and working class roots that makes it unlikely they’d object to Adam’s family on those grounds.

It’a highly unlikely for a mother to be disinvited to a wedding for being working class even if marrying into the aristocracy.

There will be major toxic family dynamics at play behind the scenes - potentially centring on the addict. This is simply the spin that’s been fed to the media.

If Adam Peaty’s brother is toxic and dysfunctional for being an addict with mental health problems then so is he. He’s an alcoholic who also suffers with his mental health, the difference being that he has the money to access the support and treatment hence why he’s in recovery.

It might be just me but if I was a multi millionaire and one of my siblings was in such a bad place, especially as I’d been in the same place, I’d at least offer to pay for his treatment. The same goes for helping out my parents who put their lives on hold, drove me miles at 4am every day and again in the evening and had to crowd fund for petrol before the National Lottery stepped in and gave me money. He seems like a proper selfish individual to me.