Holly Ramsay hen fallout

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-15275975/holly-ramsay-fiance-adam-peatys-ban-mother-wedding-hen-party.html

Hmm, I have 2 theories:

1. She didn't think his mum fit in her shallow aesthetic, based on the photos I've seen of the guests and the do as a whole.
2. His mum doesn't necessarily approve of the partnership- looking at the timeline described in the article, from when they met to when they apparently got together, I wouldn't be surprised if his mum had sided more with the mother of his child.

Before anyone says, if you don't know who they are, read the article. Yes there are more important things to worry about in the world, I can think about more than one thing at a time.
This is purely my opinion, so hopefully I can't be sued.

Sorry if I'm missing the point but are they expecting their family members to change outfits four times during the day??! That is completely insane.

I haven't read the interview, only the snippets a PP posted but I do think based on personal experience that she's hurt, not acting well and will possibly regret it one day when it may be too late. Equally I wouldn't trust the Daily Mail much further than I could throw them.

I really don't think any of the Peaty's, Adam included are covering themselves in glory right now.

Apparently, Adam said Mum would need 4 outfits for the day, but did offer to pay. That does say rather a lot…

It says four dresses for the whole event. I highly doubt they’d expect guests to change four times in one day.

I assume that the wedding will be a few meals/parties over a long weekend.

Even so…4 dresses for one event (?)

Yeah it is a lot, but I’m leaning towards it being a nice gesture that they were happy to pay for. Being the mother of the groom, she was going to be in tons of photos and socialising with everyone, so they probably wanted to make sure she had nice outfits for it all. The Ramseys are mega famous and it’s bound to be a huge wedding with pictures all over the internet.

Getting upset about not being able to invite your own list of people to the engagement party, not being allowed to make the wedding place cards and and wanting to wear a cream dress would piss most women off. I bet there’s probably more that’s she’s said/done too.

I am always super sympathetic towards women with overbearing MILs though as mine was an absolute horror 😂

I think she comes out of it well. Unless there’s more to this I think it’s terrible she has been banned.

I think it’s quite sad. The Peatys clearly had their issues but they managed to get through them and keep their family together and, without much resources, raise an Olympian.

Adam has probably had his head turned by the Ramseys, who I am sure are happy but there are also some strange dynamics there - the alleged affair and the issues with Tanas family. They may have then closed ranks and could be very clannish.

A large, happy, wealthy family welcoming you could be very seductive.
I’ve seen it happen, someone marries into a large, happy family and their own more complicated families are sidelined

What is wrong with his mum wearing cream with navy accessories? She is his mother and twice the age of the bride, hardly going to upstage anyone. I still have some sympathy for her although the term ‘in the clutches of Gordon Ramsey’ is a bit comical.

I also wonder if it’s partly what caused issues for the other brother (s). She can’t have been there physically or mentally for other siblings. She drive two hours every morning (was that each way or a round trip) , sat and watched him swim and the same thing every evening. The other kids grew up with a mother who was never in the house and giving her attention to another child. I bet that causes some level of resentment.

Imagine if one of your children was marrying into a rich and famous family. They invite hardly anyone from your side of the family to the engagement party. You might ask that you can bring a few more relatives not from a sense of entitlement but because you are going to find the whole thing a bit isolating and intimidating otherwise.

I agree going to the press is a terrible, irreparable move but let's not pretend that the Ramsays don't do it even more, just differently.

No that’s not what you do, you go to the event, and then have your own. She could have thrown a party for all his side of the family at their home. You don’t contact the host of a party and ask to invite more people.

Our engagement party was simply our friends, siblings and our parents. No aunts, uncles, cousins etc. I would have been astonished if MIL had texted me asking to invite her family.

I think the whole thing is really sad.

She probably wanted her sister at the engagement party because she’d have more in common with her than with Vicky Beckham. I can just see it now, all the rich and famous socialising with the Ramsay family who they’ve known for years, while the few who were invited from the Peaty family were alone in a corner, not knowing anyone. Maybe it was wrong of her to ask, but if Holly’s aunts and uncles were there, why couldn’t Adam’s go?

The 4 outfits is ridiculous to me, and moaning about wearing cream is just silly especially when she said she was pairing it with navy accessories. There’s no mistaking who the bride is at a wedding. This poor woman is 60years old, apparently she has fibromyalgia and uses a stick at times. Are people going to think “ooh there’s a second bride over there” if she’d worn cream and navy, are they heck!

It feels like it’s 6 of one and half a dozen of the other to me, however I do think Adam has had his head turned by the Ramsay’s fame and fortune and is looking down on his family a bit.

It feels like it’s 6 of one and half a dozen of the other to me, however I do think Adam has had his head turned by the Ramsay’s fame and fortune and is looking down on his family a bit.

I think this nails it.

Although considering he has a brother who threatens him and he feels that his mum enables that, it’s not unusual at all that meeting your new in laws and seeing a healthier family dynamic shows how dysfunctional your own family is.

There’s a reason people usually marry someone of own background/class. If there’s a gulf it can be problematic. I remember ‘Alex & Sue’ who met on Blind Date, working class Sue meets Upper Middle class, Alex. Her family warm & confident & his, slightly aloof. Alex himself slightly bonkers but great guy. It worked & Sue ‘became’ upper, middle class.

I’ve also been to a similar wedding as above. There was a lot of ‘they’re up themselves’ from the Bride’s (working class) family & mutterings of ‘she looks like a tart’ from the other, upper middle. The upper middles were old money but couldn’t afford enough booze for do - the bride’s fam suggested a pay bar. Fall out…So, us guests had to arrange an emergency run to Threshers. The posh lot nicked the best wine for top table.

The bride’s fam also wanted the uncle, a pub singer, to do a medley of songs at the stately home. They banned him & he was seething & so on. Groom’s fam men all owned tails/morning suits, Bride’s went to Moss Bros…

If there had been social media at time likely worse. Mum’s fam wanted a knee’s up for engagement & a stripper…Not so other side.

It was hilarious, rather sad & marriage didn’t last.

I've got nothing against the Ramsey's personally but I don't know if I'd call their family dynamics healthy. Same with the Beckham's.

I don't see how a man who's been arrested for action in a public toilet, had a lengthy affair and a woman who's had band aid babies with him after all that to make herself feel valued embody healthy family dynamics!

They're both messed up because their own parents' marriages were dysfunctional.

I’ve missed all that who had a lengthy affair?

Gordon Ramsay. 4 years apparently. Tana's father had another family and has been in prison. Her mother put up with it. The only parent who looks decent was Gordon's mother.

Maybe that’s why Tana puts up with the affairs it is what she has been brought up with. Not healthy dynamics having babies to repair the damage.

I didn't realise until this morning that Tana had a stillborn son about 9 years back too. To be fair Adam's family sound more together than the Ramsays. It's just moolah that puts a gloss on it.

Tana worked as a teacher before she met him. Not for long though, I think she was about 22 when she married him and he was 30. There's definitely issues.

I think the caution for gross indecency with two other men in a tube station toilet was when Gordon was about 26/27. He might have decided he needed a wife for appearances sake after that gave him a scare. The chef world, especially back then, can be unpleasantly macho.

I think it’s interesting that the mother didn’t touch on the subject of her other son being arrested for making death threats against his brother.

Ha yes I did have the same thought right after I posted admittedly!

Do we know it was actually death threats, and not some robust text message telling Adam he could kill him for upsetting his mum? I've said stuff like that tons of times. "I'll kill you when I get my hands on you!" Sent to my cousin for forgetting something she promised to do for me. Doesn't mean I actually do want to kill her!

It could have been that, ramped up for drama.