So sorry to hear that, it sounds hellish.
It seems to me that this is all part of our social breakdown. It's hard not to see parallels with us subsiding the Welfare state as higher taxpayers - assuming for all those years that our significant contribution was appreciated, and feeling good about helping other people - only to have the very people we've been helping spewing bile at us, makung clear how much they hate us and demanding even more.
The reason we have a deep human instinct to help others in our community is that reciprocal support is hugely protective for everyone. Our ancestors all survived, only by supporting each other. We all expect to help others when we can: and recieve help when we need it.
In a society where it's made clear that the support is only in one direction and will never be reciprocated even if needed - in fact we will be actively sabotaged to make outcomes 'fair' - it makes no sense to help others. And our instincts tell us that too - removing the drive to help others. Our ancestors survived toxic communities too, where they would have been bled dry and abandoned if they hadn't protected themselves from others.
Dark days.