Seriously considering my teen trying weed

[ProbsamURbutImattheendofmytether]

I know, I know.

It sounds horrendous and would make me a shit mum.

She has been having myoclonic seizures for years, they are painful and make her life pretty unbearable.

She has no friends, no life outside of the house, can't really do anything much, can't sleep, her education is suffering massively.

I've tried everything, every medication offered, it doesn't help, every type of alternative therapy, every type of traditional therapy, there is nothing I haven't tried.

I just want her to be able to live a somewhat normal life.

I know there are issues with weed, but the side effects of all the meds she has been on have been worse tbh.

I just don't know how to watch her go through this anymore.

I'm giving it some very serious consideration.

I'm not brave enough for AIBU, but I guess that's what I'm asking.

Please be kind, I'm a Mum who hasn't had longer than an hours sleep for 5 years and watching her suffer and be unable to go to school again today has pushed me to the edge honestly.

(NC been on MN for ages if you want to check, I'm not ragebaiting I'm just trying to get opinions because I can't discuss it irl for obvious reasons).

Honestly, I don’t blame you for considering it.

It’s worth a try. Like you say, all medication has side effects.

An epilepsy marijuana forum would be better informed than Mumsnet unless you happen on the right poster

No judgement here. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Weed would be my absolutely last resort but it sounds like that's what it is for you. What does your daughter think though, as that is crucial?

An epilepsy marijuana forum would be better informed than Mumsnet unless you happen on the right poster.

I would 100% do this in fact I would of done it significantly younger. Your daughter shouldn't suffer unnecessarily just because the nhs is shit

I'm so glad the general consensus is that this would be OK.

In my head it sound like a horrific thing to do but I don't know what else there is to try.

I'm researching it a lot at the moment, and haven't approached dd about it yet, I think she will follow me lead which is why I'm trying to get as informed as I can first.

I probably would have considered it when she was younger, but everything I've tried I've wanted to give a chance, and there were more options available to try at the start, I've pretty much ran out of things now.

You don't sound like a shit mum. Quite the opposite. X

I don’t blame you. You are doing it for medicinal reasons as a mum that cannot watch her daughter go through all this pain. Sending you a hug x

Thank you all. I feel a lot better that there have been no horrified responses, and it's seeming a little more rational now.

I am going to spend the weekend doing a bit more research as to potential side effects and which would be the best way to give it to her and possibly try it next week as we are in the school holidays then, just in case she reacts badly or something.

I'm pretty nervous, but this truely is a last resort.

I’d do it in a heartbeat

Do you have any support @ProbsamURbutImattheendofmytether ?

I don’t think you’re a shit mum at all. I would try anything to help my kid.

Dd has a lot of support in school.

We have funding available for some support for her, however it's impossible to use where we live, they have shut down pretty much all of the services it could have been spent on, there are hundreds of families in the same boat.

I have 2 adult dc who help when they can, but between work and uni and their own lives its not much (although I am very grateful for any help they give, they really don't have to).

Her dad washed his hands of her years ago and doesn't see her at all.

So I'm pretty much on my own with her really.

No judgement here at all. Absolutely try it. I’d look into low dose edibles.

Another resounding yes from me, and it definitely doesn’t make you a shit Mum. When my beloved late DH was desperately ill with cancer and painkillers etc were not helping I made him a cake. It was the first time I’ve seen him relaxed and smiling in months. I’d do it again in a heartbeat.

You obviously care deeply for your daughter and you need to do whatever you think will help her - she's lucky to have you x

I was thinking about edibles, my older child suggested a pen but I don't really like the thought of that.

She's absolutely tiny, and I don't want to get her stoned so I'll have to have a good look at doses, but the first few times will be trial and error I think.

I think you are a really fantastic mum.

I dont blame you at all. Start very very very small if you do it and keep a close eye on her mental health. Personally, I react very badly to weed, but im not going to deny other people's lived experience that its been life changing for them.

I am sorry to read about your husband.

You did a really wonderful thing for him, and I hope that brings you some comfort.

I'm so sorry that you have to miss him, its not an easy path 💐

No judgement here. Try it. I'd go for edibles too, rather than vaping. It's a drug like any other, its medicinal uses are proven and it can be prescribed in the UK for epilepsy.

It's mainly her mental health I'm worried about with it, but, to be totally honest, her mental health is in the gutter at the minute anyway. These seizures have affected every area of her life and her confidence is in tatters. She has developed OCD in the last little while as well.

If I could take it all on myself then I absolutely would, its just awful to watch her suffer and not be able to do anything for her, hence the thinking about more extreme measures.

Apologies if you have already tried this, my bil has had a lot of problems finding effective medication for his seizures (nocturnal epilepsy) I had been practicing keto for health reasons and so knew about it's anti-inflammatory attributes. A low carb/high fat diet was also sometimes used to control epilepsy before many modern drugs were found, and still for some who don't find those effective. He claims to have found significant improvement since starting. Worth reading about perhaps.

Re the weed. I know several people who use it medicinally to great effect. One of my employers has ms and was going downhill very quickly. Even converted her house for a future in a wheel chair, wet room, ramps, chair lift. She started cbd cannabis oil capsules (unclear if legal or not I didn't ask) which apparently halted her decline. It's been ten years and shes still not need to use the wheelchair, I still see her cycling around town now. She claims it's the cannabis. It's pretty remarkable if so. I would avoid smoking it of possible.

Do you mean CBD or rolling her a joint.

It is medicinal and can really help.
Personally I’d try CBD oil and potentially move over to the plant (in brownies etc) if I felt like something stronger would be helpful and that was what she wanted too. She’s old enough to have a say.
Sounds like you’re being very sensible.