The psychology behind peoples WhatsApp settings

[lovenotwar149]

SoI have WhatsApp and you can see my 'last seen' etc
I have a few contacts that have hidden this so when I msg them I cannot see when they were last online nor do the ticks go blue when they have read my message. The only time I see 'online' with these contacts is if they reply to my message and start typing when I am messaging them.

Why do you think ppl have their 'last seen' hidden? I find it suspicious tbh

Oh

just seen your other thread on actives about your peculiar husband

yeah im a little different I'll give u that , but harmless , open with my thoughts - they are JUST thoughts and I like me too

You should log out of your mum's account.

ooh are u stalking me now???

why?

Sure you are.

bit rude

Absolutely. Responds like a child.

anyway thanks ppl for replies! Appreciated!

I'm not sure how the fact I don't want people watching and waiting for me to be online, and expecting a reply the instant they can see I have read their message is a red flag?
I don't wish to be monitored in this way.
So many threads about parents tracking their teens, I kind of see people monitoring my whatsapp online status as a version of that tbh.

yes im very young at heart!!!

Another thing that i don’t get why people worry about? I couldn’t care less when they read it or not. i just think there’s bigger things to worry about than adding this to your mental plate

Mine is hidden so I don't have to talk to people when I don't want to. If someone sees that I'm online and wants to start a conversation that I don't want to participate in they get arsey.
I don't always care about my brother's day at work or my nans new lamp. My friends period pain can wait a few hours. My husband can find his own sock. Etc.

But then not knowing how to quote may indicate…. Not young

No OP

it is in Actives

This. I don't want a string of "?" and "you ok?" texts because I have seen a message that I want to think about or just don't have time to reply to.

Also, it cuts both ways. With that setting I can't see whether the other person has read my texts either and so I am not tempted to ruminate about why they haven't responded quickly to me.

Probably because they don’t want to feel rushed into reading or replying to work messages.

Last online is hidden in mine because a 'friend' got possessive and would constantly ring me (and want to be on the phone for hours into the early hours) almost every day and if I didn't reply instantly to her message she'd get stroppy if she saw I was on.

I've stepped away from her now but haven't turned it back on. I do however have the blue ticks still on.

My last online visible but I don’t care about whether anyone sees it. Was talking to a friend about this recently and we seem to be the only people we know who have it on. Everyone else isn’t visible but we don’t judge them.
Receipts turned off are a bit more annoying, not for us but it did lead to conflict previously when someone said they messaged me and it wasn’t received. If they had receipts on they’d see that but they prefer to be suspicious of everyone and have even their profile pic locked down. We’re no longer in contact…..

Obviously, because they don't want you to know when they've seen your message and how long they've waited before responding.

There are differential settings in WhatsApp Privacy

Same here.

I have the 'last seen' set to off for everyone as it is nobody's business but mine when I am online or not. I do let everyone see when I've read their message though, and still reply when I have time which may be later on that day, or the following day.

Some people get would up by this, however my view is that if something is so important that it needs an immediate response, a phone call is the way to go about it. WhatsApp is entirely for brain download at a time convenient for the sender, and for the recipient to reply to as and when they have time. It is a non urgent method of communication.

Fortunately, the majority of my friends have the same approach.

Because some people get worked up if they realise you’ve been on the app and not responded.

I turned off my blue ticks and last seen as I had a member of my team who did not follow the sickness policy for notifying work and would use WhatsApp instead. By turning them off it forced them to follow the proper policy as they could not guarantee I had seen the message. I found it liberating and have kept those settings even though I've not had to deal with that situation for the last 3 years.