The psychology behind peoples WhatsApp settings

[lovenotwar149]

SoI have WhatsApp and you can see my 'last seen' etc
I have a few contacts that have hidden this so when I msg them I cannot see when they were last online nor do the ticks go blue when they have read my message. The only time I see 'online' with these contacts is if they reply to my message and start typing when I am messaging them.

Why do you think ppl have their 'last seen' hidden? I find it suspicious tbh

You don't know because if you turn yours off then it stops you seeing others in return. So likely other people do have theirs on but you can't see it due to your own settings.

I was about to write this. I find these type of people get arsey when you don’t reply immediately or in a timeframe they deem acceptable. Before this feature I’ve head people say to me 'oh I’ saw you were online but didn’t read my message’ and will start an arguement. Or message, call constantly as a follow up. So draining. I am busy and sometimes can’t get to your message at a particular time for valid reasons. I would never ignore just let me breathe! Only my husband is able to see my status.

I turn things off like that too, not because I'm sus - I just don't want the pressure of having to respond right away if someone knows I'm online.

Some people are nosey and stalkers better to keep it hidden.

DingDongJingle ·
Nothing wrong with that at all , each toothier own. I am merely getting ppls opinion here

Can you learn to quote so we know who you are responding to?

it smacks to me that the op is suspicious of a person in her life rather than this setting per se

Ah ok. I can’t say I’ve ever cared when someone else was last online so hadn’t thought much about it.

This.

How is it a red flag?

TickyandTacky

ok I will try , thx

I turn it off because if DD knows I have seen a message and haven't instantly replied she badgers me until I do. I can't be arsed with that.

I won't even have WhatsApp. It feels like people stalk you on it. So many people feel entitled to immediate responses to messages, when the whole point is to reply or not when you feel like it.

I don't like being stalked and checked when I was last online.

So who is it you’re suspicious op? Your partner?

I guess I am quite direct. I doubt feel pressured when the 'other' clearly wants an immediate response

Who are you suspicious of?

Mywindow

Not ,my partner's 'last seen' is visible

I have it turned off because of trauma around a rape and sexual assault.

I don’t want anyone to be able to virtually stalk me and know when I’ve been online as I’ve been stalked online and in real life prior to my rape.

I give zero fucks what anyone thinks about it and if anyone challenged me on it and carried on once I’d explained the above, I would have them blocked and have nothing to do with them either online or offline.

Threads work better if you use the quote option when replying to a specific comment

I have last seen off as I don't want people to see when I was last online, I guess that would the same reason for lots of people

DingDongJingle

the hiddenness of it I guess

I find this way of thinking odd and a lit bit stalker-ish

SauceySally

interesting , thank u for your thoughts

It’s nobody’s business when I was last online. I don’t need anyone tracking when I use a particular app. I have the blue ticks on, I don’t mind people knowing I’ve read their message and I’ll reply when I get the chance. If I need to answer an urgent text to my kids or something in between then i don’t need questioned on why I’ve been online and not responded, sometimes i like to think before i respond or wait until I have time to write a thoughtful message. Seeing activity of others is generally toxic imo

I find it more suspicious when people care about this shit.

Why do you need to see when people have last been online?

What a strange way for you to think. I turn everything off for several reasons

1- What business of it of anyone else’s what time I was last on line in general terms?

2- Same question regarding whether I’ve read a message.

3- The main reason is that I feel time constraints when I know someone can tell I have seen their message. I’ve been in that situation before where someone suggested I have seen their message and they expect an instant reply. I’ll reply in my in my own time not in the time frame someone else decides is appropriate.

4- I didn’t want my work colleagues/boss to know as soon as I seen a message because it’s my personal number an o didn’t even want to be part of a general work chat! Give us a work phone if that’s needed for the job!

But why? How does it affect your like knowing when someone was last using a particular app, or not?