The psychology behind peoples WhatsApp settings

[lovenotwar149]

SoI have WhatsApp and you can see my 'last seen' etc
I have a few contacts that have hidden this so when I msg them I cannot see when they were last online nor do the ticks go blue when they have read my message. The only time I see 'online' with these contacts is if they reply to my message and start typing when I am messaging them.

Why do you think ppl have their 'last seen' hidden? I find it suspicious tbh

Yep this is it for me as well. I cannot be bothered with the whole "argh they know I've read their message so I have to reply soon". Also the other way around - if I can see they've read my message but haven't responded yet, it gives me anxiety. So I just prefer to not have that function enabled, it's far less stressful all round.

Why do people see this as a red flag, out of interest? Why is wanting privacy = having something to hide?

Those who say it’s a red flag, what is it a red flag for? What negative character traits are associated with not wanting people to see when you were last using an online app? Or with not wanting to see when other people last used an online app?

I turned mine off many moons ago because I didn't want my boss to see I was online messaging my mates when I was suppose to be concentrating on my job. I have since grown up and manage a young adult who frustratingly uses his phone a lot when he should be working. Karmas a bitch!

i have mine set like this. Because nobody has the right to track my online movements and they’ll get a message when I make time to reply and not before it. The need to see whether others are online or not, or when they last were is a bit creepy and stalker ish imo

I have never really bought the whole "why do you care if you have nothing to hide" line. I am not doing anything immoral/illegal/undesirable, but that still doesn't mean I want everyone knowing where I am /what I'm doing all the time. I mean I don't "hide" the fact that I wear underwear, but I also don't wave it out of the window.

Sometimes I put my phone in aeroplane mode to respond to messages so no one can see I’m in the app. I am extremely private though and don’t engage in any social media. I think monitoring other people’s online behaviour is very controlling.

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Wowza , just wow! FYI I dont drink at all! I did go to see a doctor who said I might be paranoid , well , he didnt actually say that but I could tell its what the bas was thinking!!!!

Just send me jokes from now on , its way more fun than the other stuff u wrote!!

Apologies if u r irritated again!!

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Just as 'juvenile' as OP's posts. This isn't an airport, no need to announce you're leaving the thread.

I'd honestly rather take OP's lighthearted juvenile "batshitness" than the unwarranted nasty attacks and ad hominem in these posts.

Posters are making the OP look like a saint in this thread. How bizarre to have such visceral hateful reaction to someone being a bit "silly".

You are definitely a woman I'd get on with!!! Respect!

This thread gets weirder and weirder 😁

This tbh. Why would anyone want to know about someone else’s movements on WhatsApp.

Oh, she's not lighthearted, have you not been paying attention? She opened with paranoid musings about other people's privacy and then when she didn't get a positive response it's been pages and pages of her just yelling at strangers under the guise of "joking" plus reporting posts right and left - sorry but this person takes herself really seriously.

Honestly, she's giving off a really weird vibe and makes me really uncomfortable, I can totally see why people hide their whatsapp settings from her.

The red flag of having boundaries and not being at everyone else's beck and call at all times, there are a few people on Mumsnet who really hate that.

I keep last seen off my WhatsApp and when I’m asked why in real life I say it’s because I like having privacy or don’t like feeling pressured to reply. But the truth is I have some friends who get weirdly angry about it and I like that it winds them up.

oh give us a break.

Lol. I mean, that's why I am big on ghosting tbh - I haven't done it for years - though I would if I wanted to - but I am always in favour of it whenever anyone asks. And it's because ghosting just enrages the right people, they turn into frothing, foaming loons at the notion of just leaving people in peace. I do actually take pleasure in seeing pushy nutters being ignored. 😂

I'm not actually even sure what my settings are.

I literally only have it because work forced me to join a work WhatsApp group (which I hate as everyone now has access to my personal mobile number).

I have turned notifications off though as they annoy the living daylights out of me. I check it on my work days but don't feel I should have to outside of work.

Do you wonder how the same people coped in the days before social media and hell the internet in general and texts even existed? 😳🤔

Whilst I completely understand the convenience/safety/connection aspect I also in way miss the days where I could just go about life without someone requiring an instant response to everything 🙃