Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Eternally single and fed up

177 replies

SafeSex · 15/09/2025 11:46

How do people make sense of life when you're single and childless? I've been single for twenty years and, more immediately, haven't had a conversation with an adult since last Thursday and won't until tomorrow.

I just matched with someone on Tinder and they asked where I live. I'd already told him the rough area of London and said I didn't want to be more specific, at which point he asked me if I was one of those crazy women who thinks every man is a stalker (complete with emoji). I explained I was just being cautious but apparently he "didn't agree with how I date" and I was not for him. WTF??

I'm reasonably good at making friends, but practically all of them are in couples and most have kids so weekends and holidays tend to involve a lot of solitude.

I don't really know what I want from this thread. Solidarity, maybe. Please don't give me a list of ways to meet people or how to meet men as I can assure you I have tried all of them, several times.

I'm quite independent, both practically and emotionally, but this is getting me down.

OP posts:
CopeNorth · 19/09/2025 18:24

SafeSex · 15/09/2025 18:56

Not much older!

Maybe I'll try Bumble friendship. It would be good to have some more single friends who are available at the weekend.

Yes. I would second making some more single friends. Plus solo travel. Pack up, head off and just please yourself. Do the things you love that you might have to compromise on if you were in a relationship. I found that really freeing and made me feel like I wasn’t just waiting to meet someone which made me feel miserable!

SafeSex · 19/09/2025 19:18

CopeNorth · 19/09/2025 18:24

Yes. I would second making some more single friends. Plus solo travel. Pack up, head off and just please yourself. Do the things you love that you might have to compromise on if you were in a relationship. I found that really freeing and made me feel like I wasn’t just waiting to meet someone which made me feel miserable!

I've done lots of solo travel, both joining a group as a solo traveller and travelling completely by myself (I did say I'd tried everything!). I did once meet a man in a group trip, but he turned out to be a total and utter waste of space. (One of his most annoying habits was when I made a joke he would just stare at me. It was clearly deliberate just to be an arse.) He also turned up once wearing shoes that were about three sizes too big, so he looked like a clown and couldn't walk properly. This was a guy who was an Oxford graduate and had a responsible job in senior management.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread