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You think the British class system is a bit of a thing from the past, then you start looking into university’s and realise oh here it is, it’s still alive and kicking

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Ohhereiswhereitis · 17/07/2025 08:57

like it’s just become a bit more hidden

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MonGrainDeSel · 18/07/2025 00:03

Many graduate schemes nowadays recruit blind so nobody sees where you went to university.

MrsPatmore · 18/07/2025 00:10

I think I read that Cambridge are changing the way they consider applicants as the markers they used had largely the same privileged kids gaining places (kids at selective state schools/middle class areas like the Cambridge Hills Rd 6th form). Anecdotally everyone we know who is at Oxbridge either has a parent who was there, a parent who is a teacher or their siblings were there. All middle class, educated households, usually comfortably off.

Moving forward I think they’ll be looking at Polar and Acorn data.

ThisTicklishFatball · 18/07/2025 00:17

For over thirty years, we've had access to a world of endless information through the internet, yet countless people still choose not to research how to get into top universities, pick the best courses, build thriving careers, land great jobs, or pursue meaningful paths that allow them to do what they love while earning a decent income. Instead, they blame the rich and wealthy for their own lack of motivation to secure their futures. The rich and wealthy will do whatever it takes to maintain their status, while the middle class and poor become keyboard warriors instead of focusing on creating comfort in life. I'm not even talking about wealth here, just the simple comfort of living. Some go even further, blaming and cursing their parents, grandparents, and even great-great-grandparents, focusing on how their lives are now instead of making a change.

coxesorangepippin · 18/07/2025 01:00

First thing I was asked at uni: what does your dad do?

Says it all

Ohhereiswhereitis · 18/07/2025 01:15

YippieKayakOtherBuckets · 17/07/2025 09:56

TBH it takes a pretty high level of privilege to think that the class system is a thing of the past. Anyone who’s at the sharp end of it is in no doubt whatsoever that it endures.

Yes I do totally agree with that

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mathanxiety · 18/07/2025 01:39

r0ck · 17/07/2025 09:53

The thing that surprised me when we did a punting tour in Cambridge recently is that the guide said that Cambridge students are not allowed to work part-time alongside their studies, which I would think automatically excludes a % of the population that can't afford to live on student loans alone. So on that basis, provided that is indeed accurate it does seem a bit exclusionary.

The terms are short, and there's nothing stopping a student from working outside of term.

LemondrizzleShark · 18/07/2025 01:52

PhelanSegur · 17/07/2025 11:04

This. Part of the reason I went to Oxford was the cheaper food and accommodation, and the fact that shorter terms meant more time for me to work in the vac. Plus I opted for my college in part because it was rich and had a big hardship fund.

I’m the daughter of a binman. No one in the family had ever stayed in education past 14. I was surrounded by ex-public schoolboys. It was fine. I wasn’t debugged and thrown in the Isis. Nor did I blag my way into my rich classmate’s country house, commit multiple murders abd then dance through it naked.

You missed a trick there love Wink

mathanxiety · 18/07/2025 01:58

Cynic17 · 17/07/2025 16:34

Universities are very meritocratic. If anything, lots of young people are actually at a disadvantage from attending private school, because universities are applying quotas for state school pupils.
If a parent supports and encourages a bright child, then the child will be fine. It's about effort, not social class.

My relatives, and many of my friends too, who emigrated from Ireland to the UK made it their business to figure out what it took to get a child into Oxbridge / RG universities, and were accused of having 'sharp elbows' if they revealed their academic focus and how seriously they took their children's education. They had the last laugh when their offspring were admitted to various leading universities.

They always got the impression that they were expected to 'know their place', that encouraging their children, giving them aspirations, and researching the application and interview process in order to guide them when schools did not or could not, was cheeky fuckery.

MyLov · 18/07/2025 03:20

Why on earth would you think the British class system is a thing of the past? It’s very obviously still alive and kicking.

CurlewKate · 18/07/2025 04:15

The only place the class system is dead is on Mumsnet, where everyone has soldly working class roots, is the first member of their family to go to university and has at lest one Oxbridge degree…

ThePure · 18/07/2025 06:00

r0ck · 17/07/2025 09:53

The thing that surprised me when we did a punting tour in Cambridge recently is that the guide said that Cambridge students are not allowed to work part-time alongside their studies, which I would think automatically excludes a % of the population that can't afford to live on student loans alone. So on that basis, provided that is indeed accurate it does seem a bit exclusionary.

Cambridge Uni terms are very short though so everyone works in the holidays. That’s what I did as someone whose parents could not necessarily afford to sub me. I had various jobs in shops, bars and hotels every holiday throughout uni.

pucksack · 18/07/2025 06:13

TBH it takes a pretty high level of privilege to think that the class system is a thing of the past. Anyone who’s at the sharp end of it is in no doubt whatsoever that it endures.

Agree

unsurewhattodoaboutit · 18/07/2025 06:16

The theoretical principle is called Educational Capital and it was coined by Pierre Bordieux.

QuiteUnbelievable · 18/07/2025 06:21

@smallglassbottle what is stopping him from getting into politics ? I don't really know but a relative worked in Westminster via the civil service and you can also work on teams for people ?
What does he hope to do now ?

pucksack · 18/07/2025 06:23

The issue is wealth inequality, not class inequality. You have very wealthy WC and poor MC.

But which class is more likely to be wealthy? I thought it dc were more likely to own a home if their parents did or go to private school if one of their parents did?

pucksack · 18/07/2025 06:25

No, for the millionth time, all the recent social mobility research shows that it is wealth inequality that counts, not class.

Can you link to this? And how is it separating class from wealth?

pucksack · 18/07/2025 06:28

The only place the class system is dead is on Mumsnet, where everyone has soldly working class roots, is the first member of their family to go to university and has at lest one Oxbridge degree…

Why are posters so keen to deny its existence or say it's irrelevant?

Absentmindedsmile · 18/07/2025 06:34

For over thirty years, we've had access to a world of endless information through the internet, yet countless people still choose not to research how to get into top universities, pick the best courses, build thriving careers, land great jobs, or pursue meaningful paths that allow them to do what they love while earning a decent income.
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Instead, they blame the rich and wealthy for their own lack of motivation to secure their futures.
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The rich and wealthy will do whatever it takes to maintain their status, while the middle class and poor become keyboard warriors instead of focusing on creating comfort in life. I'm not even talking about wealth here, just the simple comfort of living.

Agreed. But it’s the easier option to blame external factors rather than take responsibility, so human nature prevails. I see / hear it all the time. That’s not to say we all have equal starting points - of course we don’t.

Meadowfinch · 18/07/2025 06:37

Not sure it's the class system, rather that children of graduate parents have been raised to see university as a natural progression to a profession. If it's been talked of as an option since they were small, it's no big deal.

I was the first in my family to go to uni, against my f's wishes and he actively tried to stop me. It was a battle but I scraped in.

My ds has planned university since year 7. He knows where he wants to go, the degree he wants to take, the grades he will need and how we will deal with the fees. Sensibly he also has a backup plan.

pucksack · 18/07/2025 06:38

For over thirty years, we've had access to a world of endless information through the internet

30 years ago, I hadn't even been on the internet...most didn't have access over 30 yrs ago. 😆

pucksack · 18/07/2025 06:39

pick the best courses, build thriving careers, land great jobs, or pursue meaningful paths that allow them to do what they love while earning a decent income.

but a decent income is often not enough to build wealth these days.

WhitegreeNcandle · 18/07/2025 06:41

of course the class system is still up and running. I do wonder if the Uni thing will start to change though. Unless it’s very academic or something like dentistry I really can’t see its worth the money any more. I’m seriously considering advising my kids to do an apprenticeship, look at trades etc which will horrify their grandparents.

TheyreLikeUsButRichAndThin · 18/07/2025 06:43

Ohhereiswhereitis · 17/07/2025 09:44

Things like how many kids go to certain place, the percent that come from private education then another percent that come from grammar school the way certain schools teach the kids how to apply and get into these places

the way these kids even have had the confidence instilled into them that they’ve belong there

agree that nepotism and connections also plays a huge part in the after uni life

they way for some kids being bogged down 60/80k worth of uni debt is a lot worse for some than others

That’s life.

Absentmindedsmile · 18/07/2025 06:47

pucksack · 18/07/2025 06:38

For over thirty years, we've had access to a world of endless information through the internet

30 years ago, I hadn't even been on the internet...most didn't have access over 30 yrs ago. 😆

(😆) Agreed but that was the original quote. It’s at least 20years. The point being - a long time.

QuiteUnbelievable · 18/07/2025 06:51

@OxfordInkling which college did you go too apparently some have more money

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