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You think the British class system is a bit of a thing from the past, then you start looking into university’s and realise oh here it is, it’s still alive and kicking

182 replies

Ohhereiswhereitis · 17/07/2025 08:57

like it’s just become a bit more hidden

OP posts:
GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/07/2025 17:06

rickyrickygrimes · 17/07/2025 16:53

The French have racaille which means ‘scum’.

Many years ago dh and I were travelling from Beirut into parts of Syria, in taxis. In our small tour party (just 2 taxis) were 3 French women of a certain age. One was from Paris, and chose firmly to share our taxi, since she wouldn’t have anything to do with the other two.

I forget where they were from, but it wasn’t Paris. I mean this in the nicest possible way, since they were great fun and a good laugh, but the Brit equivalent at the time might well have been a pair of Blackpool landladies out on a spree.
Madame Parisienne was most exceedingly sniffy about them!

pancakestastelikecrepe · 17/07/2025 17:45

Ohhereiswhereitis · 17/07/2025 08:57

like it’s just become a bit more hidden

I'm from a WC background. My DS graduated with a First from a top ten RG university, yesterday, and will study for his MA at a global top ten university - all on merit.
PS If you're going to goad, at least learn how to use an apostrophe 🙄

whynotmereally · 17/07/2025 18:33

If you live in a deprived area you definitely know the class system is live and kicking

Notellinganyone · 17/07/2025 18:48

Cambridge terms are significantly shorter so plenty of time to work in the holidays. Also accommodation is much cheaper and you only pay for term time so loan goes further l

Notellinganyone · 17/07/2025 18:50

The apostrophe is correct here.

RattyMcBatty · 17/07/2025 18:55

Cynic17 · 17/07/2025 16:34

Universities are very meritocratic. If anything, lots of young people are actually at a disadvantage from attending private school, because universities are applying quotas for state school pupils.
If a parent supports and encourages a bright child, then the child will be fine. It's about effort, not social class.

Quotas? Really? I thought they were just trying to pull the brightest from across the whole population, regardless of wealth?

rickyrickygrimes · 17/07/2025 19:25

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/07/2025 17:06

Many years ago dh and I were travelling from Beirut into parts of Syria, in taxis. In our small tour party (just 2 taxis) were 3 French women of a certain age. One was from Paris, and chose firmly to share our taxi, since she wouldn’t have anything to do with the other two.

I forget where they were from, but it wasn’t Paris. I mean this in the nicest possible way, since they were great fun and a good laugh, but the Brit equivalent at the time might well have been a pair of Blackpool landladies out on a spree.
Madame Parisienne was most exceedingly sniffy about them!

Snooty Parisians are in a class (boom boom) of their own, even by French standards.

Ladamesansmerci · 17/07/2025 19:37

People who don't think social class underpins the vast majority of things in UK society are mostly speaking from a place of privilege. It's absolute madness to say social class isn't important, because it is, for many reasons. And it is a huge barrier to accessing education. Wealth inequality is also important.

pancakestastelikecrepe · 17/07/2025 19:38

Notellinganyone · 17/07/2025 18:50

The apostrophe is correct here.

Err?

pancakestastelikecrepe · 17/07/2025 19:41

Notellinganyone · 17/07/2025 18:50

The apostrophe is correct here.

Go on...

GentleIron · 17/07/2025 19:45

Notellinganyone · 17/07/2025 18:50

The apostrophe is correct here.

university's

But who cares?

GentleIron · 17/07/2025 19:49

Of course the class system isn't a thing of the past. Who even thinks that? It is systemic. And it's definitely not just 'an English thing'. Continental Europe is much the same, as is Scandinavia. Rife.

CurlewKate · 17/07/2025 19:49

The British class system is alive and,sadly, well.

SarfLondonLad · 17/07/2025 20:02

Ohhereiswhereitis · 17/07/2025 08:57

like it’s just become a bit more hidden

Son of a postman from South London here and I cannot say that I noticed this when applying to Uni or when I was there.

lovemeblender · 17/07/2025 20:18

pourmeadrinkpls · 17/07/2025 10:57

Absolutely, it's only a thing in England. The fact a name means something is messed up in itself. The whole class thing, isn't a thing elsewhere. (Obviously other countries still have a rich and poor divide)

Edited

Not true at all, and very odd you think that it's entirely exclusive in England.

Screamingabdabz · 17/07/2025 20:26

It’s laughable to talk about there being an equality of opportunity and access to top universities when the class disadvantages start before people are even born - language, accent, cultural capital, quality of education, aspiration, role models etc.

The fact that many high paying careers recruit PURELY from Oxbridge, and Oxbridge colleges recruit mainly from private schools tells you everything you need to know whether there is a class system or not.

And yes, some of that is money, but if you don’t speak RP, or go skiing, or know people who own their own stables, or any of the other many nuanced class signifiers, you’re not going to pass either.

MaturingCheeseball · 17/07/2025 20:30

@Screamingabdabz - are you just goading or having a laugh? You are actually posting lies which some may believe. Shame on you.

Ponderingwindow · 17/07/2025 20:33

You are talking about socioeconomic class, not aristocracy. That won’t be going away.

Upper middle class and upper class parents have been shown to parent differently. It’s not better or worse than other parenting, it is just different. The result is children who are raised with a sense that they belong and that they will succeed if they work hard. They are taught to speak to authority as equals even as children, always polite, but able to articulate a point. These are social mores that help young adults access lucrative and fulfilling careers. That is the primary parenting goal, to launch children who can maintain their socioeconomic status.

There is frequent talk on mumsnet about how not all children are academic and not everyone is university material. That is just not something that happens in some social circles unless someone has profound differences in ability. Children are raised with high expectations and there is never any doubt that they will meet their goals.

IAmQuiteNiceActually · 17/07/2025 21:13

r0ck · 17/07/2025 09:53

The thing that surprised me when we did a punting tour in Cambridge recently is that the guide said that Cambridge students are not allowed to work part-time alongside their studies, which I would think automatically excludes a % of the population that can't afford to live on student loans alone. So on that basis, provided that is indeed accurate it does seem a bit exclusionary.

But for parents on very low incomes, Cambridge provide full bursaries which include accommodation costs. It's what I wanted my DS to do but he didn't want the pressure of applying and the interview so he's at Warwick.

It's still easier for us because he gets the full maintenance loan (plus a small bursary) and as I've only discovered recently, the loan is never paid back anyway (and not worth trying because of the interest) so he won't be paying more than a lot of people who didn't receive the full loan.

IAmQuiteNiceActually · 17/07/2025 21:20

RattyMcBatty · 17/07/2025 18:55

Quotas? Really? I thought they were just trying to pull the brightest from across the whole population, regardless of wealth?

It's easier to get into Cambridge from Hill Road sixth form (state sixth form in Cambridge). That's why many privately educated kids in Cambridge go there. (Also because it's free and one of the best sixth forms in the country.)

pancakestastelikecrepe · 17/07/2025 21:51

GentleIron · 17/07/2025 19:45

university's

But who cares?

Edited

Really?

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GentleIron · 17/07/2025 22:23

pancakestastelikecrepe · 17/07/2025 21:51

Really?

@Notellinganyone was saying that the apostrophe was correct in the section quoted "like it’s just become a bit more hidden". I drew attention to OP's use of the apostrophe in university's which is what I assumed you were referring to, to highlight that posters were looking at different sets of apostrophes.
Personally, I really don't give a fig about how posters on an online fourm spell or use punctuation; I'm just pleased to read their contributions.

MonGrainDeSel · 17/07/2025 23:54

IAmQuiteNiceActually · 17/07/2025 21:20

It's easier to get into Cambridge from Hill Road sixth form (state sixth form in Cambridge). That's why many privately educated kids in Cambridge go there. (Also because it's free and one of the best sixth forms in the country.)

This is nonsense.

Hills Road has something like 3000 students. Of those, ~80 a year get into Oxbridge. There are some private schools where a much larger percentage of the much smaller year go, so 50 from a year of 110 or 60 from 200. This isn't because of class or wealth (except indirectly because 90% of the cohort in those private schools are paying full fees so are obviously wealthy), it's because the kids in those highly competitive schools had to pass a very selective exam to get in and obviously more of them are going to be very bright because the schools have already selected the brightest children available to them from a generous pool. Plus they don't have the disruption of cover teachers who can't teach the subject, lack of facilities, underfunding etc. And the schools are set up to help them with Oxbridge applications, of course, as I'm sure Hills Road does too given that they are proud of their Oxbridge results.

Plus universities like Oxford and Cambridge do look at where GCSEs were taken so will be well aware of what kind of privilege is in play (or not). Moving to a state sixth form after having been at private until GCSE confers no real advantage. It's marginal at best.

MrsPatmore · 18/07/2025 00:02

Screamingabdabz · 17/07/2025 20:26

It’s laughable to talk about there being an equality of opportunity and access to top universities when the class disadvantages start before people are even born - language, accent, cultural capital, quality of education, aspiration, role models etc.

The fact that many high paying careers recruit PURELY from Oxbridge, and Oxbridge colleges recruit mainly from private schools tells you everything you need to know whether there is a class system or not.

And yes, some of that is money, but if you don’t speak RP, or go skiing, or know people who own their own stables, or any of the other many nuanced class signifiers, you’re not going to pass either.

This isn’t true but I understand the sentiment behind it and agree that privilege and, therefore, greater opportunity start at an early age. Occupations like Law still like to recruit from Oxbridge and those students are probably over represented in the top firms.

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