Do you cry when leaving holiday resort?

[lovemeblender]

I haven't been in a resort for years so don't know if this is a thing, but yesterday I was talking to someone who just came back from holiday, saying she (and her family) were "bawling their eyes out" when leaving, how the staff became like family, how they are going to keep in touch with them and intend to visit them again. It brought back memories of when I was an early teen (the last time I was in a resort) and there were families crying like this, promising to write to staff and do on.
Sometimes I feel a bit sad to be leaving a place, but have never felt devastated or feeling that I have a special bond with the staff. I'm now wondering if there's something wrong with me?!

I often feel a bit down when coming back from a holiday, but this is nuts

I always think the staff must be inwardly doing massive sniggers and eye rolls when yet another bunch of pasty British tourists hug them goodbye and act like they’re now special friends for life. As they open the door to a new bunch of exactly the same people!

Or the people that genuinely think the hotel staff remember them from last year. Don’t they have the self awareness to consider just how many hundreds of generic tourists pass through those hotels each season and that it’s part of the job to make them feel special and ‘like family’?!

People like this cannot be for real. Embarrassing

Just returned from holiday and was cringing for the people hugging the staff, promising to keep in touch etc etc.

Yes, the staff are nice people, hospitality attracts people that are generally nice, but they have no interest in you beyond doing their job, its a revolving door of people, they don't really care about you.

No. That’s absolutely pathetic.

No. I can’t wait to get back to normal life.

I see what you did there....

Oh this is sad. The staff are paid to act like their friends to keep them coming back every year no matter how much they actually like them. And they actually think they are genuine friends…

That is something that is REALLY worth crying about.

God no! I love going on holiday, enjoy my time away but I don't overly involve myself with other people whilst away. We went to Kos last year (highly recommend by the way!) and the owner and his family spent time with the guests, and most were repeat visitors. We were friendly, and I'd go back to the hotel in the future, but I didn't feel the need to cry when we left. The owner and his family were lovely people, very welcoming etc, but I didn't go home thinking 'we were like family'!! If you work in the hospitality industry you are paid to be nice to guests!

I would say its very unusual to see people crying when checking out of a resort. They obviously had an amazing time and the staff were great - most resorts I've been to the staff looked overstretched and don't seem to have any spare time for chatting with guests.

I wonder sometimes if my parents had a touch of this. We have some pictures in an album from the early 90s of a family holiday when we were all young. Little sis smiling with Miguel the waiter, Dad and Mum draped around Miguel, me and other sis giving thumbs up and tongues out with Miguel beaming between us. It's funny cos I'd probably still recognise him if our paths crossed from the photos.

The only way it's 'normal' to make friends with staff is when the hotel staff are young student types there for a season only and they bond with young adults there with family. I saw this happen once they would go out together after their shift and it was a two way friendship. Different from what OP described.

She sounds exhausting! For herself as much as others.

my face when I see people like this when I leave a holiday and people are doing a performance leaving.

Whenever I leave the place I am holidaying at to come home I feel.sad, and did once cry in the car, mostly because I had really needed the break, and had such a good time, and loved the area.

I did for the first time last year. I knew we’d never go back. It was the best holiday ever. It was where we’d had our honeymoon 25 years previously. It was a holiday of a lifetime and we were saying goodbye to our butler who’d gone above and beyond. We knew we’d never be back due to the cost!

'I know that the stripper loves me because I gave her a fat stack of notes.'

Nothing wrong with you, I've never felt like that and am always glad to get home no matter how much I've enjoyed a holiday.

I don’t think I’ve ever actually cried but I’ve felt glum on leaving a holiday resort though. Not because of any attachment to staff (that’s slightly odd) more because the holiday is over and it’s back to real life! There is such a build up to a holiday and normally it is such an awesome escape from normality that I think it’s normal to feel a bit sad to leave.

Haven’t been abroad for a few years, but DP used to gather up ‘friends’ and ‘mates’ left, right and centre everywhere we went. I HATED it. Occasionally they were people we met up with again once or twice, but generally it was a recurring barman or waiter or shop assistant or something. He would be all matey with them very quickly and exchanged contact details when leaving and got all teary eyed, then kept referring to them when we got home as if they were long lost family. And I’d be thinking ‘who?’🤣

Hotel staff are working for a tip. I'd worry someone was vulnerable if they thought that they were genuine friends and cried leaving them. Madness.

God no, I'm delighted to go. Absolutely hate holidays, only go to please the rest of the family.

No, never encountered such a thing.

The only even remotely similar experience I have had was went I was about 13 and went skiing, there was a young mother in my group who really took me under her wing so to speak and looked after me. We were on the same flight home and I remember feeling a bit tearful when I had to say goodbye to her at the airport.

Just reminded myself of staying at TUI Atlantica Golden Beach last year.

Lovely adult only hotel just outside of Paphos in Cyprus. But, nearly everyone there were repeat visitors, they even had a FB group set up calling themselves 'the faithfuls'🫣. As much as I desperately tried to avoid speaking to anyone I did slip up a few times and heard all the stories, 'been coming here for 15 years', 'we exchange Xmas cards with the staff', 'we were here last year when Jeanie had a medical episode, she was repatriated but died back in the UK. Jeanie's husband had a cathether and a retired nurse on holiday at the hotel had to help him with it after Jeanie was taken to hospital.' (This conversation nearly ended me!)

Was horrendous, it was a lovely hotel too but the guests were a 'we're so special' nightmare. Naturally I won't become one of 'The faithfuls' 🤣.

I saw this very bleakly years ago when my
mum died on holiday. I went out to deal with everything and her friends were saying ‘oh xxx, the waiter, will be so sad when he’s back on shift’. She’d been going there for years, met the same people every year and knew all the staff, often mentioning them by name in her letters home.
Well, xxx came back on shift and clearly could not give 2p. The hotel
staff were polite but just wanted us away out of there, bringing everyone down with our sadness. We were obviously not going to be recurring customers so..