Do you cry when leaving holiday resort?

[lovemeblender]

I haven't been in a resort for years so don't know if this is a thing, but yesterday I was talking to someone who just came back from holiday, saying she (and her family) were "bawling their eyes out" when leaving, how the staff became like family, how they are going to keep in touch with them and intend to visit them again. It brought back memories of when I was an early teen (the last time I was in a resort) and there were families crying like this, promising to write to staff and do on.
Sometimes I feel a bit sad to be leaving a place, but have never felt devastated or feeling that I have a special bond with the staff. I'm now wondering if there's something wrong with me?!

Blimey...some people are exhausting! All that drama and really a bad influence for the kids as well. In no way 'normal'. But to caveat I prefer to keep myaelf to myself...so never developed any kind of relationship...same with last day at school....all that wailing.....nope.

I’ve never been to a resort but when I was in year 6 I went to a residential trip and fell head over heels in love with one of the men.

I cried when I had to leave.

I imagine it’s like a grown up version of that.
Where you feel so safe and happy and then realise you’ll never see these people again.

I have enjoyed some people watching when Family Fresh off the Plane bowl into a taverna arms out to hug, braying the waiters first name and expecting to be greeted like family…cringe-tastic as the polite staff desperately try and remember who they are.

Extra points for hale and hearty “one of my usual, please Yannis!” and then has to specify.

Er no, that would be weird.

I’ve not cried at going home from holiday for a long time. Although I did cry on the holiday when I met my husband. I actually moved back
out there too. I used to watch all the people who thought they had new family or met the love of their life and see the people working there move on to the next lot the minute they had gone.

It really was something else. I love her dearly but I haven't done anything more than an overnight trip since. The whole weekend was one big emotional rollercoaster and mortifying at times. She too makes besties with all the staff and really doesn't seem to get that the staff are paid to be nice. Her DH deserves a medal and a sainthood. I have no idea how he does it. He is so laid back he's horizontal.

Definitely not. Also people who become ‘besties’ with the staff and just needy. Don’t get me wrong the staff on holiday are usually lovely but I find it weird when you see people acting like they are their best buddies. It’s like they want the other guests to feel less important than they are because they are pals with the barman. And when these guests shout said bar staff by name and look around to catch the admiration of other guests. Cringe.

No, I don't but I can relate in a way. We had a holiday cottage in Wales we visited many times for years. It almost started to feel like a second home. Earlier this year we went online to book and discovered that it's no longer being used as a holiday home. I felt really upset at the thought that we will never stay there ever again and, yes, I did shed a few tears!

😂 I cried when I left Butlins, I was 7 and had had the time of my life with all my cousins and family.
However, not done that as an adult! Although we do have a family tradition of doing a funny ‘sad face’ photo at the end of holidays, which started as a piss take of the kind of people who do that whole performance when leaving a resort 😬

On the note of Disney, when I was at the airport going on holiday there was a group of adults all with Mickey mouse ears and matching t-shirts with Disney 2025 on them. Did a bit of a cringe at that I must admit.

I'll just leave this here (Sistine Chapel )

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3178898-DH-embarrassed-by-my-sensitivity

Oh blimey! I remember inwardly crying coming home from holidays with my grandparents as a kid but this was because I hated my homelife with my parents. I'm the opposite now & enjoy my holidays but I look forward to coming home & I think that's healthy. Also we never make 'friends' on holiday, we're always polite & happy to chat briefly but holidays are family time for us. Your friends sound bonkers!

I used to do this as a child. Dc does it now. I believe it's linked to my autism and attachment.

I can hand on heart say that feeling emotions that big is both blessing and a curse. I envy people who feel things a 'normal' amount 😂

You are normal, they are crazy

I did once after a wonderful Greek holiday. The hotel and staff were incredible, food out of this world and it was so peaceful. Didnt want to come back to reality.

When I was 14 we went on a family holiday to a small hotel in Turkey. There were only a few English families, and everyone even the parents were chatting round the pool and on the beach. One of the waiters in particular, called Tanju was only 16, he made friends with us gang of kids. He was being conscripted into the army and didn't want to go 😢 he was saying he couldn't afford new shoes his were trashed so some of the adults had a whip round and bought him new ones. When we left all the staff including the owners came out to say bye, gave the ladies and girls little flowers all us kids and some adults cried. It was a magical holiday that I remember nearly 40 years later. My brother and Tanju wrote letters for a while when we got home 😁

Same 😁

This thread reminds me a bit of Hi-De-Hi, when Ted used to make this big thing about everyone being part of the Maplins family, and they would all queue up to buy him birthday drinks - not realising he had a birthday every fortnight 😄

However, I do think some responses are deliberately going to the other extreme of “the staff forget you the instant you leave, you sad idiots!!” just to show off how they’re above all that. There’s nothing really wrong with being friendly and enjoying being treated like a regular. It’s only when you take it for something more than it is - i.e. crying and saying they’re “like family” - that it gets ridiculous. I have some of the staff from my favourite holiday bar on Facebook; we always chat when I go back and it’s nice to be remembered. However, I’m under no illusions that they somehow see me as a close friend, or that there aren’t a dozen other regulars they treat in exactly the same way!

I don't want to be too sneery about people bonding with resort staff. I've had times in my life when I've been lonely and isolated and there are loads of maladaptive coping strategies and effects it can have on you. This isn't anywhere near the worst of them.

No never cried when I've left somewhere like that.
Ive never understood the whole making friends with staff or other holiday goers either. I'm proper anti social.

Though funnily enough I'm friends on Facebook with a waiter we met in turkey who was very chatty and lovely. Few years later we went to same resort he wasn't working in restaurants by then, and we hadnt posted on fb we were there but he saw on us the street one day and was literally running down the road to greet us shouting our names. So maybe they don't always move on the minute we get on the coach home.

Uh no. Sure it’s great when a holiday has been a success but cry? I don’t even feel a twinge.

Just shows different strokes for different folks….i would LOVE this 😂😂😂

Keeping in touch is nonsense, especially when you told them you have a 5 bed detached with pool. Lol

My god this app sometimes is just terrible..so what if they do..what is wrong with it and why are they weird ? Mortifying ? Cringe worthy? Because the women on mumsnet say so ?? Do you lot year yourselves? Is it the heat make you behave so bitchy ? Good god who needs friends when you can have so bitchy evil neighbours or family like you lot..