DD is pregnant at 14

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Can’t believe I am writing this my DD is pregnant and she’s only 14. I’m shocked I posted on here for some support as I am a single parent and haven’t told anyone. My head is all over the place 😔

I can imagine how you feel OP, that’s a big shock. Do you know how many weeks she’s likely to be? I’m glad she’s told you though.

Oh goodness. Does she know what she wants to do?

Oh I bet your head is all over the place!
All the things you must be thinking about, a lot to take in, but PP is right, it's good that your daughter's told you.
Hopefully you'll be able to talk to her calmly,rationally and with a lot of love.

What does your DD want to do? Support her in her decision. It will be hard either way

She wants an abortion and she is about 19 weeks so need to act fast

You can only listen to your daughter and advise her. At least you are talking and confiding with each other. It is going to be very hard for you both. Good luck.

yikes, I can imagine your head is all over the place! Can we assume the father of the baby is the same age as your DD?

Are you in the UK? I would contact NUPAS asap to get confirmation of gestation if she’s not had a scan yet and to have counselling and to arrange things if she’s wants to go ahead.

It must be a lot to get your head around, is the father of the baby still around?

Really hope you have support yourself during this time.

Hopefully you can sort that out, poor kid must be scared to bits

Call BPAS right away and get some advice.

Not the place, stop it.

Wow, a whole six inches…..

All the best op.this can't be easy for either of you. Hope you manage to get the procedure done asap

If she doesn’t want to keep the baby then it’s best to abort at this point rather than put 2 people through the trauma for a lifetime knowing the other person is out there

Oh poor lass .

Thats tough news to handle on your own. I hope you and your daughter are OK,she's lucky she has you to confide in

Think what you're saying! The poor DD, already traumatised, would have to go to school pregnant, arrange for time off to give birth, and deal with a new trauma of giving up the baby - or changing her mind, keeping it, and having toddler responsibilities at peak exam season. And the OP would be living and supporting alongside all this.

Dear god
keep that crap to yourself
what a thing to say
the kid is 14 for crying out loud

Bless her, what a shock. Hope she is OK.

As a previous poster mentioned, contact BPAS. You’ll both need lots of support through this.
I’m so sorry for you both.

The child wants an abortion. That’s enough trauma for the poor girl to go through as it is! Are you seriously suggesting she also goes through child birth and then the pain of giving her baby away? Ridiculous.

If you don't agree with abortion don't have one but your "helpful" comments are not needed here.

I’m an adolescent social worker and adoption breakdown /numbers of adopted kids going into care at 14/15 are over represented

it’s a primal wound for both mother and child
one that is often never repaired

You think it's right to make a child go through pregnancy and giving birth when they don't want to??