DD is pregnant at 14

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Can’t believe I am writing this my DD is pregnant and she’s only 14. I’m shocked I posted on here for some support as I am a single parent and haven’t told anyone. My head is all over the place 😔

The misinformation is stating TOP is not possible. Factually incorrect. Misinformation

The NHS link specifically says there are no alternatives. So if anyone is sharing misinformation it's the NHS.

Because most abortion services in the UK are not provided by the NHS. They are provided by BPAS, NUPAS or Marie Stopes. Surgical abortion under general anesthetic is available up to 23 weeks, 6 days.

@ all the anti abortion people on this thread have some compassion on the op and her 14yo. She needs help and support not your opinions. Much better to start your own thread than derail someone elses.

By all means raise your issue via the nhs app.

I'm more concerned with the sentiment that the pregnancy be terminated and the 14 year old move on as if nothing has happened.

If this were my 14 year old, even if the pregnancy was terminated, I'd be concerned how it affects her after and what support she might need after the event. It's going to be traumatic and it's not terminate and move on. If the decision is to terminate, then there needs to be ongoing after care and support.

Why are you so fixated on the procedure? If the child doesn't have a termination at 20 weeks - and let's assume that this involves labour, although several posters have shown that it needn't - then she's going through full labour 20 weeks later, which will be far more disruptive to her life, far harder as a labour experience, to have a baby that she doesn't want, leaving her to choose between giving the baby up for adoption and keeping it against her will. If you think labour at 20 weeks which ends the pregnancy is traumatic, what do you think about the alternative in terms of trauma?

As I just posted above:
I'm more concerned with the sentiment that the pregnancy be terminated and the 14 year old move on as if nothing has happened.
If this were my 14 year old, even if the pregnancy was terminated, I'd be concerned how it affects her after and what support she might need after the event. It's going to be traumatic and it's not terminate and move on. If the decision is to terminate, then there needs to be ongoing after care and support.

Well done on your 5 babies. I managed my one and I'm pleased with him. I won't derail the thread.

No it is not easy at all!! I know.

Has the OP said that she doesn't think her child will need support after a termination?

Has any poster here said "oh, she should have a termination because it'll be really easy and she can just move on without any after-effects?"

I completely agree, but at 19weeks a decision has to be made very soon and there'll be plenty of time for support/counselling/discussing how this occurred afterwards.

No.

No. Not all YP or women will experience a longitudinal trauma. For most it’ll be an informed capacitous choice, and they’ll resume their life. This isn’t an inevitable catastrophic event. With support and recovery vast majority women will continue with work and or studies. TOP is a health intervention it is not an irrecoverable event. Let’s not catastrophise

What does T.O.P. stand for please?

Termination of pregnancy

T ermination
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P regnancy

here in Australia

Termination of pregnancy.

That's a good point; OP may well be able to make the appointment by phone tomorrow.

Of course, but adoption isn’t benign, it isn’t an easy solution

@darkenednights

it will still be far easier and less disruptive than giving birth.

@Inyournewdress

well, it is her daughters making tbf, hers and the co-creator of the foetus.

My goodness your poor daughter.
Well done to her for putting herself and her lift first hopefully the procedure will be smooth

Every child and parent’s worst nightmare. Sending love OP. Hope everything turns out ok x

A heartbreaking situation for DD & Mother to find themselves with, which ever direction they take it will live with them forever. I wish them both & the father a good outcome.