New neighbour is too much. What to do?

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Moved in 48 hours ago.

Knock on the door within 10 minutes of arriving with the first load of boxes.

Neighbour said (something along the lines of) ‘Hi! I’m Sue from Number 9. So where have you travelled from? Where are you working at the moment? Where’s the kids, do you have any?’

All asked within seconds of each other. Seemed quite intrusive for a first meeting.

I realised straight away that she’s not my immediate neighbour that’s attached to me because of the door number. I live in a semi detached, just one other house. She actually lives across the road, a little to the right. New build housing estate so all quite close

Anyway, we were pressed for time because of DS/DD so we had to get moving. 2 hours later, she knocks again saying she’s got pizzas on the way. And to pop round for a break

I politely said thank you but I couldn’t possibly, I desperately needed to get things finished for today. She said ‘Okay raised eyebrow. Suit yourself!’ And off she went.

That evening a piece of paper with the estate’s WhatsApp group number came through. I added myself. She then must’ve got my number from that and messaged me

She said ‘Getting you a moving in gift. Anything you fancy? Preferably Amazon! I’m a Prime girl me haha’

I politely declined and said we had all we needed, but she was too kind and thank you so much. She just blue ticked that

Hours later I waved to her with a smile, and she gave me a glare and ignored me. I was packing my boot up and she made me bloody jump! She asked me if I had anyone in my phone contacts that does plumbing. I said I didn’t. The said Oh. And then said ‘We help each other on this estate. That’s just how it is’

I’ve just had a delivery man turn up at my door with a bunch of flowers. With my name on.

5 mins later, a delivery man from somewhere else asking if I’d take in a parcel for her number?! Seems strange. Why didn’t he try a direct neighbour first?

My actual neighbours have just smiled a hello and that’s been that. They’re the complete opposite and seem a bit shy, thankfully!

Small estate of about 20 houses max I think. But everyone I’ve made eye contact with has just given a smile, maybe a friendly wave and hi. That’s it

Is she just overly nice and innocently overstepping the mark? Or is this going to bring an ongoing nightmare?

She's one of those people everyone wants to be best friends with.

Or so she thinks...

Gawd, send help! Lol

When we moved in the next door neighbours all came over at various times to introduce themselves - one ended up right in my kitchen at the back of the house with a bottle of champagne and a card.

She'll be dropping her kids off before you know it OP. After insisting on taking yours for a break first.

Nip it in the bud and if anyone pipes up that she might be lonely and to be kind..give them her address and they can take her on.

That is weird OP, way too much. That would freak me out and I am a very chatty open person.
Keep us in the loop with her craziness 🙏🤪🙈

Also if you don't reciprocate her fury will burn with the heat of a thousand suns.

I've met people like this before.

Yeah.. sort of seeing this already and I’ve just quite literally stepped foot inside the bloody house!

Blimey. She is well needy. A hello and/or a card is nice but that is full on wannabe stalker territory.

My new neighbours said hello as we were moving in only because they had just arrived home themselves. So it made sense to introduce themselves on the driveway; both sides are busy professionals. One side is noisier than the other aide who are quieter but generally they're fine.

Immediately unsubscribe from the What's App group, OP (I mean, why would you want to join anyway?).
Don't answer the door if you see the "enthusiastic" neighbour approaching.
Refuse all invitations.
If necessary, move again..... just in case you're being dragged into a cult!

Lmao I'd have been chuffed with an offer of pizza on moving day, I'd have bitten her hand off.

We've got one of these on our road too though, very full on, very determined to be The Most Popular. It gives peaked in highschool energy. We just killed her with kindness. Took about 6 months though so you're probably better off just being blunt with her honestly, as you have been.

This with clanging bells.

She's pissed off everyone else, has no actual mates, & is battening on to the noob. Rest of estate is watching with interest to see if she gets her hooks in, because they've aaaalll been there.

If you manage to keep batting her off, you'll be OK. Just be polite but just this side of chilly.

Delivery - if you've already taken it in, do nothing with it until she comes round, then hand it over on the door step & DO NOT INVITE HER IN.

It's basically the same rules as for vampires. Avoid eye contact & don't under any circumstances allow it over your threshold.

Yes, please do.

(Good luck in your new home).

No just mute it. Our local WhatsApp group is awful for creating vendettas and it'll be you if you're not in the group but you won't realise it.

Yep. Not a paranoid person but not being in the small estate WhatsApp group is going to be tricky I’d say

Brilliant!

Thankfully, she probably doesn’t have kids with her and if she does, they’re going to be adults

I would place her around age 60ish

This is my nightmare.

Try tactfully asking other neighbours about her, you'll soon get the measure of her.

You need to burn the new house down and move immediately

Genuinely I find our whatsapp for the road very helpful. But we are friendly without being intrusive.

You need to burn the new house down and move immediately

This is the only way.
And may I say I love your username.

So when you moving out.
She's way over the top as pp said nip in bud.

Oh god, I had a neighbour like this once.

I was a young single parent, she had kids my age and older.

She was a little overbearing but well meaning to start with, and then she became more and more intrusive.

I had the blinds in my kitchen half closed all the time, her husband would go out with the dog at 11 at night, if he saw me in the kitchen with a drink of anything she would be hammering in my door at 7am to make sure I wasn't hung over and could get the kids to school. She had zero reason to think I was drinking alcohol since it was a very rare occasion I did and I never had issue getting my kids to school.

She would tell me how she walked 4 miles a day with her kids, and did all these special magical things with them, when I met her kids it turns out they were in and out of Foster care because she was a shit mum who chose a succession of men over her kids.

One day she decided that my kids having cereal or toast in the morning wasn't good enough and did a meal plan for my household and just showed up with it, as if I was going to make pancakes, waffles and full on fry ups before school every day.

One day she came over with her daughter and told me that I could do with losing some weight (I was a size 12) so I could look like her daughter and offered me a photo of her daughter to put on my fridge to motivate me not to snack.

There were loads of other things she did, like borrow money and then buy me things she felt I needed rather than paying me back, it was such a weird dynamic.

After she called me fat I just stopped answering the door and hid from her, then moved 6 months later.

I think she sounds unwell tbh