New neighbour is too much. What to do?

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Moved in 48 hours ago.

Knock on the door within 10 minutes of arriving with the first load of boxes.

Neighbour said (something along the lines of) ‘Hi! I’m Sue from Number 9. So where have you travelled from? Where are you working at the moment? Where’s the kids, do you have any?’

All asked within seconds of each other. Seemed quite intrusive for a first meeting.

I realised straight away that she’s not my immediate neighbour that’s attached to me because of the door number. I live in a semi detached, just one other house. She actually lives across the road, a little to the right. New build housing estate so all quite close

Anyway, we were pressed for time because of DS/DD so we had to get moving. 2 hours later, she knocks again saying she’s got pizzas on the way. And to pop round for a break

I politely said thank you but I couldn’t possibly, I desperately needed to get things finished for today. She said ‘Okay raised eyebrow. Suit yourself!’ And off she went.

That evening a piece of paper with the estate’s WhatsApp group number came through. I added myself. She then must’ve got my number from that and messaged me

She said ‘Getting you a moving in gift. Anything you fancy? Preferably Amazon! I’m a Prime girl me haha’

I politely declined and said we had all we needed, but she was too kind and thank you so much. She just blue ticked that

Hours later I waved to her with a smile, and she gave me a glare and ignored me. I was packing my boot up and she made me bloody jump! She asked me if I had anyone in my phone contacts that does plumbing. I said I didn’t. The said Oh. And then said ‘We help each other on this estate. That’s just how it is’

I’ve just had a delivery man turn up at my door with a bunch of flowers. With my name on.

5 mins later, a delivery man from somewhere else asking if I’d take in a parcel for her number?! Seems strange. Why didn’t he try a direct neighbour first?

My actual neighbours have just smiled a hello and that’s been that. They’re the complete opposite and seem a bit shy, thankfully!

Small estate of about 20 houses max I think. But everyone I’ve made eye contact with has just given a smile, maybe a friendly wave and hi. That’s it

Is she just overly nice and innocently overstepping the mark? Or is this going to bring an ongoing nightmare?

Cracking up!

You know who'd be round in a shot!

A wide berth is needed until you find out more.

This made me crack up and then become quickly sober at your observance of People. Like. This.

And the malicious ones, they put you in a very dark place.

asking if I’d take in a parcel for her number?! Seems strange. Why didn’t he try a direct neighbour first?

Because all the other neighbours refuse to take parcels in for her after she's annoyed them in a similar way.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

She's a nutter, with no respect for other people's time or privacy. Narcissist, sociopath and attention seeker.

Yeah, she’s pissed off everyone else so she’s honing in on the new person. Keep your distance!

OMG, she brings back memories of my old nosy neighbour. I remember moving in just a few days before Christmas when she came by on Christmas Eve to invite me for drinks with the rest of the cul de sac. I politely turned down the invitation as I had prior plans that evening, which seemed to irritate her (I mean, it was Christmas eve FFS). Whenever I saw her, I would always stop to chat, but she always invited me into her home, which I refused due to a busy schedule and other commitments (she would keep there for hours otherwise). However, she always made me feel guilty for declining, to the extent that I began to avoid her (I would literally dash into my house whenever I spotted her) because I couldn't be bothered with the guilt trip. Although she was older, she had family (multiple grandchildren) who visited her daily, so she certainly wasn’t lonely. I also work full time and have my own life to manage.

There was an occasion when she knocked on my door 3 times in one day because a parcel meant for another neighbour was mistakenly delivered to me. Since I didn’t respond until her third visit, due to being in back to back meetings while working from home, she became quite annoyed with me. Essentially, she expected me to abandon everything and interrupt my meeting to pander to her! The icing on the cake was was when I visited the house after moving with my mum to sort out some things, and she casually said to my mum in front of me, "yeah she’s only been in my house once in 3 years." Like I owe her something…

Thankfully, I’ve moved to a different area where the neighbours seem normal, occasionally say hello but generally keep themselves to themselves 😂. You have my sympathies OP!

Oh dear lord - no, no and thrice no!!

You lost me at “gosh”.

Maybe we’ve finally got the answer to why he faked his own death!

Bit of an attention seeker wasn’t he.

Yes. I agree

And very lonely

But neither is your problem.

Never ever invite her in. 🥺

Earbuds in when she is around, if she goes to talk but your hand up to stop her, tap your ear, wave her away and pretend to be on a call. We have to wear earbuds when washing the car now to stop Manky Mike talking to us about the year he spend in the Amazon rain forest.

There is nothing nice about this woman's behaviour.

Or the Latter Day Saints crowd!

My mum had a neighbour like this. The best thing to do is be polite and friendly but never to do anything outside of chats over the fence.

I have been VERY lucky at the age go 48 to have only have direct neighbours a few times and we've lived in many houses but they've always been fantastic - they've all taken in a parcel or two until we've setup a box outside and we've taken theirs and they pretended not to hear our kids etc. This went on for three years and one night we heard them coughing in their master bedroom (right next to ours) and we realised how much noise they must have heard from ours (fairly enthusiastic jiggery pokery etc but we were never major loud as we normally had kids in the house) and a day of so later we mentioned the coughing as we genuinely thought there was something wrong and they were so embarrassed about it and still insisted they had never heard anything from our side - kids or dogs or anything else so we assumed they must have been deaf - they were a lot older than us - or just assumed they knew they were semi detached so expected noises. They were both retired teachers.

EDITED TO SAY - during covid our girls were back from Uni etc and there were 8 of us in the house full time and we were working from home and they made no complaints - I think genuinely it has to be give and take - we wouldn't have the kids piano/music practise out of usual hours etc and you've got to realise you're in a semi-detached house.

They had two weeks of workmen at one point and the drilling into walls and sanding of floors was SO BAD we used to go out in the day and they were so apologetic with wine and flowers etc we ended up feeling bad as it really is one of those things - but we did hire their guy afterwards to sand our parque flooring as we'd seen how good a job he'd done of theirs - it wasn't very noisy but the dust/mess was horrendous but it was beautiful once done.

Anyway - sorry - most neighbours can be lovely but yours OP seems batshit

Aww lookit the neighbour found the thread!

Back in the 60’s when I was a child we had one like this. Several children but always turned up at lunchtime to see what my mum had made for lunch. Highlight was her seeing my mother dishing up scoops of something using an ice cream scoop with our main dish and scuttling off to tell everyone we had ice cream with our meat and veg! It was mashed potato - no idea why my mother was using an ice cream scoop other than she had probably had it presented like that in a restaurant!

Trust your instincts OP

There's another thread at the mo by someone who's very offended as they posted a welcome card to their new neighbour who didn't say thank you... wondering if it's your stalker-neighbour!

This could turn into a nightmare. Cut her off quick. Rush out of the house with eyes down - always be too busy to talk. Do not let her in or answer door. Hopefully she'll get the message.