New neighbour is too much. What to do?

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Moved in 48 hours ago.

Knock on the door within 10 minutes of arriving with the first load of boxes.

Neighbour said (something along the lines of) ‘Hi! I’m Sue from Number 9. So where have you travelled from? Where are you working at the moment? Where’s the kids, do you have any?’

All asked within seconds of each other. Seemed quite intrusive for a first meeting.

I realised straight away that she’s not my immediate neighbour that’s attached to me because of the door number. I live in a semi detached, just one other house. She actually lives across the road, a little to the right. New build housing estate so all quite close

Anyway, we were pressed for time because of DS/DD so we had to get moving. 2 hours later, she knocks again saying she’s got pizzas on the way. And to pop round for a break

I politely said thank you but I couldn’t possibly, I desperately needed to get things finished for today. She said ‘Okay raised eyebrow. Suit yourself!’ And off she went.

That evening a piece of paper with the estate’s WhatsApp group number came through. I added myself. She then must’ve got my number from that and messaged me

She said ‘Getting you a moving in gift. Anything you fancy? Preferably Amazon! I’m a Prime girl me haha’

I politely declined and said we had all we needed, but she was too kind and thank you so much. She just blue ticked that

Hours later I waved to her with a smile, and she gave me a glare and ignored me. I was packing my boot up and she made me bloody jump! She asked me if I had anyone in my phone contacts that does plumbing. I said I didn’t. The said Oh. And then said ‘We help each other on this estate. That’s just how it is’

I’ve just had a delivery man turn up at my door with a bunch of flowers. With my name on.

5 mins later, a delivery man from somewhere else asking if I’d take in a parcel for her number?! Seems strange. Why didn’t he try a direct neighbour first?

My actual neighbours have just smiled a hello and that’s been that. They’re the complete opposite and seem a bit shy, thankfully!

Small estate of about 20 houses max I think. But everyone I’ve made eye contact with has just given a smile, maybe a friendly wave and hi. That’s it

Is she just overly nice and innocently overstepping the mark? Or is this going to bring an ongoing nightmare?

Bad/weird neighbours are the worst. Or does anyone have family of neighbours that are a pain. We’ve got the mother of our neighbour constantly telling us off, she’s awful!

I’d be wary of anyone ‘too much, too soon’ in any circumstance. I worked with a woman like this and she ended up making my life a misery when I did not react how she wanted to her smothering ways.

I seem to have been really unlucky with neighbours, or maybe there's just a lot of vile or weird (or both) people around.
Currently is the luckiest I've ever been with neighbours, they're all quiet and clean and leave me alone apart from pleasantries.

lol 😂
and spray her with garlic butter as an added deterrent

Woah! That sounds full on and not to mention suffocating, My neighbours are polite, maybe a quick wave and we take in packages for each other which is rarely anyway but that's the way I like it as I'm quite a private person, we do however keep an eye on each others properties if anyone goes on holiday and they would certainly help in an emergency as I would them, but I can't imagine being in a Whatsapp group with my neighbours, sounds like hell to me!

I would spend the next couple of weeks waiting to see if any other neighbours chat to you about her, because I doubt you're the only one who's suffered her attention. She sounds like the neighbour from hell, but she may just be lonely. However it's my experience that the people who doorstep you when you first move in are likely to be nosy and interfering (which you've already got!). She's being off with you now so that you'll try to be conciliatory which means she'll get the attention she wants. I'd be bright and breezy but block any further attempts on her part to be best friends.

I live the idea of posting a pic on the WhatsApp group of the flowers but I'd say that you / dc / dh / dcat/ pet mouse are allergic to pollen / flowers.
That way you stop anymore been delivered.

I get my shopping delivered and my next-door nighbour asked me what I was had ( absolutely nothing fancy ) and came out with ridiculous comments like
I have never tried that loaf of bread what's it like ( tescos own ) ,
I see you will be eating mince everyday this week ( 500g packet )
Are you having a party ? ( 1 frozen Hearty food pizza )
And other such rubbish .
I honestly wondered if I could get tesco to cover up the trays before the put them on my door step

I think this calls for grey-rocking. Sorry, you are going through this. It really sucks just moving into a new place and already having a nightmare neighbour

Are you quite well?!

I think the question is are you quite well? 😂 It was obviously a joke. Deary me...

I have a lovely NDN, big community person, volunteers, loads of friends.

She is great ( apart from the very scruffy house and her kids who don't go to school) - anyway, my goodness does she talk.

I can stand outside for two hours, fine sometimes - but not on a working day, when I've been out since 6.30am, making school visits, have had no lunch and arrive home at 15.00 with visit notes to write up.

I have taken to getting out of the car, with my mobile to my ear, as if I am in the middle of a work call!

A friendly wave and I am safely in the house!

I wouldn't want someone so oblivious to boundaries and social signals looking after my house!

Again, it was a joke...

Apologies: can never be sure here ….

She is overly annoying, not overly nice.
Hope you shake her off soon.

It makes me laugh when posters take obvious jokey posts, seriously.

Exactly! I bet she'd be going through draws and personal paperwork...

Oooh a neighbour like that would annoy the hell out of me, one neighbour we only exchange a few words with if we see them outside, the other we say hello and have chat over the fence and when her washing machine broke i let her use mine. We feed each others animals when we/they go away, in the 8 years we have been here she has only socialised with us once and that was cos her kids locked her out and we happened to be having dinner in the garden and my husband offered to share his wine with her (i don't drink).

I realised straight away that she’s not my immediate neighbour that’s attached to me because of the door number.

This bit made me smile - nothing gets past you OP!

Hm would make me suspicious, maybe there is some ongoing neighbour war and she is getting you onside quick smart.

This sounds like the start of a horror film…

She sounds completely deranged and is really overstepping boundaries. I would just be polite but keep your distance - she’s probably been like this with everyone.

Alarm bells !!!

"The neighbour opposite shouted that he'd get his chainsaw out at the cars sounding their horns at my removal van!"

And you thought "what a lovely person they are"??😮

You lost me at "estate WhatsApp group"

Fuck that 😂
Only one thing for it. Wig and fake nose/'tache every time you step out your front door.
If she says anything so "no, me no Susan, me no speak English" and scurry off lol

True, had a colleague who would latch onto new recruits so fast.

He was bad news but couldn't really warn people off him.

Those who got sucked in had to learn the hard way.

There's a reason such people don't want you to take your time getting to know them.