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My darling husband

337 replies

Stickygloop · 15/05/2025 16:38

He’s had a stroke following a number of open heart surgeries to repair and replace his heart valves. I can’t breathe, I overheard them say terminal stroke. I love him so much.

OP posts:
Dhama · 15/05/2025 22:29

I’m so unbelievably sorry. Thinking of you and sending love x

LadyLapsang · 15/05/2025 22:30

I am so sorry for your situation. If you are aged under 51, try contacting Windowed & Young for support. Thinking of you and your family.

Rosierambles · 15/05/2025 22:30

I'm so incredibly sorry. You aren't alone

LadyLapsang · 15/05/2025 22:31

Sorry, Widowed and young

BlondeFool · 15/05/2025 22:32

I’m so sorry 💐

butterfly0404 · 15/05/2025 22:33

Heartbreaking, I have no words that would offer any comfort to you OP.
I'll say a little prayer for you and your family in the hope his passing is peaceful. Life is so cruel sometimes 💔

BigHoops · 15/05/2025 22:40

I'm so sorry this is happening to you OP. Sending you love and the strength to get through this.

Numbersaremything · 15/05/2025 22:41

If your DH is in Southampton (using the cruise info) they are kind and caring. Thinking of you all

twilightermummy · 15/05/2025 22:43

I'm really sorry. Not only is it heartbreaking but you must feel absolutely overwhelmed. Just off a cruise to him being in the hospital and then on a train. I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your children.

I agree with an above poster that in grief people can take over (our half-brother who never saw our dad decided to take all of his shoes to the tip without saying a word for example). So, although you're in the midst of grief, you don't want any regrets later on. I'm sorry I can't word that as gently as I'd like.

Another thing, I was a couple of weeks off 30 when my dad passed suddenly. I read somewhere that it's even more traumatic for people under 30 to lose a parent. Of course, your children are so young so it's going to be a rough ride. I'd echo another poster about bereavement counselling. I'm only just getting therapy nearly ten years on and wish I'd sought it earlier.

Sending you love and light x

FagsMagsandBags · 15/05/2025 22:46

I'm sending internet love your way and I'm so sorry that this is happening to all of you. I'm glad you must be with family by now and that the hospital are making sure that you'll all be with him but I know that you must be feeling so much pain and nothing can make it all right. So, all I can say, is as others have. I'm so very sorry for all of you.

IWillJustSayThis · 15/05/2025 22:47

Gosh, I am so so sorry for you and all of your family. I cannot imagine the sadness, disbelief, loneliness and shock that you must be feeling. You'll be in my thoughts x

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 15/05/2025 22:48

💐

Minfilia · 15/05/2025 22:49

I’m so sorry. It’s not exactly the same, but it happened to my mum too when I was 29 and it hit me like a train, so I have some understanding. Sending you love and strength.

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 15/05/2025 22:51

@Stickygloop , my heart about broke for you when I read your post. I’m so very sorry for what you’re enduring. I’m really glad you had a lovely cruise with your dear husband and I hope you made some beautiful memories. Lean on your family, take strength from each other. Talk to your man, it is believed that hearing is the last sense to go. Say what you want to say, encourage your children to do the same. I really hope that the support that you have been shown here can help to hold you up even a tiny bit in this most difficult and painful time. Sending you love and strength. X

Silvers11 · 15/05/2025 23:00

I have no adequate words, but I am so, so sorry to read your posts. Hopefully you are now with your son and other family members and can take support from them. They will be as shocked as you are

Sending prayers and Many virtual hugs to you.

Fernticket · 15/05/2025 23:02

You and your family are in my thoughts and 🙏 OP. I am so so sorry. Sending you massive hugs.💙.

Clafoutie · 15/05/2025 23:03

Thinking of you OP. Another hand to hold here.

Evenstar · 15/05/2025 23:03

Keep posting here when you are able OP, I found the support here invaluable when my DH died suddenly at 45 almost 17 years ago. I found there were people here at all times of the day and at night when I was unable to sleep. I am also sending my prayers for strength for you and your family in the coming days.

SootysCaravan · 15/05/2025 23:04

I cannot imagine your pain but please know I will hold you, your DH and children in my thoughts. Wishing you strength ❤️

ChompandaGrazia · 15/05/2025 23:05

Oh my love. I can’t begin to imagine how dreadful this is. I have no words.

Clafoutie · 15/05/2025 23:08

SockHop · 15/05/2025 19:41

I’m so sorry op.
I lost my similar aged husband a few months ago - very suddenly and unexpectedly just like you. We have an 11 year old. Telling them was so tough. You are all in my thoughts right now.
if you want to make contact please DM me. I will keep an eye out for your posts. If I can be of any support or offer any advice I am here for you in solidarity.
Thinking of you.

I am very sorry to hear this @SockHop . You are very kind to the OP.

Gingernan · 15/05/2025 23:10

I'm so very sorry, you are in my thoughts xx

Littlemiracles232504 · 15/05/2025 23:10

@SockHopsorry for your loss 💐

Pebbles16 · 15/05/2025 23:13

@Stickygloop sending you love for your difficult time.

ChillWith · 15/05/2025 23:14

Sending love and strength,OP. What an absolutely awful situation and such a shock for you too.