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My darling husband

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Stickygloop · 15/05/2025 16:38

He’s had a stroke following a number of open heart surgeries to repair and replace his heart valves. I can’t breathe, I overheard them say terminal stroke. I love him so much.

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xmasdealhunter · 15/05/2025 16:39

I'm so sorry to hear this, OP. I don't know much about it at all but hopefully someone will be along who does. Keeping everything crossed that he's alright x

Queenage · 15/05/2025 16:39

I am so sorry, that must have been a shock. Do you have anyone with you? Sending hugs

DtotheOG · 15/05/2025 16:40

Here’s a hand hold xx

kwetu · 15/05/2025 16:41

I’m so sorry, handhold from me if you need it. Stay strong, it may not be as bad as you think. Bigs hugs 💐

MounjaroMounjaro · 15/05/2025 16:41

That must have been a terrible shock. I hope you get some better news soon. Do you have anyone there to support you?

spinningisthebest · 15/05/2025 16:41

I am so sorry. Sending a handhold.

EducatingArti · 15/05/2025 16:42

I am very sorry about this. My mum had a terminal stroke last month. If you do have anyone else who can be with you then please call them.

Lougle · 15/05/2025 16:42

@Stickygloop I'm so sorry that you overheard that. Do you have someone with you? The medical team need to update you, especially as you've heard something so difficult.

HeatwaveToNightshade · 15/05/2025 16:42

Oh no! I’m so sorry. But please don’t go by what you overheard. Try to find out some facts told straight to your face. What a horrible situation for youFlowers

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Stickygloop · 15/05/2025 16:43

I’m 4 hours from home, he was blue lighted to hospital after our return from a cruise. I’ve got on the train to go see my children - I can’t stop crying.

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chouxchoux · 15/05/2025 16:44

Bless you OP. I am so sorry.

ReignOfError · 15/05/2025 16:45

I’m so sorry. Sending a handhold for you.

GameOfJones · 15/05/2025 16:45

I am so sorry, I'm glad you will be with your children soon.

Bati · 15/05/2025 16:45

I am so sorry to hear this - massive hugs.
Please make sure someone is with you, especially if doctors want to talk to you.
I am currently going through similar with my mum, it's hard, my heart goes out to you x

Colleenhataris · 15/05/2025 16:46

I’m so sorry. Hope you have some support with you.

Yiayoula · 15/05/2025 16:47

Handhold from me too, sweetheart x

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 15/05/2025 16:53

Oh, op 🥺

I'm really sorry, how terrifying, especially as you're so far from home.

Mumsnet is great in situations like this, and we're here for a handhold, as a pp said.

Yeah, i think that you should speak to a doctor if possible and tell them what you've overheard. You will be okay, just one step at a time. ❤️

PurpleReindeer2 · 15/05/2025 16:57

So sorry OP. Do you have any support in real life? Hand hold from me x

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Stickygloop · 15/05/2025 16:58

I spoke to a doctor, he said he was sorry I overheard and it wasn’t what they had hoped for.

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MaidOfSteel · 15/05/2025 16:59

I’m so sorry, OP. Sending a hug. X

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 15/05/2025 17:01

I'm so sorry, OP. Flowers

Sallycinnamum · 15/05/2025 17:02

OP, my mum had a major stroke following emergency surgery 19 years ago.

Things looked very bleak for a long time but she made a remarkable recovery. Just wanted to give you a bit of hope.

Littlemiracles232504 · 15/05/2025 17:02

Sending you the biggest hug xxxx

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Isthisreasonable · 15/05/2025 17:12

Sending hugs. My DF had a massive stroke. If it's helpful this is how it progressed. They stopped food & water after 48 hours as there had been no improvement in his GCS score. They said it was difficult to predict how long it would take but they kept him comfortable. He eventually passed away a week after they withdrew food and water. I gather that this is the longer end of the spectrum, it might be much quicker. They did encourage us to keep talking to him as his hearing may have been one of the last things to go. Hopefully you will all get time to say whatever you want to say. Thinking of you.