My darling husband

[Stickygloop]

He’s had a stroke following a number of open heart surgeries to repair and replace his heart valves. I can’t breathe, I overheard them say terminal stroke. I love him so much.

So sorry to read this. Sending you warm thoughts and hope you get to your children quickly.

So sorry to hear this. I hope you get the support you need in real life.
xxx

This was our experience, his GCS was never above 6. We were desperate to understand what we should expect at the time and the staff were understandably reluctant to predict timescales.

Don't give up fighting. My mum had a catastrophic stroke a year ago. She can't speak or walk yet but she's getting better every day and flirts and laughs with all the medical staff.

Talk to him, sing to him, keep going. Dm me if you want to chat.

I am so sorry. Thinking of you, your husband, and your children.

This must be absolutely devastating for you. I am so sorry 💐

So sorry to hear of your very sad news, Hopefully together, you had wonderful moments on your cruise.
We always talked to our comatose patients as though they could hear every word, because well, you just never know. Every interaction was explained.

Be reassured the nursing staff will be talking to him in your absence so he wont be alone. 💐

Thinking of you and sending love. I hope that you're with your children now.

Oh my dear, I’m so sorry. Wishing you near your loved ones.

My Mother had a ‘terminal’ stroke and lived for 7 years afterwards albeit right side paralysed and non-verbal. She had lost some cognition too, but seemed to be content. If she had been fully cognisant then I think it would have been worse as she would have hated how she became. I know I shouldn’t say it but i wish she had died when she had the stroke as her quality of life wasn’t great and it affected my dad (her husband of 60 years) massively and he became ill too.

Anyway, I wish you and your husband all the best and send you these 💐

Handhold and hugs from me.
Look after yourself, and when you’re back at the hospital, talk to your husband, tell him everything that’s in your heart.
He will hear you.
Lots of love x

I suspect the reduced GCS meant he was unable to swallow and that’s why he didn’t get food or drink. I’m glad you felt your loved one received good care. I only picked up on your post because I was worried that people could think it was standard to withdraw food and drink from a dying person.

Oh you poor love, sending you hugs and a handhold 💐 I'm so sorry. I hope you get to sit with your dear husband, hold his hand and that you have support around you.

Sending you strength and peace. X

What an enormous shock you’re experiencing. Sorry to hear this.

Try and keep the lights off in his room and sounds peaceful as they will be unbearable for him at the moment. Remember, you’re stronger than you think. Sending strength x

OP I’m so sorry. I lost my husband - not to stroke but to a diagnosis of a terminal illness which took him ten days after diagnosis. It’s a massive shock - one minute everything’s fine and the next your life is changed for ever. Make sure you have friends or family around you for support and you’ll always find a handhold and someone to talk to here, so keep in touch. You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers.

I’m so sorry @Stickygloop keeping you and your family in my thoughts and giving you a hand hold.

I’m so very sorry to read this. I hope you are able to be with him. Is there any favourite music you can play for him (on your phone)?

I'm so sorry OP. Thinking of you and your family. Lean on those around you as much as you can x

I’m so sorry OP, how dreadful for you both. Sending you lots of good wishes & love. I hope your children (assuming they are adults) can be with you at the hospital xx

My son has just got off the phone with the doctor. The next steps are to let him pass with his family there. We will be travelling down in the morning x

So sorry to hear this, I hope there is consolation that you can support each other at this enormously difficult time 💐💐💐

I'm so sorry, sending lots of love.

I’m so sorry, what a shock it must be to you all. Sending the biggest hugs.

Oh @Stickygloop I hope you have comfort from your family.
Do you want to talk about your husband? Was the cruise wonderful for him? I hope he enjoyed it. I don't know if that's the right thing to say. I hope his love for you keeps you steady in hard times ahead.