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Ex partner leaves our autistic Teen son alone overnight

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NotallRainbowsandUnicorns · 13/04/2025 10:12

I've already looked up the law regarding this and there isn't actually any definitive law.

My son is only just 15,has autism but no learning disability.. He struggles with emotions, social difficulties and sensory processing. He has anxiety around school attendance though is fairly bright academically.

My ex partner, father of my 15 year old autistic son has started making a habit of leaving out son alone overnight on a Friday or Saturday night. This is the 3rd or 4th occasion.

Our son has been living with his dad for over and considers himself to be 'primary carer', meaning he provides a bed to sleep in and most meals. I do all the emotional support, take him places, try to give him a decent quality of life. The only thing I don't give right now is a bed. That does need to change and nee to decorate his room but on my own so I don't find it easy.

Before you suggest out son stays with my on those nights, he won't because his gaming pc is set up at his dad's and that's his ultimate enjoyment and finds it easier to socialise that way due to his autism.

I haven't mentioned anything to his Dad about him leaving him alone overnight.

What are your thoughts?

OP posts:
Wishyouwerehere50 · 19/04/2025 16:55

Muffinmam · 19/04/2025 16:47

Could you please clarify what you mean by this:-

“Or where OP is supported to get to a place she is able to have DS once a week on a Saturday night.”

Are you suggesting that a possible outcome is that the taxpayer funds the OP to stay in a hotel every Saturday night with her son so she doesn’t have to clear out her spare room?

This is utter madness to me. There are people who are homeless and the OP has a home with at least two bedrooms.

Is there anyone who works in social services or a council who would think that this is reasonable?

She means ' get to a place ' mentally, emotionally, where she has capacity to manage. This being the reason the son isn't living with her and why she is resisting rushing back in. Because, the son is clearly ' difficult'.

What is the deeper reason, the real reason that you're positively frothing over OPs situation and her posts?

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