Underwhelming Mothers Day area

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First of all I am married to a good, decent man who I love. He just is rubbish at organising anything

This morning I have got 2 cards and a box of maltesers . Better than nothing. No cup of tea made.

Just a bit of 'meh' TBH

Anyone else in the same boat?

My youngest got home from his dad’s with a small gift box of smellies I can use. No card. Eldest might have one when he gets in from work at midnight. But ex H has always been rubbish at buying presents

Been a single mum for many years. 3 Adult children. Eldest not a dickie bird, middle one a WhatsApp message. Youngest who still lives at home 2 cards. As if that wasn’t bad enough had a significant birthday last weekend and got diddly squat.

ive spent most of day crying and trying to second guess if they actively hate me or are just thoughtless 😢

Sorry OP I feel a bit underwhelmed today as well. DH has been away this week and I’ve been knackered on my own with the kids. No tea or breakfast in bed, came down to flowers (lovely) and a non Mother’s Day card hastily bought last night from the shop with a random pic of a beach (we don’t live near the beach or anything) that I have previously given to a colleague as a condolence card when their family member died.
No breakfast, DH did cook a roast but we take turns most Sundays anyway. Went for a walk and eldest DC was in a mood the whole time.
Maybe I am a princess and expecting too much but I give everything to my family and it’s made me feel very blah. Next year I am telling them exactly what I want!

My teenagers played some silly ball games with me in the garden this afternoon. Best present I could ever have.

Yes I keep seeing how Mother’s Day is made up but it’s a very old tradition. People who worked away had Mothering Sunday off so they could go home and visit their family - and yes, their mums - and attend their mother church.

We had a lovely Mothering Sunday church service today and everyone was given daffodils.

But I was cooking dinner for everyone tonight and thinking that I’d take up my AS’s suggestion and get a takeaway next year!

I went to the tip. And Wickes.

Dd was away. Back mid afternoon. When asked about it (by me,) said she'd been to busy to think about it. Eventually she decided that my mother's day gift was her coming home from weekend camp. Ds ignored it. When prompted, he said he tried to talk to his dad about it yesterday. (Dad unaware) And I did ask why, at 13 and with his own money, he was unable to walk to the shop and buy me a bar of chocolate.

DH happened to be in the supermarket this pm so bought a bottle of gin and some daffs for me.

I think I'm most pissed off about the lack of an apology when I said I was disappointed.

Words will be had.

Again, not just talking about the OP. There were plenty of posters just having a little moan that on the one day they should feel appreciated, they got nothing at all. Myself included. And I dont want anything as I'm not materialistic. Maybe stop generalising, and projecting. Absolutely nobody on this thread, including the OP - was acting anything like your mother by moaning they didn't get a spa day. You know absolutely nothing about anybody on this thread, yet you chose to seek this thread out to throw out random insults. Look at yourself.

Edit: quoted wrong post, sorry! Meant for abbygaby

My two made cards (age 7 and 9) and DH bought a nice sofa blanket for them to give me. The children said they weren't going to fight with eachother all day, and they didn't, and they asked DH to get their drinks and snacks all day instead of me.

So for those with teens that didn't really bother, are you going to tell them you're disappointed? I'm still cross with dd but not sure how to approach telling her without sounding moany and ungrateful for the lack of effort.

@Rowgtfc72 I would tell my teens that I was disappointed, otherwise the behaviour won't change. Mine were great yesterday but they were awful on the morning of my birthday a couple of years ago, and I told them how I felt- things have improved.

For everyone disappointed, it symbolises how their family makes them feel generally.
Taken for granted, unappreciated, unconsidered and it’s hurtful.
Most are not asking for anything much. Just a token message to say “we acknowledge you, love you and you mean a lot”

Change things from now. Stop doing everything for everyone. Start demanding everyone does some tasks.
At the same time, keep the connection with your kids strong. Do things with them but ask them to do things for you too. Just little things like draw you a picture if they’re young or make you a cup of tea if they’re older.
Get them to learn how it feels to do something for you. Most people feel good when they make someone else feel good.
Often, kids don’t even realise that their mum has emotions and needs so let them know your needs sometimes and if there’s a part they can play. You’re tired so could they help out, you have a headache, could they bring you some water, you feel sad so could they give you a cuddle.
Let them know you have feelings and expectations too.

I think it stings because we generally put in so much effort for kids birthdays and so our best to make them feel happy and loved. I can imagine my teen if on her birthday I chucked her a generic card and said I’m her gift.
im hoping it’s a phase and they grow out of it. Hopefully they model your efforts to them…eventually